OP, it comes down to this and if you have a good answer you may have a chance. Why would a high value guy want to date a low value women? I’m sorry but you are a decade past your prime and seem to have given your best years to loser guys.

You can make more money if you move to an association or work at a smaller/mid size management consulting company. Update your LinkedIn, resume and look for a new job. It’s a great time to find a new one, so many people I work with are having trouble finding talent. Also, be firm with your salary expectations and ask for something realistic but more than you make. I went from mid 5 figures to mid 6 figures in 3 years doing this after being in the non-profit sector with a liberal arts degree. Also learn how to best invest or buy a fixer-upper to increase your equity.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok the question is WHERE do you meet these type of guys

Not what the standards are that you should already meet

And the answer is in college. I know that’s not what you want to hear but the place where a nice girl can meet a (potentially) rich guy is college. You get married a few years after graduation and you’re together when he’s building wealth. OP wants to marry the guy after he’s built wealth when he’s more savvy and can have anyone he wants including much younger and hotter women.

Kevin Samuels repeats this ad nauseum in his YouTube videos. Watch a few, OP, and adjust your expectations accordingly. His observations do not just apply to black women.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Ok the question is WHERE do you meet these type of guys

Not what the standards are that you should already meet

And the answer is in college. I know that’s not what you want to hear but the place where a nice girl can meet a (potentially) rich guy is college. You get married a few years after graduation and you’re together when he’s building wealth. OP wants to marry the guy after he’s built wealth when he’s more savvy and can have anyone he wants including much younger and hotter women.

Kevin Samuels repeats this ad nauseum in his YouTube videos. Watch a few, OP, and adjust your expectations accordingly. His observations do not just apply to black women.

I’m amused by all these posters saying “a successful guy in his 30s will only marry an equally successful woman.”

No. That happens, but rarely at this age because by 35, successful people are in a trajectory where the last thing they need is a partner in the same phase. It’s going to make kids impossible and you’re going to be at odds a lot.

More often, they marry a woman “on their level” — similar education background, maybe spent a few years in law or consulting before bailing for an easier gig, has some family money/support to sweeten the deal. But she’s not got some hard charging career— she’s fully ready to pivot to kids with a less stressful job or maybe even being a SAHM.

OP, that could be you. I think you need to learn to brand yourself. You’re coming off as a bit of a sad sack. Learn to tell your story in a more appealing way, then go hard for corporate lawyers or similar on dating apps. Ask friends who work for high paying employers if they know any single guys. Then sell yourself. Be charming, upbeat, interested in him. Do you have a cute hobby that gives you an excuse to dress super sexy on an early date? Something like roller derby? You need to get methodical about this.

Be a hot twentysomething administrative assistant at a hedge fund.

In college, at work (but not yours), or in high school if you went to an affluent school. If not directly, through those contacts. Basically you are either in the community if not and you neither were born there nor did anything to put yourself there, so focus on your own growth and finding someone who makes you happy regardless of money.

Anonymous wrote:Ok the question is WHERE do you meet these type of guys

Not what the standards are that you should already meet

And the answer is in college. I know that’s not what you want to hear but the place where a nice girl can meet a (potentially) rich guy is college. You get married a few years after graduation and you’re together when he’s building wealth. OP wants to marry the guy after he’s built wealth when he’s more savvy and can have anyone he wants including much younger and hotter women.

Anonymous wrote:Date nerds. Don’t be picky about looks. Tech guys, engineers, and the like.

This is bad advice.

All the smart nerdy guys I know would never go for this. Assortative mating is a thing and this group in particular would be embarrassed about having an unambitious wife. Actually ambition is the wrong word, maybe it’s intelligence.

Anonymous wrote:Mom here. I have counseled my over achieving high earner of a son never to marry someone like you. His wife needs to pull her weight.

+1000 He'll find someone who wants to. bee with him, not one that. needs to. My surgeon brother was just divorced by a golddigger like OP.

Rich people are used to people going after them for their money. If that's the criteria you have set and you don't actually care about them as a person, they're going to be able to tell.

You have to be the type of woman a successful man would want. Typically successful in your own right.

Anonymous wrote:A successful 35 plus guy could end up with someone his age but she’ll probably be successful in her own right—could easily be someone at a nonprofit but she’ll be passionate and successful in her own right, like a director or subject matter expert.

This.

A successful 35 plus guy could end up with someone his age but she’ll probably be successful in her own right—could easily be someone at a nonprofit but she’ll be passionate and successful in her own right, like a director or subject matter expert.

A rich guy 35+ would have a substantial NW by now, and highly unlikely to marry OP without a prenup, leaving OP pretty powerless in the marriage. No thank you.