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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Nobody on here ever claimed or believe their entire existence is around sex. You are the one claiming that.

They do act like it is though and you know it. Are you triggered?

No we don’t act like sex is the only thing that matters to us. What we claim is sex is a very important part of a marriage along with many other things.

PP literally said it's the most important part of marriage. You know you can just read the thread.

No, it's not even the top 5 considering health, finances, your children, etc. Yes it's important, but many top sex.

Communication, and compromise are important too.

I mean, either it’s important to the marriage and you treat it that way, or it’s not and you don’t pretend to be offended when your partner steps out.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Nobody on here ever claimed or believe their entire existence is around sex. You are the one claiming that.

They do act like it is though and you know it. Are you triggered?

No we don’t act like sex is the only thing that matters to us. What we claim is sex is a very important part of a marriage along with many other things.

PP literally said it's the most important part of marriage. You know you can just read the thread.

No, it's not even the top 5 considering health, finances, your children, etc. Yes it's important, but many top sex.

Communication, and compromise are important too.

I mean, either it’s important to the marriage and you treat it that way, or it’s not and you don’t pretend to be offended when your partner steps out.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Nobody on here ever claimed or believe their entire existence is around sex. You are the one claiming that.

They do act like it is though and you know it. Are you triggered?

No we don’t act like sex is the only thing that matters to us. What we claim is sex is a very important part of a marriage along with many other things.

PP literally said it's the most important part of marriage. You know you can just read the thread.

No, it's not even the top 5 considering health, finances, your children, etc. Yes it's important, but many top sex.

Communication, and compromise are important too.

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Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage are quite common (about 20% of long term marriages) and lots of guys stay in them. Some of them are sexless because of the guy, but most are sexless because of the woman.

As people age I'm sure it's both. Maturity kicks in along the way and many couples realize other things take precedence over sex.

Really, young people choosing marriage should understand this going in. If the only thing powering your relationship is something you know is highly likely to go away before "death do you part" then you really need to reconsider whether you have a solid enough relationship for marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Sex is absolutely the most important part of a marriage. It is the core part of the human experience. I'm sorry that you don't feel that way.

Some of us think love is the core part of the human experience.

And some of us haven’t completely separated the two of our heads. If you read Helen Fischer’s work, you will find that LOVE hormones get released during sex as well as hugging, breastfeeding etc. I happen to express love through physical contact and I feel loved when DH have sex regularly. Of course if he simply couldn’t do it for some reason, I wouldn’t leave but if he WOULDN’T, I’d feel very lonely and unloved and I’d probably consider whether our love was as solid as I’d thought.

Shaming people because they find sex to be a core way people who love each other communicate is not the flex you think it is.

Yes, I feel this way too. Also I agree with the poster who says that sex is the most important part of marriage. Everything else I can get outside of the marriage… Emotional support, companionship, friendship,… even massages just to feel touch. Anything I need except for sex.

Although yes, I won’t technically die without sex, not having it, especially when I’m spending so much time with someone who is supposed to love me, has an effect on my emotions, mood, self-esteem, everything. For them to turn around and say, just because I’m not that interested, you should suffer, does not feel like love. The only things that put a dent in this feeling have been being in the pill (ironically) and actually being pregnant or breast-feeding. During my pregnant and breast-feeding years… when DH was still higher drive, I put out a lot more than I really had desire to. I took one for the team many nights, so to speak. Because I understood how important it was. It’s hurtful that the favor is not being returned.

Sex is the easiest thing to get outside of marriage. The other things, not easily.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Nobody on here ever claimed or believe their entire existence is around sex. You are the one claiming that.

They do act like it is though and you know it. Are you triggered?

No we don’t act like sex is the only thing that matters to us. What we claim is sex is a very important part of a marriage along with many other things.

PP literally said it's the most important part of marriage. You know you can just read the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

Maybe her xh is better off, but her kids sure aren't. Which kind of circles back around to maybe thinking that discreetly going outside the marriage isn't as awful as you think. If one of my parents had an affair, I would rather they work on the relationship than call it quits. Being a teen was hard enough.

My kids are and were fine. I waited until the youngest was an adult before I left my husband. He's fine too, and I'm fine. Worry about yourself! Jeez, the assumptions people make!

I thought you weren’t participating.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

Maybe her xh is better off, but her kids sure aren't. Which kind of circles back around to maybe thinking that discreetly going outside the marriage isn't as awful as you think. If one of my parents had an affair, I would rather they work on the relationship than call it quits. Being a teen was hard enough.

My kids are and were fine. I waited until the youngest was an adult before I left my husband. He's fine too, and I'm fine. Worry about yourself! Jeez, the assumptions people make!

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

Maybe her xh is better off, but her kids sure aren't. Which kind of circles back around to maybe thinking that discreetly going outside the marriage isn't as awful as you think. If one of my parents had an affair, I would rather they work on the relationship than call it quits. Being a teen was hard enough.

My kids are and were fine. I waited until the youngest was an adult before I left my husband. He's fine too, and I'm fine. Worry about yourself! Jeez, the assumptions people make!

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

Maybe her xh is better off, but her kids sure aren't. Which kind of circles back around to maybe thinking that discreetly going outside the marriage isn't as awful as you think. If one of my parents had an affair, I would rather they work on the relationship than call it quits. Being a teen was hard enough.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

Maybe her xh is better off, but her kids sure aren't. Which kind of circles back around to maybe thinking that discreetly going outside the marriage isn't as awful as you think. If one of my parents had an affair, I would rather they work on the relationship than call it quits. Being a teen was hard enough.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Sex is absolutely the most important part of a marriage. It is the core part of the human experience. I'm sorry that you don't feel that way.

Some of us think love is the core part of the human experience.

And some of us haven’t completely separated the two of our heads. If you read Helen Fischer’s work, you will find that LOVE hormones get released during sex as well as hugging, breastfeeding etc. I happen to express love through physical contact and I feel loved when DH have sex regularly. Of course if he simply couldn’t do it for some reason, I wouldn’t leave but if he WOULDN’T, I’d feel very lonely and unloved and I’d probably consider whether our love was as solid as I’d thought.

Shaming people because they find sex to be a core way people who love each other communicate is not the flex you think it is.

Nobody is shaming you but it’s not the core way you feel love. It’s one way and it’s a way you put too much emphasis on probably due to some lacking in intimacy in childhood or friendships. But if sex is your core way to get live it’s not normal

Of course it’s normal within a romantic relationship. I had a great childhood but thanks for your armchair psychotherapy!

No it’s not normal if it is the CORE way. If it’s one way it’s normal, but if you can’t have an intimate living relationship it’s not normal.

Many people are not normal and that’s fine , but it’s just not.

I’m sorry you can’t find intimate living relationships without sex.

You’re arguing with yourself or you’re purposely misinterpreting what’s been written. Either way, I’m not interested in participating.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a core group of men and women on this forum whose entire existence is around sex. I really hate then. Everything about them is sex sex sex. I don't know if they are this way because they are in a sexless marriage, or they are sex addict, or just mentally ill. Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Sex is absolutely the most important part of a marriage. It is the core part of the human experience. I'm sorry that you don't feel that way.

Some of us think love is the core part of the human experience.

And some of us haven’t completely separated the two of our heads. If you read Helen Fischer’s work, you will find that LOVE hormones get released during sex as well as hugging, breastfeeding etc. I happen to express love through physical contact and I feel loved when DH have sex regularly. Of course if he simply couldn’t do it for some reason, I wouldn’t leave but if he WOULDN’T, I’d feel very lonely and unloved and I’d probably consider whether our love was as solid as I’d thought.

Shaming people because they find sex to be a core way people who love each other communicate is not the flex you think it is.

Nobody is shaming you but it’s not the core way you feel love. It’s one way and it’s a way you put too much emphasis on probably due to some lacking in intimacy in childhood or friendships. But if sex is your core way to get live it’s not normal

Of course it’s normal within a romantic relationship. I had a great childhood but thanks for your armchair psychotherapy!

No it’s not normal if it is the CORE way. If it’s one way it’s normal, but if you can’t have an intimate living relationship it’s not normal.

Many people are not normal and that’s fine , but it’s just not.

I’m sorry you can’t find intimate living relationships without sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.

“Get that from”?

It’s what the whole thread is about .., would u dump your spouse after an accident that left them unable to have sex.

I’m sure your sh is better off.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been on this forum for years and not much has changed as far as the folks who put sex above everything else.

I am 70 and I am sure there are other 70 years old who have the libido of 20 years and good for them
For some us we can go on months without the need sex and we are still in loving relationship. Perhaps that's a hard thing to understand for some of you.

I am also 70 and a woman. When I am not in a relationship I can go long periods of time without sex with another person with no stress about it. But when I am in a relationship with someone I love and desire I want it all the time, like everyday. No post menopausal dryness going on here either! We're all different at all ages.

Want and need is different.

If you’d dump your 70 yo H (which you clearly don’t have) cause he’s unable that’s just crappy.

Don't know where you got that from. I wouldn't do that. I dumped my 48 yr old husband because he wasn't into sex at all at that point but we're still friends. I'd rather be single at this point in my life. Seems like there's lots more sex involved.