A friend of mine is adopting an infant and she is 48. Her husband is over 50. I'm trying to be supportive and I know this is not unheard of. But I'm a little concerned.

Nope. Had my second at 40. However, I do have less energy. So, I would recommend that take care of your health and workout.

Every woman needs to workout because there is no way you can do all that you need to do, without taking care of your body and health. I put myself last but that was a shortsighted strategy and I am paying the price now.

Getting fit yourself should be the first thing you need to do - if you love your family. This is not vanity. This is medicine.

Too old for me. I'll be 47 and both my children will be college aged.

Anonymous wrote:Not at all! Had my only DC at 42. Like a lot of area folks, I was busy building up my career. This was an IVF pregnancy, as is the case for many/most women who are TTC in their 40s.

Me too. Same scenario. WIsh I could have had another but the one I have is VERY special! 2nd IVF. Had her 3 weeks shy of age 44. My miracle.

Anonymous wrote:i did it and i'm now 51 and feel great...would i do it again... no ma'am.

... recap, it was my first and i had no problem getting pregnant...when the Lord saw fit for us to concieve...i was 41, retired and having a great time. now she's keeping us young and enjoying life....this is your decision, not the opinion of others...ask the Lord!

i did it and i'm now 51 and feel great...would i do it again... no ma'am.

I know multiple women who have had kids in their early/mid 40s. But it wasn't their first.

Not at all! Had my only DC at 42. Like a lot of area folks, I was busy building up my career. This was an IVF pregnancy, as is the case for many/most women who are TTC in their 40s.

11:26, you are in DC, you will have plenty of company with the older mothers.

Of course not! these days 41 is young!

Do what ever you feel is good for you as long as your happy at any age

11:26 let us know what you decide!

Had my first and only at 22 but I am now thinking about having my second at 41 .. I've always thought having a baby in your 40's was not a wise decision .. (to put it mildly) but now I find myself thinking about it and I NEVER wanted any more children .. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I am now with someone that Im really in love with and that can change EVERYTHING .. Im really just pondering the idea
for right now but I need to hurry up and make a decision because Im not getting any younger! Everyone says I look 28 or 29 and I have Alot of energy and Im in pretty good shape but the fact remains Im STILL 41 so I have Alot to think about ...

Anonymous wrote:Sorry about your m/c OP. Hope all is going well! I'm 39 and getting ready to have my 2nd, with plans for a 3rd in a few years, and not ruling out a 4th. My mom had me at 40 in 1974, and I turned out perfectly normal.

I am in the same boat, 74 born, had my first six years ago, feel too old for my second, though would love to. Thanks for the inspiration

Have been trying since the week before I turned 41. Got pregnant but miscarried at 10 weeks. Trying again now.