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Anonymous wrote:Ok. Another perspective. Feel free to hate.

I am in my early/mid 50s. Went to an Ivy. Very successful. Am in good shape and good looking for my age. I am dating a 30 year old who has two kids, and is beautiful and was a physics major in college.

She isn’t dating me for money per se - she is dating me because I am a member of the upper class of this country. I’m smarter and more worldly than the guys she could date her age. I ski instead of snowboard and I have an important job. Unlike the poster above who claimed that the older men she would date exaggerative their money, I am not exaggerating.

Why should I feel compelled to date a 50 year old? I wasn’t looking for a 30 year old, it just happened. She’s beautiful and into me and I like being around her.

A 30yo single mother of two isn't the prize you think she is and she's absolutely with you for the money. She's dating you because men her age wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole.

She is dating you in hopes of giving her kids a better future. To be 30 with 2 kids and divorced is young. I don’t imagine she had much a career going on to have gotten such an early start with marriage and motherhood. You are her children’s college saving plan and their “in” at a good internship.

Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:A friend’s college aged kid goes to school in Miami. He said none of the best looking women stay on campus on Friday and Saturday nights because their peers can’t afford to take them out. They go into south beach to meet older men that can afford to buy them drinks and show them a good time.

Of course. They are low quality women, and more like their peers spotted them a mile away. South beach is a sleaze bucket and hanging out in bars will net a creepy old guy for sure. Especially in that neck of the woods!

Uh, no. I posted about the same thing happening in LA. We weren't low quality women. We went to a very expensive school that has a low acceptance rate. When we went out on the weekend, we met guys in their late twenties who paid for everything if we ended up dating any of them. We met older guys too, but nobody was interested in them. We got invited to house parties that were catered with bar tenders. When we hung out with guys our own age, we typically paid for ourselves. So, we did both. The only friend I had in college that was in an actual sugar baby arrangement with a much older man was a gay male who I suspect was working through some trouble, but I couldn't say for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

According to the posters on her, your gf must have self-esteem issues and is unable to make a sound decision on her own, and that's the only reason she's dating you.

She has high self-esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

According to the posters on her, your gf must have self-esteem issues and is unable to make a sound decision on her own, and that's the only reason she's dating you.

Anonymous wrote:Why should I feel guilty about being in love with a woman 30 years younger than me? And if that's truly wrong, tell me how to stop being in love with my much younger girlfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is exploiting young women for sex. Duh. How is this even a question? Sure they “consent” because they are young and have low self esteem. They think you really like them for their personality, their wit, their charm, and they are flattered. Plus they feel “grown up” to be taken to nicer restaurants, on nicer trips, etc.

I give the young women more credit than you. They know what's up. Older men are attracted to their youth, beauty and fertility (if they want kids). What's exploitative about a 25 year old, for whatever reason, dating a 40 or 45 year old guy? Most women wouldn't do it, but if she does, why judge? She can vote, fight in a war, buy a house, but she's being "exploited" if she dates someone more than 10 years her senior?

So what else can we not judge using this logic? Being a sex worker? You can *never* judge if both parties are consenting adults? Nah.

The question is why judge younger women and older men? Sex work, fetishes and other forms of sexual expression would seem to deserve a separate thread. I'm a man in his 50s and if I were to divorce I could not see myself dating someone younger than their 40s. But if another guy or a friend wants to, it would not be something that I would judge.

MYOB seems to be warranted here.

Then you can mind your business and I'll keep judging all of the above.

But why? Why judge a man for being with a younger woman, but not if he is with another man?

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is exploiting young women for sex. Duh. How is this even a question? Sure they “consent” because they are young and have low self esteem. They think you really like them for their personality, their wit, their charm, and they are flattered. Plus they feel “grown up” to be taken to nicer restaurants, on nicer trips, etc.

I give the young women more credit than you. They know what's up. Older men are attracted to their youth, beauty and fertility (if they want kids). What's exploitative about a 25 year old, for whatever reason, dating a 40 or 45 year old guy? Most women wouldn't do it, but if she does, why judge? She can vote, fight in a war, buy a house, but she's being "exploited" if she dates someone more than 10 years her senior?

So what else can we not judge using this logic? Being a sex worker? You can *never* judge if both parties are consenting adults? Nah.

The question is why judge younger women and older men? Sex work, fetishes and other forms of sexual expression would seem to deserve a separate thread. I'm a man in his 50s and if I were to divorce I could not see myself dating someone younger than their 40s. But if another guy or a friend wants to, it would not be something that I would judge.

MYOB seems to be warranted here.

Then you can mind your business and I'll keep judging all of the above.

But why? Why judge a man for being with a younger woman, but not if he is with another man?

How do you know the "lecherous old creep" wasn't born with an attraction to younger woman? What difference does someone being born a certain way or not matter? If a man, or a woman, decided to "experiment" with someone of the same sex but wasn't born that way, would it be fair game to shame them for such actions?

Why the hell would I judge someone for being born gay?!?!?! How offensive, to compare that to being an old lecherous creep.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is exploiting young women for sex. Duh. How is this even a question? Sure they “consent” because they are young and have low self esteem. They think you really like them for their personality, their wit, their charm, and they are flattered. Plus they feel “grown up” to be taken to nicer restaurants, on nicer trips, etc.

I give the young women more credit than you. They know what's up. Older men are attracted to their youth, beauty and fertility (if they want kids). What's exploitative about a 25 year old, for whatever reason, dating a 40 or 45 year old guy? Most women wouldn't do it, but if she does, why judge? She can vote, fight in a war, buy a house, but she's being "exploited" if she dates someone more than 10 years her senior?

So what else can we not judge using this logic? Being a sex worker? You can *never* judge if both parties are consenting adults? Nah.

The question is why judge younger women and older men? Sex work, fetishes and other forms of sexual expression would seem to deserve a separate thread. I'm a man in his 50s and if I were to divorce I could not see myself dating someone younger than their 40s. But if another guy or a friend wants to, it would not be something that I would judge.

MYOB seems to be warranted here.

Then you can mind your business and I'll keep judging all of the above.

But why? Why judge a man for being with a younger woman, but not if he is with another man?

How do you know the "lecherous old creep" wasn't born with an attraction to younger woman? What difference does someone being born a certain way or not matter? If a man, or a woman, decided to "experiment" with someone of the same sex but wasn't born that way, would it be fair game to shame them for such actions?

Why the hell would I judge someone for being born gay?!?!?! How offensive, to compare that to being an old lecherous creep.

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Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, it's because women are competing against other women for eligible men and all else being equal, younger people are more physically attractive.

Same reason the incel culture exists, because women can have sex easier than men and some men resent that fact.

Mature women aren't jealous of younger women being pursued by older men. They want to protect them.
We were those young women being pursued by predatory older men at one time.

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Anonymous wrote:Because it is exploiting young women for sex. Duh. How is this even a question? Sure they “consent” because they are young and have low self esteem. They think you really like them for their personality, their wit, their charm, and they are flattered. Plus they feel “grown up” to be taken to nicer restaurants, on nicer trips, etc.

I give the young women more credit than you. They know what's up. Older men are attracted to their youth, beauty and fertility (if they want kids). What's exploitative about a 25 year old, for whatever reason, dating a 40 or 45 year old guy? Most women wouldn't do it, but if she does, why judge? She can vote, fight in a war, buy a house, but she's being "exploited" if she dates someone more than 10 years her senior?

So what else can we not judge using this logic? Being a sex worker? You can *never* judge if both parties are consenting adults? Nah.

The question is why judge younger women and older men? Sex work, fetishes and other forms of sexual expression would seem to deserve a separate thread. I'm a man in his 50s and if I were to divorce I could not see myself dating someone younger than their 40s. But if another guy or a friend wants to, it would not be something that I would judge.

MYOB seems to be warranted here.

Then you can mind your business and I'll keep judging all of the above.

But why? Why judge a man for being with a younger woman, but not if he is with another man?

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

I really am although I know you wish that truth on me. Hence why I have no problem dating younger.

I wouldn't date a millionaire with a ten inch dick who writes "hence why".

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Anonymous wrote:Ok. Another perspective. Feel free to hate.

I am in my early/mid 50s. Went to an Ivy. Very successful. Am in good shape and good looking for my age. I am dating a 30 year old who has two kids, and is beautiful and was a physics major in college.

She isn’t dating me for money per se - she is dating me because I am a member of the upper class of this country. I’m smarter and more worldly than the guys she could date her age. I ski instead of snowboard and I have an important job. Unlike the poster above who claimed that the older men she would date exaggerative their money, I am not exaggerating.

Why should I feel compelled to date a 50 year old? I wasn’t looking for a 30 year old, it just happened. She’s beautiful and into me and I like being around her.

This is hilarious.

At 30 she's no dummy. Hope you're using birth control gramps, or got a vasectomy. My friends husband got his AP pregnant though she swore she was on the pill. He makes great money and she gets a nice check each month. At 30 it's about the lifestyle for her pp.

This is hardly unique to 30+ set. I know someone who, at 28, found himself on the business end of a paternity test by way of his 22 yr old girlfriend. One of my classmates in law school.

Are we supposed to be sympathetic to these men? Sex leads to pregnancy leads to a need for support. When you have sex this is always a risk, even if “she said she was on the pill.”