What kind of lazy parents sleeps in bed that late? I don't care if they are in high school, you get up and get ready in the morning same as your child- because you are setting the example of a productive adult.

I agree that it sounds bizarre to me that he wouldn't get up to see the kid off, just because.

But if there is some impediment to that (maybe works late nights and needs sleep), I'd have the kid knock on the door and say goodbye when leaving. Just because.

This is the saddest thread I’ve read in a long time. I got up with my kids every morning through their senior years in high school. Did they need me? No. I’m fairly certain my 17 year olds were capable of leaving for school without me. But, we ate breakfast together, talked about the upcoming day, and just spent time together. You set the tone for your kid’s entire day when you show them that you care enough to get up and spend time with them.

How incredibly lazy are you people? My kids are grown and I’m still never in bed past about 6:30.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he preventing you from getting up? Just get up but I wouldn’t expect or insist that husband gets up too.

Of course I can get up. I just wish he’d invest some emotional capital in the kids once in awhile. He only gets involved and shows up when they play his favorite sport. Otherwise he only comes down and engages with anyone at home is when he gets dinner (even if I’m not home).

You might want to head over to the relationship board.
Or the divorce lawyers office.

Anonymous wrote:
1. Practical: do they NEED you? Mine does.

2. Emotional: do they WANT you? Mine does.

Your husband is one of those unfeeling brutes. When my husband behaves like this, I tell him to watch out - his kids won't want to visit him in his old age!

Yep. OP do you tell him this?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time does he wake up???

He’s been WFH, so 8:00 and then jumps on calls after he’s showered and dressed.

I've gotta say my dad was an absolutely amazing father but he was getting ready for work or sleeping when I was getting ready for school but my mom was *always* up. This isn't the problem here because my dad was present in so many other aspects of my life and, as another poster said, provided for my emotional needs in other ways. The fact that your husband is not doing this is the problem, not that he doesn't wake up to see your kids off.

1. Practical: do they NEED you? Mine does.

2. Emotional: do they WANT you? Mine does.

Your husband is one of those unfeeling brutes. When my husband behaves like this, I tell him to watch out - his kids won't want to visit him in his old age!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time does he wake up???

He’s been WFH, so 8:00 and then jumps on calls after he’s showered and dressed.

Kids walk 1/4 mile to bus stop. Bus arrives shortly before 7am.

Anonymous wrote:What time does he wake up???

He’s been WFH, so 8:00 and then jumps on calls after he’s showered and dressed.

Wait... not every other parent gets up at 6am no matter what?? LOL. I don't remember the last time my DH or I slept past 7. I don't think I even could anymore. I almost wish I had this dilemma!

What time does he wake up???

My MS kid packs his lunch/gets his breakfast and is otherwise independent. I get up with him just to be around, to say “have a good day, love” and to let him know I am available if needed. We may not talk much in the morning but I think being present signals something to the kid. The years you have with them are short. Find ways to let them know how much you adore them. It will come in handy.

Wow, parents sleep in on weekdays? I get one day a week to sleep in. Must be nice.

I've got kids that get up way before I do and I've kids that roll out of bed 15 minutes before they have to be out the door. I'm ALWAYS up before they walk about the door. DH is usually gone for the day before the first one gets up but, if not, he's also up before they walk out the door.

Us getting up has nothing to do with the capabilities of our kids to get themselves ready. It's a demonstration that we're interested and care about them. OP has bigger issues than her husband being awake when her kids leave.

How lazy are you people? Yes, get up!