Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 22:20     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

I’m 61 and dye my hair. It’s a pretty blonde. I don’t have enough gray yet to let it grow out. I tried last year. No one believes I’m 61, so I guess I look younger.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 22:11     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have gray hair at any age, you are sending two signals:

1. "I've given up"

2. "I'm not interested in being attractive to my husband"


Oh, honey, so sorry your husband can't get it up and blames your hair.


Sorry, I haven't given up, I do dye my hair, and DH remains alert in every sense of the word.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 18:49     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:If you have gray hair at any age, you are sending two signals:

1. "I've given up"

2. "I'm not interested in being attractive to my husband"


Oh, honey, so sorry your husband can't get it up and blames your hair.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 13:27     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

I feel like I look younger with brown hair instead of grey. I dye it for me. DH looks great and has John slattery style grey hair.

I kinda wish I had blond hair or lighter hair to start instead of brown, but since I’m Mediterranean and look more like Julia Louis Dreyfus or Salma Hayek in coloring, both of whom are well over 50 and I can guarantee are having their hair colored, it’s hard to pull off switching from dark brown to grey.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 10:56     Subject: Re:What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your life and what you look like with gray. That's really it.

My hair is dark blonde with some gray interspersed. I'm 65. There isn't enough gray to be gray, and all I'm left with is dark ish dishwater blonde..not as flattering as if I touched it up, which is what I do every 6 weeks, by myself. Just some dark blonde highlights at the top, and done. I am fair, so this helps brighten everything, especially at my age. I just stopped working, but I will say for those who are at work, gray isn't as appreciated in the work place. Ageism hits really hard mostly at women, and appearance matters. Make up, clothes that aren't dowdy. It shouldn't be that way, but it is. Women take in a lot of angst from a lookist world.

After working, it depends on one's lifestyle and peer group.


But people like 17:09 are just perpetuating this. We don't have to drink the kool aid.

Remember were women just tolerated being sexually harassed at work? This younger generation are pushing back at that notion.

Hopefully, they will also reject the dictate to fight healthy aging, with chemicals and expensive salon services. We are not put on this planet for other people's enjoyment.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2021 10:53     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:If you have gray hair at any age, you are sending two signals:

1. "I've given up"

2. "I'm not interested in being attractive to my husband"


WHAT???

It is sad that you were taught somewhere along the way that a woman has to "work" her whole life to stay attractive (which I guess means young in your book), or her husband will freject her/lose interest. And the world will conclude she has "given up."

Very weird to me, given that graying hair is a natural progression as we all age.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 22:35     Subject: Re:What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Depends on your life and what you look like with gray. That's really it.

My hair is dark blonde with some gray interspersed. I'm 65. There isn't enough gray to be gray, and all I'm left with is dark ish dishwater blonde..not as flattering as if I touched it up, which is what I do every 6 weeks, by myself. Just some dark blonde highlights at the top, and done. I am fair, so this helps brighten everything, especially at my age. I just stopped working, but I will say for those who are at work, gray isn't as appreciated in the work place. Ageism hits really hard mostly at women, and appearance matters. Make up, clothes that aren't dowdy. It shouldn't be that way, but it is. Women take in a lot of angst from a lookist world.

After working, it depends on one's lifestyle and peer group.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 19:01     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:If you have gray hair at any age, you are sending two signals:

1. "I've given up"

2. "I'm not interested in being attractive to my husband"


Damn.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 18:46     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Minimal? 50
Ideal? About 60
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 18:17     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Around 60 or 65
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 17:09     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

If you have gray hair at any age, you are sending two signals:

1. "I've given up"

2. "I'm not interested in being attractive to my husband"
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 14:36     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

When God gives it to you.

There are very young and attractive people with gray hair.

The hair color does not dictate their age or how good they look.

Free yourself. Don't care so much what others think.

Why are you teaching your daughter than men can age naturally but women have to hide behind a facade. Work on your self-esteem. You are actually worried that if you stop dying your hair you might embarass your family.

And you are asking strangers when you can stop doing something you don't like doing. Think about that.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 14:00     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was tired of getting that gray skunk stripe at my part 2-3 weeks after I colored. Thought I grow it and see what happened.

Completely silver. Not a dark hair to be found. I was 52. I loved it. Still do.


+1 I hate that skunk stripe and it starts to peek out just two weeks after dying my hair. I have gone completely silver over the pandemic and I’m 50.


One of my co-workers who always had the skunk stripe went all grey during the pandemic. I think she looks 100% better. I'm not sure how old she is, but I would say in her mid-50s. Her silver made me focus more on her face.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2021 13:57     Subject: What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was tired of getting that gray skunk stripe at my part 2-3 weeks after I colored. Thought I grow it and see what happened.

Completely silver. Not a dark hair to be found. I was 52. I loved it. Still do.


+1 I hate that skunk stripe and it starts to peek out just two weeks after dying my hair. I have gone completely silver over the pandemic and I’m 50.


If you are completely silver at 50, what age did yo start going gray?
Anonymous
Post 08/26/2021 09:14     Subject: Re:What do you view as the minimum acceptable age to have fully gray hair?

I stopped coloring mine when I turned 50. My stylist was able to cut it into long layers so that I didn’t have that obvious color line. I’m about 60% gray now. Shoulder length hair. 54 years old. People ask me who highlights my hair. Haha! I guess people pay for gray highlights now.