Anonymous wrote:OMG I adored this thread the first time again, and I'm loving the trip down memory lane. Thank you for resurrecting it, whoever you are!

+1 and people- it's from 2018. Please don't try to offer advice to the OP.
But feel free to join the rest of us cacklers when we talk about "delicious drinks" and "washing down food". Those are now DCUM inside jokes.

Anonymous wrote:You say “thank you.” That’s what you do.

With grace.

A concept foreign to OP.

You say “thank you.” That’s what you do.

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you pick up a water glass, walk to the sink and fill it?

I usually have a pitcher of water and iced tea out and some LaCroixs, but I make sure to tell people to get whatever they want. Hostesses get busy and distracted, and while I try to keep people in appropriate drinks I really appreciate when people grab what they need instead of waiting for me to notice. I am usually trying to finish the meal, make sure the kids are properly entertained and being kind, making chitchat and otherwise pulled in a dozen directions.

Self help seems like the thing to do.

Agree. Putting water glasses out and then forgetting to fill them sounds like something I would totally do. It has to be done at the last minute, and it's easy to get distracted when you're putting the final touches on dinner. It is something that my DH would normally do, if he notices, but sometimes he forgets, as well. I'd be happy if a guest noticed I forgot and offered to fill them for me.

I also think there's a distinction between the cocktail hour and dinner. I usually keep a drinks fridge full of different types of soft drinks in our bar area and tell guests to help themselves during the cocktail hour. Bring it to the dinner table if you like, but I'm not going to have a pitcher of lemonade or punch ready for the dinner table. That just seems kind of -- juvenile, for lack of a better word.

Are you a child? Who can't go a couple of hours without a liquid? Just shut up, eat, thank the hosts, and go home. Stop at a convenience store on the way back for a Fiji if you're that hard up for good water.

i would be little disappointed as with a dinner I would like something other than water, but its not the end of the world I would just get /ask for a glass and fill it up with tap water.
That's it no biggie.

You shouldn't go to other people's houses for dinner if you're going to complain about everything.