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Anonymous wrote:If I know I’m going to be at someone’s house for a while, I bring my indoor-only slippers. I get to be comfy and also respectful of their home!

I would never presume that it’s okay to leave my shoes on. I like things clean myself and it’s hard to imagine how often you’d have to clean floors if you were tracking in all the yuck from outside every day.

But it's not every day. It's one party.

No one is saying not to be shoes free most days. They are just saying that if you're hosting a large party, then loosen up the rules and clean up after.

No. Many people are saying they have rare foot problems and have medical grade shoes prescribed by a doctor that never come off their feet. That’s what’s uncommon. Not shoes off.

Plantar fasciitis, arthritis of the foot, and peripheral neuropathy are three common disorders that can make it hard or painful for people to walk without shoes.

Shoes off at an adult dinner party is uncommon enough that people don't plan for it, so you need to warn people in advance.

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Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

in Canada (at least everywhere I have lived in the west) requests shoes removed for our open houses. Not even booties, just no shoes at all. And everyone complies, even the old people.

If you're in a place where shoes always come off, then people presumably prepare.

If I was going to an open house, and open houses always mean shoes off, then I'd wear socks, or bring slippers, or something. If my plantar fasciitis was acting up, I'd bring house shoes that worked for my feet. If I lived in Japan, I'd come prepared.

But I don't live in that kind of a place, and asking me to suddenly take my shoes off around a group of strangers would be stressful.

I don't see how you have a large party without needing to clean the next day, so I would just do that.

You are in a place where this is common. You just refuse to acknowledge it.

It’s not common, though. You do it and you know other people who do it and you think it’s the best practice. That you WANT it to be common does not make it so.

If this is so uncommon for you nobody you know would think to do it, why do you feel compelled to weigh in at all?

I didn’t say I don’t know anyone who does it. I said it’s not common here. Which is true. Stop playing dumb.

You don’t speak for anyone but yourself. For you it’s not common, for me it is.

That’s not what “common” means. Or do you have your own personal definition of words, too?

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:So all you shoes-on people: when you go to an open house, do you comply with the shoe cover request? Is it only when accepting someone’s hospitality as a guest in their home that you get all hung up about how rude it is to not be able track stuff into people’s houses by keeping your shoes on, and not when it’s a commercial venture like an open house? If so, where does a networking event fall on this spectrum?

in Canada (at least everywhere I have lived in the west) requests shoes removed for our open houses. Not even booties, just no shoes at all. And everyone complies, even the old people.

If you're in a place where shoes always come off, then people presumably prepare.

If I was going to an open house, and open houses always mean shoes off, then I'd wear socks, or bring slippers, or something. If my plantar fasciitis was acting up, I'd bring house shoes that worked for my feet. If I lived in Japan, I'd come prepared.

But I don't live in that kind of a place, and asking me to suddenly take my shoes off around a group of strangers would be stressful.

I don't see how you have a large party without needing to clean the next day, so I would just do that.

You are in a place where this is common. You just refuse to acknowledge it.

It’s not common, though. You do it and you know other people who do it and you think it’s the best practice. That you WANT it to be common does not make it so.

Have you read this thread? If so, it shows that is a lie. Almost half of the posters keep shoe-free. That's relatively common. You'd rather remain ignorant and stick your ostrich head in the sand instead of waking up to reality and being kind and inclusive to people with different house rules than you.

Anonymous wrote:If it's important to everyone to respect "house rules," does this apply to a family who is fully nude within the house? If they provide each of you a freshly laundered towel to sit on, you'd comply with their rules of "no clothes in the house," right? Because "house rules!"

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

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That is so fully uncalled for.