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Anonymous wrote:Big was a father figure to Carrie, who was abandoned by her own father, whereas Aidan was more of an equal partner. She wasn’t ready for that at the time. Seems like she is now. But her choices are coming back to bite her, because he made a life with someone else, and he’s committed to those kids above all else.

Maybe they’ll be able to rekindle things when the kids are older. But for now, she’ll have to accept that her inability to commit back then facilitated this new difficult ending.

You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.

I've never understood this saying. What is the point of having a cake if you can't eat it, and what cake are you supposed to be eating if not the one you have?

I've also never understood the deep hatred for Carrie and wish to see her punished. Like everyone who's ever not married the very first person they ever dated, you've sometimes been the one to hurt someone and sometimes been the one to be hurt, and the risk of trying to join a life with another person is that they may break your heart. Aiden and Carrie had a messy relationship but it certainly wasn't one in which she was an evil mastermind and he was some hapless naif. They tried - I feel like both of them tried. Messily, imperfectly, in good faith, they tried. And it just wasn't the right relationship at the right time.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone find Aiden's reaction over the top (the hysterical sobbing and saying "I should have been there.")? I'm divorced and have a 14 year old with disabilities that affect his behavior (mental health issues). I'm upset when things go wrong for him, and wish there were something I could do, but at the end of the day, I don't feel a lot of guilt - he's had a lot of love and support from both my ex and I, a lot of mental health treatment, and at the end of the day, he's going to have to work some of this out (or not).

It just didn't ring true to me, but I admit I may be biased by my own situation.

Has your 14 year old gotten drunk, stolen a car, run into a tree and ended up in the hospital with broken legs because he was upset you weren't there? I find Aiden super annoying in many ways - the hair, the coats, his attraction to Carrie, but I completely get his reaction to this.

I thought Carrie's reaction was typically selfish and unsympathetic - "bones heal"? - not particularly reassuring.

“Bones heal.” Was such a stupid un-empathic thing to say. I was half expecting her to ask when he’d be back.

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Anonymous wrote:I am confused about Che's career. Her show didn't get picked up by why does it seem like she is having to start all over again, wasn't she a successful comic before the show, hence why they wanted to make a show loosely based on her life?

Yeah, Che was definitely presented as a celebrity. More sloppy writing, but I guess it was more the headspace THEY were in after the pilot failed. Depression, lacking confidence and motivation, needing to make more money to pay the mortgage for an overly expensive apartment they were really not in a position to buy etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone find Aiden's reaction over the top (the hysterical sobbing and saying "I should have been there.")? I'm divorced and have a 14 year old with disabilities that affect his behavior (mental health issues). I'm upset when things go wrong for him, and wish there were something I could do, but at the end of the day, I don't feel a lot of guilt - he's had a lot of love and support from both my ex and I, a lot of mental health treatment, and at the end of the day, he's going to have to work some of this out (or not).

It just didn't ring true to me, but I admit I may be biased by my own situation.

Has your 14 year old gotten drunk, stolen a car, run into a tree and ended up in the hospital with broken legs because he was upset you weren't there? I find Aiden super annoying in many ways - the hair, the coats, his attraction to Carrie, but I completely get his reaction to this.

I thought Carrie's reaction was typically selfish and unsympathetic - "bones heal"? - not particularly reassuring.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel that Harry and Charlotte are being teed up to separate for sure. He cannot handle her new independence.

No, he’s being “teed up” to accept his new reality by recognizing how much he relied on Wifey/Mommy for so long and realizing that Charlotte now gets her time to be herself. He’s going to step up. He already is.

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Anonymous wrote:Big was a father figure to Carrie, who was abandoned by her own father, whereas Aidan was more of an equal partner. She wasn’t ready for that at the time. Seems like she is now. But her choices are coming back to bite her, because he made a life with someone else, and he’s committed to those kids above all else.

Maybe they’ll be able to rekindle things when the kids are older. But for now, she’ll have to accept that her inability to commit back then facilitated this new difficult ending.

You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.

I've never understood this saying. What is the point of having a cake if you can't eat it, and what cake are you supposed to be eating if not the one you have?

I've also never understood the deep hatred for Carrie and wish to see her punished. Like everyone who's ever not married the very first person they ever dated, you've sometimes been the one to hurt someone and sometimes been the one to be hurt, and the risk of trying to join a life with another person is that they may break your heart. Aiden and Carrie had a messy relationship but it certainly wasn't one in which she was an evil mastermind and he was some hapless naif. They tried - I feel like both of them tried. Messily, imperfectly, in good faith, they tried. And it just wasn't the right relationship at the right time.

Interesting. I like Carrie and didn’t mean to suggest this was her “punishment” for being a bad person. I do think she made a choice that is having some consequences. And so is he! He picked turning away from Carrie when she was having doubts and instead having 3 kids with someone else. So trying to make it all work now is just … complicated. I think whenever we say we can “have it all” we’re ignoring that there’s an upside and downside to every decision we made. You can’t have it all.

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Anonymous wrote:Big was a father figure to Carrie, who was abandoned by her own father, whereas Aidan was more of an equal partner. She wasn’t ready for that at the time. Seems like she is now. But her choices are coming back to bite her, because he made a life with someone else, and he’s committed to those kids above all else.

Maybe they’ll be able to rekindle things when the kids are older. But for now, she’ll have to accept that her inability to commit back then facilitated this new difficult ending.

You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.

I've never understood this saying. What is the point of having a cake if you can't eat it, and what cake are you supposed to be eating if not the one you have?

I've also never understood the deep hatred for Carrie and wish to see her punished. Like everyone who's ever not married the very first person they ever dated, you've sometimes been the one to hurt someone and sometimes been the one to be hurt, and the risk of trying to join a life with another person is that they may break your heart. Aiden and Carrie had a messy relationship but it certainly wasn't one in which she was an evil mastermind and he was some hapless naif. They tried - I feel like both of them tried. Messily, imperfectly, in good faith, they tried. And it just wasn't the right relationship at the right time.

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Anonymous wrote:Did anyone find Aiden's reaction over the top (the hysterical sobbing and saying "I should have been there.")? I'm divorced and have a 14 year old with disabilities that affect his behavior (mental health issues). I'm upset when things go wrong for him, and wish there were something I could do, but at the end of the day, I don't feel a lot of guilt - he's had a lot of love and support from both my ex and I, a lot of mental health treatment, and at the end of the day, he's going to have to work some of this out (or not).

It just didn't ring true to me, but I admit I may be biased by my own situation.

It’s hard for most people when they can’t be with their kids all the time, especially kids who really need both parents. I think that Aiden’s feelings of guilt and responsibility are completely normal. Divorce is hard, and clearly being away from his kids is hard on him.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel that Harry and Charlotte are being teed up to separate for sure. He cannot handle her new independence.

Yeah, no. They will go the distance. The current storyline is about gender roles in marriage, and what’s “fair.” They are readjusting, not imploding.

Agree. I love it whenever she speaks sternly to him about stepping up!

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Anonymous wrote:They should have had LTW get an abortion. Such a missed opportunity for meaningful storytelling, especially in the current political climate.

We already had two main characters—Carrie and Samantha—talk about their abortion experiences. We don’t need a third main character to go through that. I think a lot more women of LTW’s age related to getting unexpectedly pregnant at an advanced maternal age, feeling conflicted but deciding to keep it, then losing it. In fact, there have been numerous threads about that on DCUM.

It is probably the most realist outcome, at her age.

99% of unwanted pregnancies on TV shows magically end in miscarriage rather than abortion. It's such a cowardly and tired storyline.

Agree. That was especially weak for a show that’s been extra blatant about addressing all things gender.

An abortion or her having the baby with reservations and the impending doom on her life and career would have made more sense here.

You are crazy if you think a character played by a 52-year-old actress was not extremely likely to miscarry an unplanned pregnancy.

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Did anyone find Aiden's reaction over the top (the hysterical sobbing and saying "I should have been there.")? I'm divorced and have a 14 year old with disabilities that affect his behavior (mental health issues). I'm upset when things go wrong for him, and wish there were something I could do, but at the end of the day, I don't feel a lot of guilt - he's had a lot of love and support from both my ex and I, a lot of mental health treatment, and at the end of the day, he's going to have to work some of this out (or not).

It just didn't ring true to me, but I admit I may be biased by my own situation.


Has your 14 year old gotten drunk, stolen a car, run into a tree and ended up in the hospital with broken legs because he was upset you weren't there?

Not that exact behavior, but equivalent (or perhaps worse, but to law enforcement involvement and a push for involuntary commitment). As for his reasons for the behavior, sadly, I genuinely do not know - I strongly suspect it does not involve wishing I were there, which is its own separate issue.

Anyway, the difference may be that in my case it has been clear for a long time that something is very wrong. Perhaps for Aiden, because this is newer, the reaction does make sense. Thanks for the feedback.

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone find Aiden's reaction over the top (the hysterical sobbing and saying "I should have been there.")? I'm divorced and have a 14 year old with disabilities that affect his behavior (mental health issues). I'm upset when things go wrong for him, and wish there were something I could do, but at the end of the day, I don't feel a lot of guilt - he's had a lot of love and support from both my ex and I, a lot of mental health treatment, and at the end of the day, he's going to have to work some of this out (or not).

It just didn't ring true to me, but I admit I may be biased by my own situation.