Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 16:37     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
OP here. Really bummed that my thread has been derailed this way. If you want to debate the evils of stripping and the sex industry, please start your own thread. (Or was that what the "DS is dating a stripper" thread was supposed to serve as?)
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:32     Subject: Re:I'm a stripper. AMA.
I've found this thread to be really informative and thank you, OP, for putting yourself out there with this.

Are lap dances the "money maker" or simply the dancing part? Did you learn how to do your body and face makeup on the job? Are there people there that help you with it?

How much is the cost of the job outside of the club fees? Wigs, make-up, shoes, outfits, that sort of thing.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:26     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:You are a class act, op, as the dcum judges attempt to eat you alive. Wtg


It helps to have supporters like you! I suspect it's judge, singular, pissed because he can't get a rise out of me.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:15     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
You are a class act, op, as the dcum judges attempt to eat you alive. Wtg
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:06     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The person(s) who is slut shaming OP: Where is your tirade against the demand? Where are your words for the men who pay to look at naked women?


To the PP, I hope your children date strippers. And men who go to stripper clubs are low life too.


Well, if my children dated someone like OP, I'd be OK with that. Because most people judge folks on character, not what they do for a living.


Word. I'd rather my son date a stripper than someone who works for big oil and facilitates fracking, just to give one example.


hahahahahahaha. go ahead. This is hilarious. OP's willingness to strip instead of find any other job in the quest for easy money is a clear judge of her character.


If you took the time to read this thread instead of judge me, PP, maybe you would see why I'm doing this job.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:05     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:Former stripper here and a new poster on this thread. I worked as a dancer (that was job title on contract lol) in several states over the course of 14 years. For me it was a positive experience in every way. I only recall a couple of girls who did prostitution on the side. This was and still is illegal - those girls were fired when management caught on to them. For what it is worth, both of these girls were from countries where prostitution is very common and apparently more socially acceptable. But the vast majority of strippers that i worked with were strictly business - not drug addicts or prostitutes. The stereotypical hard-partying promiscuous girls is no more common among strippers than on a college campus. Sorry but it's true as my OP sister can probably attest.
My customers were generally respectful, kind and harmless. Of course a creep here and there - again just like the general population. well, i don't want to hijack this thing just thought i would chime in. Not sure we are changing anyone's opinions on here but it is an interesting thread thanks OP!


Thank you so much for your perspective! I started this AMA because I just wanted to show DCUM-land that we are people too, with our own experiences, thoughts, perspectives, and complexities. I think it's easy to imagine this world as so big and bad, but in reality it - like anything else - has it's good sides and bad sides. Thanks again for your contribution, sis.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:02     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:OP, you mentioned that this work has set you back in your progress in dealing with your sexual abuse as a child. That is the concern I have for you, and for any woman who does this. I think it's ultimately harmful to you to offer yourself as a piece of meat for men to devour, even if it's just with their eyes. I've worked closely with sex addicts, who make up a good portion of strip club regulars, and the way they look at women is as specific body parts, exactly the way we look at a steak. The problem with this is that while the steak is no longer attached to a living being, your body parts are. So you are continuing to allow yourself to be dehumanized by men. Your rationale is very sensible--it's good money. But I do think the cost is very great for you, more than you currently can see. I wish you the best.


I appreciate your perspective. As I've stated, this is not something I intend to do for the long term and I am aware of the risks of this industry.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 15:00     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP. Has anyone asked how the club prevents people from taking cell phone photos and videos?


Yes, I don't know what page it's on but I answered this at length!
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:59     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:Holy trolling! Can we just agree to ignore that poster and continue this thread?

Are you treated with respect by the majority of your patrons? What happens when one gets out of line with his words?


Yes, I wish this troll would go away! I was impressed with the respectful, mature discourse going on until this wet blanket showed up.

I am treated with respect by almost all patrons. I work in a more exclusive club (dress code strictly enforced, and we cater to an upscale clientele) so I don't have to deal with a lot of the BS I know dancers in other environments do.

I'm a skilled conversationalist and change the subject or tone of a conversation gracefully if things start to go south or become uncomfortable. I've never had an all-out confrontation with a client, but I have had to politely walk away when a person (usually having had one too many) can't take the hint.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:54     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you all for defending me against the creepy, misogynistic troll!


Everyone who disagrees with you is not a troll dear.

PS a stripper has no moral authority to call other people creepy


Don't discount my humanity because of what I do for a living. Prisoners, the homeless, prostitutes and, yes, strippers are still people.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:51     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
I think it's just one obsessed poster who's going on and on about strippers. Ignoring would be best. Whoever cares enough to write 10 responses in a few minutes isn't going to be swayed or informed.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:33     Subject: Re:I'm a stripper. AMA.
Some of these responds are awful. When I entered my Masters program at 21, there were only 2 other 21 year old students. The rest were a lot older, so the three of us became friends. Halfway through the first year, one of my friends told me she was a topless dancer at a club. I was shocked because she was so painfully shy. She did it because the hours worked with the class schedule and because she made so much more money than working at a restaurant or retail. She didn't want to start her life owing tons of money for student loans. That was it, I never judged her and neither did our other friend. No biggie. She is a top executive now, she was very driven and super smart.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:17     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
folks, why are you engaging the troll and not reporting the posts to have them removed?

--an early-page pp who is sad a good thread went off the rails.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 14:17     Subject: I'm a stripper. AMA.
1. When i see a hot young woman working at Walmart i want to say "you know if you are desperate for money you might want to consider stripping."
JK. Well ... Sort of.

2. There are lots of strippers who do not have any physical contact with customers. Since "rubbing genitalia" on men is not allowed in many clubs, women can do what they are comfortable with as far as stripping - and trust me they all make $$$.

3. If you have a moral objection to what someone does for a living and it does not impact you STFU or maybe offer to pay the person's bills if it bugs you so much.

4. Weird parallel between this thread those vicious SAHM vs WOHM threads ... Anyone else notice this?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 13:57     Subject: Re:I'm a stripper. AMA.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If OP needed the money desperately, she could have worked at Walmart, Starbucks, become a cleaning lady, become an uber driver, become a janitor, work in retail. She chose to be a stripper.


Yes, she did. Your point?


you know what my point is. good luck defending strippers. I'm off to be productive.


Guess what. She doesn't need me defending her any more than she needs your approval. Kind of like asking for approval from a bag of dirt, but you get my point. P.S. Good example by the way. I would in fact prefer anyone I know dating a stripper than ever working for Walmart.