Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

eh, Op knows that she's fooling around with a married man and disrespecting his wife and his marriage in the process. It is not Op's job to hold that marriage together but certainly Op can control whether or not she is an active participant in its destruction. No illicit affair is worth the cost of your own integrity.

or, in Maryland legal terminology, alienation of affection).

When I went to law school, alienation of affection was a reason in common law to sue the "other woman/man" for alienating or taking away the love of the spouse. It does not refer to the wronged spouse, but rather the one who "stole" the adulterous spouse.

OP - forget the slamming posts. I've got a couple I'm sincerely interested in:

1. Does your guy pay for your apartment? How does that work - does he write you a check or send it directly to the apt. complex?

2. When he bought you your car, did he go with you to the dealership? Did he act like you're buying it (you know, so you wouldn't by a Ferrari or something like that) and then when you picked it out he said, I'll get this. Again - how were the logistics - did he pay the dealership directly? is it a loan with monthly payments that he pays for?

3. Does his wife know you? If so, how?

4. When you go out, do you have to be discreet? (sit in back corner or restaurant, go to out-of-the way places, etc.) or is he not too worried about being seen?


Thanks!

Anonymous wrote:Guys, she's not answering any tough questions. Let's let this die.

It is not the guys who are feeling insecure and want details here.

I wish my husband was rich enough to keep a "kept woman" on the side. Then maybe he wouldn't pester me 2 to 3 times a f'n day for sex.

Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

Um no, it is his wife who forced his hand through her frigidity. She's the one at fault and who should seek professional help.

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Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

Wasn't OP. But sexual deprivation (which is spousal abuse) would explain why DH is doing this to his wife.

Oh, that's alright, then. A very mature way to solve the problem!

I won't comment on whether it is mature or not.

But it is effective.

And it is effectively what his SAHM wife forced him to do through sexual deprivation (or, in Maryland legal terminology, alienation of affection).

Anonymous wrote:If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

I agree that the guy is more to blame in this situation, but bad karma is not to be denied. Do you worry about karma, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:-If you eventually fall in love with a man (assuming you are straight) and marry him, how would you feel if he had a kept woman on the side?

-How will you explain the gap between when you graduated and when you will need to apply for jobs? (You cannot count on working for your friend).

-What is your relationship with your father like?

Yes, I'm straight. I would be upset if I married a man who has someone on the side. I would do all I could to make sure he was getting everything he wanted in a relationship from me. If I accept a job with my friend, then I am confident she'll accept the experience I've gotten from working with her. My relationship with both my parents is fine. We talk once a week, visit 2-4 times a year.

Well, that's no guarantee your husband would be faithful! And you can't count on your friend hiring you. And you shouldn't work for friends.

If you weren't with a married man, I'd say hey, good for you but since you are.....not right. I'm not puritanical, religious or any other term people who excuse cheating like to throw but being involved with someone who is in a relationship with another person and that other person doesn't know is wrong.

BUT....I don't think you're a home wrecker. Your trashy slore of a sugar daddy is the one who is wrecking the home.

Ok, I have one. OP, why did you start this thread? Did you think it would be therapeutic? Are you performing a public service? What motivates one to decide they want to be asked questions about their life choices?

This thread might as well have been started by a talking washcloth from the other thread. Disgusting.

Who feels that people are bashing the op? She posted this opening herself up to all questions and judgment. Most posters are curious, very few calling her a whore or whatever you said. What did the op think she was going to get in a forum with the word "mom" in it? You thought people would sympathize with her? Ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else wonder if OP is the wife trying to expose her husband?

Oh, I see we are moving past the "you should be ashamed of yourself" phase, and into the "what are her secret motives/ she is a fake" phase of the discussion. It usually happens on these threads when someone cannot be made to feel sorry for her crimes.

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