I think he has depression, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you might be picking up the vibes that covert narcissists give off. You may be a very perceptive person so you are able to pick up on it early. Narcissists can have a hollow look that can make people very uncomfortable as well as suck the energy/happiness out of a room. It’s hard to describe but it’s creepy.

OP again. Maybe that's it. He does have a hollowness about him. I have had experience with a couple of people who I believe are narcissists, but they were super nice until they realized I couldn't do anything or them and then they just dropped me. I could tell they weren't sincere, but I never felt the dark, cold, uneasy feeling I am talking about, and the thing is I was not looking at him initially when I felt the feeling, he came in behind me, I did not see hi,.. but felt this bad feeling and my mind just said that's him. I have been near him before and didn't get that dark feeling. For example just yesterday he passed near me alongside another coworker and there was no sense of alarm, but that feeling of alarm came back again when he passed by me again on his own, but not as heavy as the first time.

I've felt both light and dark energy. I've been estranged from a family member since I was 11. I just knew. His presence, voice and energy causes a physiological reaction in me. I've known many wolves in sheep's clothing, but he's a much darker realm.

Anonymous wrote:Just to add - when I think back, I think most of my “gut feelings” arose when someone didn’t have personal boundaries, or even just little things like they stood to close to me, or had alcohol on their breath during the day, or carried an undercurrent of anger that caused me to feel nervous around them, etc. But it’s more rare when I feel that repulsion or wariness when my interactions with the person have been pleasant or normal, etc. and I can’t pinpoint anything in particular that makes me want to keep my distance. But again, I would never ignore the feeling.

OP here. I have had situations before where even when a person was nice I got a vibe something was off and stayed away. For example, a few years back I was dating a guy. who was nice, we got on well good conversation, fun to be around, etc. but during our 4th or 5th ate I just go the feeling something was
t quite right and he said a couple of things that bothered me a bit. I never saw him again. I've also felt like some people were just drama despite how nice they seemed and I do my best to keep my distance. The only other time I felt something a bite similar to this is, that one young man in college who did sadly take his life, but I always felt sadness around him. Even with the guy from college though, I understand it in the way that I knew I was around him, we were facing each other, I mean it was an encounter where I think most people could pick up he was sad , though maybe not feel it to the extent I did. What bother's me most, is that I had no idea it was this guy until he had entered the room. I had my back fully to him, and I had this instant feeling of dread, heaviness, darkness etc, and I had the sense of I don't know exactly what to call it, I don't have the right word for it in English, but maybe alarm? But it was definitely a feeling that came over my body and left completely when he left the room. I also felt compelled to watch him out of the corner of my eye. It was just bizarre because on the surface he was doing nothing wrong. No reason for me to react that way or feel bothered. The thing that bothers me the most is that I instantly knew it was him as soon as those unsettled feelings started. AT least 5 or 6 other people passed into the room the same way, and had none of those feelings.

An I have heard stories about people on TV or whatever who had feelings before something happened, and so I wondered if anyone else had experienced something like this in real life.

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Just to add - when I think bscj, I think most of my “gut feelings” arose when someone didn’t have personal boundaries, or even just little things like they stood to close to me, or had alcohol on their breath during the day, or carried an undercurrent of anger that caused me to feel nervous around them, etc. But it’s more rare when I feel that repulsion or wariness when my interactions with the person have been pleasant or normal, etc. and I can’t pinpoint anything in particular that makes me want to keep my distance. But again, I would never ignore the feeling.

I always listen to my gut and I’m teaching my kids to do the same. I really respect those instincts, even if inexplicable.

Siigh. The ignorance. When did this crap start on dcum?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an intuitive and a medium, so yes. I get those feelings all the time. Usually good. Sometimes not. Always listen to your intuition, OP. If you’re feeling darkness, avoid him. Sadness feels like sadness. An uncomfortable darkness or feeling of fear is your cue to stay away.

Do you get this feeling from places? I was looking at houses and there was one house that gave off a very dark vibe.

I've absolutely felt a very dark, terrifying, and dangerous energy in two different houses. Couldn't get out of them fast enough, and I had nightmares and intrusive thoughts about one of them for years.

OP, you might be picking up the vibes that covert narcissists give off. You may be a very perceptive person so you are able to pick up on it early. Narcissists can have a hollow look that can make people very uncomfortable as well as suck the energy/happiness out of a room. It’s hard to describe but it’s creepy.

Anonymous wrote:My perception on people hasn’t been so much ‘darkness’ but what Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body in A New Earth. I have come across people with such tremendous pain bodies that I cannot connect with them. In some cases you can see it’s this desperate ego driven behavior. I try my best to avoid them at all costs.

OP again. Yes. In general, I tend to be a very empathetic person and feed off of other's energy. There are people I'm more drawn to based on the vibe they give. I consider myself to be a pretty light person but I can feel other's pain or happiness etc deeply always have . This is a different sort of feeling than that.

Your gut is your best friend.

My perception on people hasn’t been so much ‘darkness’ but what Eckhart Tolle calls the pain body in A New Earth. I have come across people with such tremendous pain bodies that I cannot connect with them. In some cases you can see it’s this desperate ego driven behavior. I try my best to avoid them at all costs.

Anonymous wrote:OP, is he your coworker?

OP here. Yes. and in some ways that bothers me because of all the incidents of workplace violence, but I don't get the feeling he is violent. Just the feeling that something isn't quite right and that dark feeling the past week or so.

OP, is he your coworker?