Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That I'm not bored, and I'm not lonely.
All of my romantic relationships in my nearly 50 years have added up to maybe 18 months of my life. I socialize with friends a half dozen times a year.
I work part time to make enough money to meet my expenses.
My life is full and fulfilling and I really wish people wouldn't worry about me.

Agreed. I am nearly 10 years post-divorce and have not entertained a serious relationship since. No, I don't hate my ex at all, I just genuinely prefer being single, enjoy peace and silence to the utmost, and rarely ever get lonely.

NP but I think being happily single after a divorce is quite different from never really having any relationships at all.

Anonymous wrote:How to pronounce my name

No my name is not (fill in the blank) nationality, it's this other nationality

No my last name is not my husband's last name, but yes, we're married

OMG, I totally identify.

My nanny is not a servant. No, I can’t just ask her to run errands for me or handle chores that I don’t want to do. Even if I offer extra compensation, she’s there to take care of the kids and I don’t want to abuse the goodwill by adding random stuff to her plate.

Also, my nanny takes care of my kids WHILE I’M WORKING. I don’t get why people think it means I have on demand childcare anytime I want. It’s really kinda the same as daycare in terms of the schedule.

Anonymous wrote:That I'm not Russian. My mother tongue in nothing like Russian, or most other languages in Europe. Living in Soviet Union didn't make my people Russian.
We lived in our small corner way before Slavs showed up and started spreading.
We even look different.

ok, I will bite-- where are you from?

Anonymous wrote:That I work full-time and can’t just go to lunch on a goddamn Thursday!

Amen

How to pronounce my last name, esp when the chances of sustained contact with a person are low.

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

Uh- I think a lot of people would disagree with you. I went to a "top 3" high school and college. I would disagree with you.

Anonymous wrote:That I'm not bored, and I'm not lonely.
All of my romantic relationships in my nearly 50 years have added up to maybe 18 months of my life. I socialize with friends a half dozen times a year.
I work part time to make enough money to meet my expenses.
My life is full and fulfilling and I really wish people wouldn't worry about me.

Agreed. I am nearly 10 years post-divorce and have not entertained a serious relationship since. No, I don't hate my ex at all, I just genuinely prefer being single, enjoy peace and silence to the utmost, and rarely ever get lonely.

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

Maybe for a few professions such as rocket science but even then you need emotional intelligence to implement science well, navigate ethics and work with others. I suspect that you are trolling but I’ll rebuff your claims at face value 😀


EQ has a greater impact on success than other factors.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-emotional-intelligence-more-important-than-iq-khaleel-shaik?trk=public_post

It is believed that your IQ accounts for only 20% of your success in life. The other 80% is determined by your emotional intelligence and social intelligence.Feb 16, 2022



Why Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Is More Important Than IQ
* JOHN CHANCELLORJUL 21, 2022 3:01 PM EDT

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/Why-Emotional-Intelligence-is-More-Important-Than-IQ
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Conventional wisdom has it that there's a direct connection between our IQ and our ability to succeed in life. In school, we're ranked by our GPA. At certain points in grade school, students are given standardized tests that rank them against other students around the country. Schools are obsessed with how their students rank compared to others. A requirement for most colleges is a satisfactory score on the SAT or ACT exam. These tests are basic IQ tests designed to gauge our math skills and reading comprehension.

…We must learn how to manage our emotions. Unless we learn to manage our emotions, we will constantly be battling feelings of gloom and distress.
We must learn to motivate ourselves, learn emotional self-control, and delay gratification.
If we are to succeed in life, we need to learn to recognize emotions in others. We need to develop empathy; we need to be attuned to what others want or need.


Is IQ or EQ more important in determining your success at work?
BY HARVEY DEUTSCHENDORF
3 MINUTE READ
At one time, IQ was considered the prime determinant as to how well we did in our lives.  Psychologists, such as Howard Gardner, felt that IQ was too narrow a measure of someone’s ability and proposed that there were multiple intelligences. Then came Daniel Goleman, who in his groundbreaking work, Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ, suggested that something called emotional intelligence, or EQ can be just as important as IQ.

…
Our IQ is largely set by the time we get to our late adolescence. Our EQ, on the other hand, is highly malleable, and we can increase it at any point in our lives if we are determined to do so. In my book, The Other Kind of Smart, I use the analogy of a race car to explain the connection between IQ and EQ. I use the race car as a symbol of us making our way through life. The engine and components are our IQ. It is what we have been given to operate with. The driver is our EQ. If we are fortunate to be given a powerful engine and great components we could be set for success.

However, there is more to it than that. The driver (EQ) has control over how effectively these components are used, and their ability to work together. We all know stories of very smart people who have crashed and burned because of their inability to operate themselves effectively. We also know people who would not score that high on an IQ test and have not done well in school, who are doing remarkably well in life. Of course, the combination of a powerful engine and well designed components in the hands of a highly skilled driver gives us a tremendous advantage. So our success in life is to a great degree determined by how effectively we are able to use both our IQ and EQ in harmony with each other

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

Np, and similar. I get sick of explaining how I managed to succeed without a degree. A degree does not come with guarantees, nor does not having one prevent you from accomplishing the same or more as a person with one.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

Thank you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me, I feel like I always have to explain to people that natural intelligence matters more than SES when it comes to being successful.

Why would you ever be explaining this to people? Omg. Some of you. Geez.

Agreed. WTF.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to load the dishwasher correctly.
How to sort and wash clothes correctly.
Why Breast Milk is best.
Why having an intact and functional family is not a privilege but a choice.

You sound fun.

“Why breast milk is best”

Commented just to say I get tired of explaining that actually fed is best and nobody should shame a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby

How airplanes really work and aviation in general.