Anonymous
Post 08/12/2021 09:46     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't understand people who binge like this. And I particularly don't understand how they do it with no thought to anyone else in their household who might like some of whatever it is that they just polished off. No snark, is this mental illness?


It might be. My husband and I grew up in large poorer families. You had to scarf anything that was good or a treat down right away, otherwise you didn't get to have any. These habits are hard to shake. I can self regulate just fine if I know no one else can eat it, so I hide things I want to eat slowly (sweets or nuts usually).
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2021 08:49     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't have to hide it anymore. I have a "food locker" with a combination lock. My now 18 yo DS would eat all the highly desirable items without regard to anyone else. Stuff that was meant for school lunches would be gobbled down and nothing left for anyone else. For example, he'd drink 4 chocolate milk boxes a day (and leave the boxes all over the house) rather than make himself a chocolate milk using powder that I bought in bulk. I wasn't restricting the amount of chocolate milk he could drink, just the boxed ones that were meant for lunch boxes. Same thing would happen with things like Capri Sun, cookies, protein drinks, etc.

His refusal to regulate and make good choices was unfair to all of us and while there were consequences to his actions, that still left my other kids (and me) without the stuff we had a reasonable expectation of having. So, I got a food locker and it's been fabulous! I keep alcohol in there now as well, just in case. Best think ever!


Ugh...my boys are like this. I can't buy jack shit.


Food locker PP here. You need one, seriously. I've had it about 5 years now and the tension in our home was reduced dramatically - and it helped with everyone's relationship with oldest DS. It's kinda funny but not. I could have continued to hammer away at DS but decided it just wasn't a hill to die upon.
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2021 06:16     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:I honestly don't understand people who binge like this. And I particularly don't understand how they do it with no thought to anyone else in their household who might like some of whatever it is that they just polished off. No snark, is this mental illness?


You're a bit dim, huh?
Anonymous
Post 08/12/2021 06:15     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:I don't have to hide it anymore. I have a "food locker" with a combination lock. My now 18 yo DS would eat all the highly desirable items without regard to anyone else. Stuff that was meant for school lunches would be gobbled down and nothing left for anyone else. For example, he'd drink 4 chocolate milk boxes a day (and leave the boxes all over the house) rather than make himself a chocolate milk using powder that I bought in bulk. I wasn't restricting the amount of chocolate milk he could drink, just the boxed ones that were meant for lunch boxes. Same thing would happen with things like Capri Sun, cookies, protein drinks, etc.

His refusal to regulate and make good choices was unfair to all of us and while there were consequences to his actions, that still left my other kids (and me) without the stuff we had a reasonable expectation of having. So, I got a food locker and it's been fabulous! I keep alcohol in there now as well, just in case. Best think ever!


Ugh...my boys are like this. I can't buy jack shit.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 18:35     Subject: Do you hide food?
I occasionally hide snacks. Mostly from dh.

I had a many hour road trip coming up and picked out the perfect combination of snacks including all the food groups like salty, sweet, chewy, crunchy, somewhat healthy. I had them in a bag on the counter and didn't have a chance to tell him they were for my trip. He ate like 3 of them while I was in the shower. Like, what? We never buy that stuff, why would you assume they were for you? And you ate what was supposed to last me several hours in matter of minutes. Now I tuck away anything like that.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 15:14     Subject: Do you hide food?
I don't now, but I definitely hid things I didn't want my siblings to eat when I was growing up. We had plenty to eat, but I wasn't above hiding an ice cream sandwich in a dark corner of the freezer for later.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:48     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
I honestly don't understand people who binge like this. And I particularly don't understand how they do it with no thought to anyone else in their household who might like some of whatever it is that they just polished off. No snark, is this mental illness?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:47     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm not a huge snack/junk food eater, but like to have some cookies/chips/ice cream in the house for the times I do want something.

Unless I hide it (or buy a flavor no one else likes) the rest of the family will scarf it daily until it's gone... so there's nothing left when I go looking for a treat.

I feel like a crazy person for hiding food. Am I the only person who does this?


Yes from my MIL who has cognitive decline. She wont eat anything other than sweets. I made two zucchini bread loaves for my family one Sunday and by Tuesday she had eaten 1.5 loaves. At night. Cookies- she will eat them all. 5, 10, 20- doesnt matter. She once at an entire half of 13x9 cake at night. The next day she has issues and sleeps all day or has diarrhea.

She will decline most foods and will begrudgingly eat breakast and dinner with us because we make her so that she doesnt lose anymore weight. I buy 6 different fruits every week, there is cereal, milk, yogurt, snack bars, ensure shakes, we always have leftovers so it isnt a matter of access.

She had a terrible childhood and I think she reverts to that state, especially at night.


This is the only valid reason to hide food -- if the other person has a mental illness that prevents rational behavior.


What about an immature brain that prevents rational behavior, lol.

But yeah I still don’t love the idea of locking up food. I do it but not often and my kids are allowed to eat anything they want (they don’t know about the hidden Oreos I have right now so they don’t want them. )
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:42     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why dont you just ask them not to eat it? How old are your kids?


OP again and my husband is by far the worst culprit, actually (but he'll share with the kids when he's helping himself).

If I point out that he finished something off, his response is that he didn't think I wanted it.


I'd tell my husband to either buy me a replacement, or make me one (if it was a homemade treat). There's no way I'd just let this stand repeatedly.


+1. If I had to hide food to keep my DH from eating it, then that suggests that he's not respecting me as a person.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:40     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why dont you just ask them not to eat it? How old are your kids?


OP again and my husband is by far the worst culprit, actually (but he'll share with the kids when he's helping himself).

If I point out that he finished something off, his response is that he didn't think I wanted it.


I'd tell my husband to either buy me a replacement, or make me one (if it was a homemade treat). There's no way I'd just let this stand repeatedly.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:40     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:Why dont you just ask them not to eat it? How old are your kids?


NP. He is DH, lol.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:39     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm not a huge snack/junk food eater, but like to have some cookies/chips/ice cream in the house for the times I do want something.

Unless I hide it (or buy a flavor no one else likes) the rest of the family will scarf it daily until it's gone... so there's nothing left when I go looking for a treat.

I feel like a crazy person for hiding food. Am I the only person who does this?


Yes from my MIL who has cognitive decline. She wont eat anything other than sweets. I made two zucchini bread loaves for my family one Sunday and by Tuesday she had eaten 1.5 loaves. At night. Cookies- she will eat them all. 5, 10, 20- doesnt matter. She once at an entire half of 13x9 cake at night. The next day she has issues and sleeps all day or has diarrhea.

She will decline most foods and will begrudgingly eat breakast and dinner with us because we make her so that she doesnt lose anymore weight. I buy 6 different fruits every week, there is cereal, milk, yogurt, snack bars, ensure shakes, we always have leftovers so it isnt a matter of access.

She had a terrible childhood and I think she reverts to that state, especially at night.


This is the only valid reason to hide food -- if the other person has a mental illness that prevents rational behavior.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:37     Subject: Re:Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:I don't have to hide it anymore. I have a "food locker" with a combination lock. My now 18 yo DS would eat all the highly desirable items without regard to anyone else. Stuff that was meant for school lunches would be gobbled down and nothing left for anyone else. For example, he'd drink 4 chocolate milk boxes a day (and leave the boxes all over the house) rather than make himself a chocolate milk using powder that I bought in bulk. I wasn't restricting the amount of chocolate milk he could drink, just the boxed ones that were meant for lunch boxes. Same thing would happen with things like Capri Sun, cookies, protein drinks, etc.

His refusal to regulate and make good choices was unfair to all of us and while there were consequences to his actions, that still left my other kids (and me) without the stuff we had a reasonable expectation of having. So, I got a food locker and it's been fabulous! I keep alcohol in there now as well, just in case. Best think ever!


This is crazy. If my son did that I would tell him to go to the store and buy enough replace everything. As for leaving boxes around the house...absolutely not allowed and he knows it.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:03     Subject: Do you hide food?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Except I the one who will eat large quantities at once. I give the holiday candy to my dh to hide from myself!


Oh I do this too. I don’t ask him to literally not let me eat it, but having to go through him makes it so I don’t mindlessly eat junk. Thank goodness he self-regulates!
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 13:55     Subject: Do you hide food?
Yes. Except I the one who will eat large quantities at once. I give the holiday candy to my dh to hide from myself!