Anonymous
Post 08/23/2021 16:50     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kids.
DD had a friend who was obnoxious at a sleepover - I would never host her for one again. But the other girls were a delight and I’d have them back in a heartbeat


+1



+2 I've learned to be discerning with sleepover invitations. The kids who are brattier on playdates are inevitably intolerable on sleepovers.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2021 16:38     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:10 yo son has his best friend have sleepovers regularly. She lives across the street from us and they alternate each week between ours and her house. They're always well behaved and it's a delight to have her over. They usually just play together in the backyard till sundown, then change into their PJs and spend the rest of the night playing just dance, wrestling and having burp contests. They can get a little noisy put never to the point of it being an annoyance. By 11 pm they're usually asleep in the den watching a movie. Our son and Larla's sleepovers have never had any issue and we're more than happy to let them continue

On the flip side of this though, once when I was taking care of my niece (2 years younger than our son) while my brother and his wife were on a business trip, we let her have a friend over for a sleepover and it was a nightmare. The girls were rude and obnoxious, bickering and fighting, throwing things around, making mess and they even broke one of our vases. So we've never allowed her to have a friend to sleepover since. So we've had both the best and the worst of sleepovers.


This is so sweet. And so ideal. Love this.


+1 Sounds like my 9 yo DD and her boy BFF the same age who's our neighbours. Having him over for sleepovers has always been a joy.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 20:24     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the kids.
DD had a friend who was obnoxious at a sleepover - I would never host her for one again. But the other girls were a delight and I’d have them back in a heartbeat


+1
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 20:20     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
You’re not supposed to like them. Don’t you remember being a kid and having your friends’ parents come down and threaten all sorts of things if you didn’t quiet down and go to bed?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 17:55     Subject: Re:I hate hosting sleepovers
I love sleepovers, but I enforce strict bedtime and also try tire them out beforehand with physical activity. They are in the basement rec room and I am in the basement bedroom. Far enough away so that I can’t hear what they’re saying, but close enough so they can’t sneak upstairs. I furnish water and non-sugary snacks. They can watch a movie and after that it’s lights off. They can still talk but they’re often too tired to talk for long. I usually plan another fun activity after breakfast before pickup, so that’s another incentive for them to follow my bedtime instructions. Of course, they’re only 9 so I doubt these tactics will work for long!
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2021 17:12     Subject: Re:I hate hosting sleepovers
Me too - HATE them.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2021 19:18     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe I am naive having younger kids, but I don't understand why sleepover = no bedtime. I'd rather host 3 sleepovers with a 10pm bedtime than one with a 1am bedtime.


Yeah the problem is getting them to respect a stated 10pm bedtime.


My 10 yo goes to bed at 10 on school nights and between 11 and midnight on a regular weekend, without a sleepover, as do most of her friends.


Sounds like poor parenting. Most children are sleep deprived because their parents can't actually parent them. A 10 yr old needs 10-11 hours of sleep. Good job, Mom.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2021 19:16     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe I am naive having younger kids, but I don't understand why sleepover = no bedtime. I'd rather host 3 sleepovers with a 10pm bedtime than one with a 1am bedtime.


Wait til they're 11-12 years and older. Forget 10pm, sometimes they won't fall asleep til 3 or 4 a.m. I have found groups of 2 are more likely to go to be at a semi-reasonable hour, but any more than 3 kids and forget about it.


Exactly. If they went to bed at midnight, I’d be fine. But they’re going to bed at 3-4AM. And one kid always wakes up at 6am and wakes everyone else up or steps on their hair on the way to the bathroom. My older child loves sleepovers, but my younger one is so crabby after and prefers to sleep in her own bed.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2021 18:43     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
It gets better when they are older and you can pretty much just ignore them. DD13 is having one tonight with a good friend and I haven’t even seen them. They’ll briefly appear for dinner and then disappear again. I’ll go to bed before them.

Better days ahead OP!
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2021 17:54     Subject: I hate hosting sleepovers
Depends on the kids.
DD had a friend who was obnoxious at a sleepover - I would never host her for one again. But the other girls were a delight and I’d have them back in a heartbeat