Anonymous
Post 08/13/2021 20:41     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I stopped inviting our friends with 3+ kids over a few years ago. They take over and it’s too much. I actually am pretty passive in our friendship in general and let them suggest things. I learned that my suggestions would always be rejected due to some child preference or scheduling issue or other logistical concern, and it was annoying. If they invite us over or to some outing, we will often say yes. But I don’t plan because it’s too hard to figure out what their needs will be.


I think this is more about your friends than the number of kids. I have three kids (all young) and am often scheduling around the needs of my friends with onlies who can’t budge on naps or other activities. I’ve learned to be more flexible if I ever want to see anyone.


I also have 3 kids and we are super flexible. It is actually easiest when both families are flexible. That works out best. Only thing is we eat dinner early and sleep earlier than most other families so we usually don’t do evenings with others.
Anonymous
Post 08/13/2021 19:43     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:I stopped inviting our friends with 3+ kids over a few years ago. They take over and it’s too much. I actually am pretty passive in our friendship in general and let them suggest things. I learned that my suggestions would always be rejected due to some child preference or scheduling issue or other logistical concern, and it was annoying. If they invite us over or to some outing, we will often say yes. But I don’t plan because it’s too hard to figure out what their needs will be.


I think this is more about your friends than the number of kids. I have three kids (all young) and am often scheduling around the needs of my friends with onlies who can’t budge on naps or other activities. I’ve learned to be more flexible if I ever want to see anyone.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2021 14:52     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:Teens and teens only covers 9-19.


what are you talking about? Why is this in this thread?
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 19:15     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Teens and teens only covers 9-19.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 17:48     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you should be posting on a parenting forum if you have young adult children.


Too bad it's not up to you, huh? Don't like something, keep scrolling.


I can’t think of any posts about adult children so there isn’t posts to ignore.

God help me if I am visiting a website where people are discussing potty training, birthday parties and play dates when my kids are adults.

I don’t visit wedding websites after I got married.


DP. What? I don't even see where someone who is a parent of young adults posted on this thread.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 13:33     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you should be posting on a parenting forum if you have young adult children.


Too bad it's not up to you, huh? Don't like something, keep scrolling.


I can’t think of any posts about adult children so there isn’t posts to ignore.

God help me if I am visiting a website where people are discussing potty training, birthday parties and play dates when my kids are adults.

I don’t visit wedding websites after I got married.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 13:02     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think you should be posting on a parenting forum if you have young adult children.


Too bad it's not up to you, huh? Don't like something, keep scrolling.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 13:01     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:I have good friends with 3 kids and don’t invite them for vacations/getaways. But it’s not because of how many kids they have, it’s because of the youngest. He just turned 2 and it seems like they expect everything to revolve around his nap schedule. Most of our friends are out of the nap phase so it’s easier to just invite them. Trips are 100 times easier when everyone is potty trained and nobody naps. It’s not personal.

Fwiw I don’t ever mind when I’m not included in things either. Life’s too short to worry about that kind of thing.


We gave up a friendship due to my friend’s tween daughter being mean and endangering my 2.5yo. I still think the girl has a couple screws loose. She has been in therapy. I tried to get over it but I think the daughter is a psychopath and started seeing the mother as mentally disturbed as well.

I feel I was so traumatized by that one trip that I am extremely cautious with who I travel with.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 12:58     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
I don’t think you should be posting on a parenting forum if you have young adult children.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 12:37     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
Anonymous wrote:We need a “parents of young adults” subforum for parents of 20-25 year olds. OP’s post belongs in the infants and toddlers sub forum.


Please. If this topic doesn’t apply to general parenting I don’t know what does. There’s already a midlife forum and family relationships to talk about your adult kids.

Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 12:34     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
We need a “parents of young adults” subforum for parents of 20-25 year olds. OP’s post belongs in the infants and toddlers sub forum.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 09:41     Subject: Re:Families with 3+ kids
I have good friends with 3 kids and don’t invite them for vacations/getaways. But it’s not because of how many kids they have, it’s because of the youngest. He just turned 2 and it seems like they expect everything to revolve around his nap schedule. Most of our friends are out of the nap phase so it’s easier to just invite them. Trips are 100 times easier when everyone is potty trained and nobody naps. It’s not personal.

Fwiw I don’t ever mind when I’m not included in things either. Life’s too short to worry about that kind of thing.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 09:32     Subject: Families with 3+ kids
It's not because you have 3 kids, it's because your kids are so young. Give it a few years or make it clear you're willing to bring just the older two kids and you'll be fine.
Anonymous
Post 08/10/2021 09:28     Subject: Families with 3+ kids
OP, it sounds like it just wasn't a tiny tots kind of gathering. Maybe the house or waterfront area isn't babyproofed and can't easily be made so. I get stressed out by small kids near water myself.

It's just a different kind of gathering when the adults can really talk without constantly managing tiny kids. Once you get a taste of how easy life can be with all kids older than 6 or so, you'll understand.