This is OP. I agree with one PP that DH should be the one taking her out because she is sometimes seeing him as a bad guy and whining a bit whenever she sees him approaching her these days. She is not my only child, but my other older child never had terrible 2 or horrible 3 phase that I could recall, so I don't know how to deal with this little one.

We did magic 1-2-3 with her, and it is not working. She finds it fun sometimes (she was giggling and smiling) when people are mad or frustrated at her, and she likes to do things against your wish on purpose sometimes. She is not special need, and she understands what I am talking about, but she is just not listening. Yes, I am frustrated and mad, and I try to cool down my temper after she acts out for like 10 minutes after.

I developed heart problem after having her, and my blood pressure sometimes keeps rising up after she is out of control and throw tantrum for a while. That is why I need DH help to get her away from me (and he is the one doing timeout because he does not know what to do with her screaming and crying) when my heart is hurting. I also want to set an example for the older kid that screaming and crying cannot get what you want, and sometimes the older kid try to calm her down but mostly not working as well. Normally, we do timeout only when she keeps throwing food at mealtime onto floor on purpose, spitting nonstop and smash her boggies on furniture, grabbing things away from older kid, running away and tear it up on purpose (end with older kid crying) something like that.

Anonymous wrote:2 year old almost cries every day for things that does not go her way or things that upsets with her without any reasons. DH grab her and put her upstair with gate closed when things go out of way with her keep screaming and crying nonstop. He sometimes put her in her bedroom or sometimes he put her in the bedroom with gate to staircase closed for a few minutes. And, he is upstair in his room when he gives her timeout and I can hear her screaming and crying like crazy and roar. But once I go up and give her a hug, she is fine and stops crying instantly like magic. How long can I do timeout for that age?

Why isn't your dh going upstairs and giving her a hug??

And if (you and) dh threw your own mini tantrum b/c your 2 yr old was bursting with frustration about XYZ then start setting a good example and apologize.

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Anonymous wrote:I do a 1 minute timeout for my 2.5 kid. (This is after 1-2-3.) The timeout is not a punishment, necessarily. It’s also a reset to stop the undesirable behavior and shift onto something new.

Side note, I looked up "1-2-3 Magic" just now after hearing about it a lot in parenting contexts. I expected to hate it because of the silly name and the phrase "positive parenting," which I usually associate with millennial American, overly permissive parenting. But I love the idea of removing parental drama/emotions/talking too much from the equation! It's great.

I’m the PP and we use 123 Magic for everything. I really appreciate that it is a clear consequence for undesirable behavior and that it removes the overtalking, which I am prone to. My kid doesn’t like timeout so he really reacts when I count his behavior. I would recommend checking the book out from the library or watching some of their YouTube videos!