Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 11:13     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t need therapy for this. This is how I see it. It doesn’t tell anything about me other than I don’t think it’s ok.

Anyway, I just wanted an opinion on whether people think it’s ok or not. I’m entitled to my opinion, and I hope you know the saying ‘see something, say something’.


That refers to things like bombs on busses or kids being sexually abused. By all means, if you think the child is being sexually abused, say something. But in a giant family bed that includes a toddler and her mother , it’s certainly not likely. This falls squarely into the “mind your business” category.

If I see my friend allowing her child a cookie for dessert, and I disagree with desserts for toddlers, is that a “see something say something”
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Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 11:11     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.


You are way too invested in this. Omg! This couples sex lite is the furthest thing from your business. Except, maybe, their choice to Co sleep which the majority of families around the world do
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 11:09     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a big MYOB

Also, you are contradicting yourself. You say you don't think there's anything going on and in the same post say there's other issues that require their own post. What are the other issues?



I don’t think there is anything sexual going on, but it is my opinion that other family dynamics would warrant sleeping separately from parents.



Well do you think that when you come in with your declaration that you do not approve of this family’s bedroom arrangements, anything is going to change? Do you somehow feel like it’s up to you??
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 11:08     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t need therapy for this. This is how I see it. It doesn’t tell anything about me other than I don’t think it’s ok.

Anyway, I just wanted an opinion on whether people think it’s ok or not. I’m entitled to my opinion, and I hope you know the saying ‘see something, say something’.


That refers to things like bombs on busses or kids being sexually abused. By all means, if you think the child is being sexually abused, say something. But in a giant family bed that includes a toddler and her mother , it’s certainly not likely. This falls squarely into the “mind your business” category.

If I see my friend allowing her child a cookie for dessert, and I disagree with desserts for toddlers, is that a “see something say something”
Moment too?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 11:03     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:For all the people who see nothing wrong with a co-sleeping 8 year old, is there an age at which you would draw the line and say the child needs their own bed?


You ain’t getting an answer on this one.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 10:38     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:Don’t be so hard on me. I haven’t said any, but I think when a girl (8) is close to getting her period, she needs her own bed, not sleeping with her dad.

I understand the baby, who’s almost 2.

And yes, they have plenty of bedrooms for everyone.

And if people that are close to you won’t say anything, who will?


She will ask for her own bed when she is ready. Kids who cosleep move to their own space when they are ready.

MYOB
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 10:33     Subject: How long to keep your kids in bed?
We co-sleep with our 5 year old son and have for the past few years. He's on the smaller side only 36 pounds so there is plenty of room on our king size bed. He's an only child for now so there is no rush for him to sleep in his own bed.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 10:09     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.



Guest bed, shower, living room, kitchen floor, basement, pool table..


+10000
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:34     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
For all the people who see nothing wrong with a co-sleeping 8 year old, is there an age at which you would draw the line and say the child needs their own bed?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:31     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op again: and I didn’t come up with the recommendations that kids should be let explore themselves. The American academy of pediatrics did. They recommend not shaming kids for doing so, but directing them to go to a private place, like their bedroom. “Oh, don’t touch yourself on the couch honey, go to the common bed/bedroom!’


Wow.

Do you have an 8 year old? Because you are way off base here.


Do the aap recommendations not include 8 year olds?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:30     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Let us sleep with the kids so we can get away from the kids.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:29     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
You all are so creative. Basically you go to a different place! So you can’t use your own bed. 🤣
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:27     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.

You really can’t figure this out?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:26     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Anonymous wrote:Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.



Guest bed, shower, living room, kitchen floor, basement, pool table..
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 09:19     Subject: Re:How long to keep your kids in bed?
Op again: how do you fulfill marital duties with an 8 year old in the bed?

Maybe I’m missing something.