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Anonymous wrote:you won't do it, but you should reconsider getting married to this fiancee

This. If your fiancé isn’t considering your needs and stress level, I don’t believe you should marry him either.

Doesn’t sound like fiancé is helping with the wedding and adding stress with the dogs on top of it. I would also suggest getting on the same page now else abandon ship.

Anonymous wrote:I think putting the 2 dogs in separate bedrooms would work. Just tell the cousin that you have guests who do not like (allergic to?) dogs.

And then when the cousin's dog trashes your bedroom, you can send him the bill.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is another example of why all dogs should be crate trained. If they can both be crated in a quiet room and someone occasionally lets them out to potty on leash individually away from the party, there should be no problem.

How would you like to be imprisoned against your will whenever you're an inconvenience?

DP. The person you're responding to probably wouldn't like that, but dogs are not people. Crazy, I know.

The cousin who doesn't want to leave his dog crated in a hotel room all day is probably not going to want his dog crated in a bedroom all day, which means another set of arguments/discussions/stress.

Then the cousin can hire someone to petsit his dog at home. I wouldn't argue about it. It is much less stressful to use that lovely, succinct word "no."

I agree, but that doesn't seem to be happening here.

Tell your fiancee you have a special date night planned.

Surprise him with the first episode of the Brady Bunch where the cat and dog run amuck at the wedding.

1) If this is how your fiancé is before you get married--it's going to get a lot worse about kids, holidays, in-laws visiting for a month at a time, you working full time and being expected to do the shopping, dinner, kid duty etc etc. Think very carefully before finalizing this relationship.
2) If you decide to proceed with marrying someone who clearly doesn't care about what you think and feel, then proceed with making arrangements for your dog--boarding or having it stay with a friend or whatever for the wedding. Call/email/text the cousin and tell him your fiancé spoke out of turn and didn't consult you about the dog and NO dogs are allowed, not even your own. Shut it down.
3) Most hotels do not allow you to leave a dog unattended in the room. He will need to leave the dog at home. This is not your problem.

Yep, this guy would be a nightmare to have kids with.

Send both dogs to a kennel for the day.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is another example of why all dogs should be crate trained. If they can both be crated in a quiet room and someone occasionally lets them out to potty on leash individually away from the party, there should be no problem.

How would you like to be imprisoned against your will whenever you're an inconvenience?

Tell that to all the people who put their kids in strollers or hold them or their hands or otherwise contain them when it's inappropriate for the kid to be running around.

Anonymous wrote:I'm baffled about the recommendations for asking a guest to be the 'dog person'. What's next - asking a guest to be the 'washing dishes person'?

I kind of get this, because some people do ask how they can help.
The suggestion I didn't understand at all was asking a friend who wasn't invited to take the dogs. LOL. "Umm, I didn't invite you to my wedding, but would you mind dogsitting for me and someone I did invite to the wedding?"

Anonymous wrote:I'm baffled about the recommendations for asking a guest to be the 'dog person'. What's next - asking a guest to be the 'washing dishes person'?

LOL. Some people are so entitled. A guest is not your free labor. Just say no to dogs and be grateful your guests came. Sheesh.

I think putting the 2 dogs in separate bedrooms would work. Just tell the cousin that you have guests who do not like (allergic to?) dogs.

I'm baffled about the recommendations for asking a guest to be the 'dog person'. What's next - asking a guest to be the 'washing dishes person'?

OP that’s crazy. One of my bridesmaids married a “dog crazy” guy. Fortunately the dog died and the marriage continued. In your case really: no dogs. If you have to limit the wedding to a restaurant best solution. Guest dog or any dog at your wedding??? No way.

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Anonymous wrote:Assign some other responsibile type guest to deal with the dog situation if needed. There must be some capable guest that can just take this on with no drama and allow you to focus on your day.

This. Can the dogs be confined to spaces? One in a laundry room or bathroom? Can you crate them?

You don't burden a guest with your problem with boundaries.

Op, I wouldn’t want MY dog at my wedding, let alone a guest dog. Board/day care your dog for the day so you don’t have to think about it, and insist that cousin does the same.

Or, like a pp suggested, book a private space at a restaurant, that’ll take care a lot of the stress.