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Anonymous wrote:A, B, C.

Seriously. Isn’t this obvious?

I’m confused why the answer wouldn’t just be A?

He is at least 39 and he never got married? Red flag.

Anything over 35, single, no kids…there’s something wrong with him. You don’t want to be the guinea pig that finds out why. Run!

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Anonymous wrote:A, B, C.

Seriously. Isn’t this obvious?

This. How is this a question??

If you are dating other 37 yr old men, that is young to be already married, divorced, and with kids. They really screwed up and made some bad choices. Now if you wanted to date 45+, divorce and kids is much more common and I would be open to that.

Anonymous wrote:A. Same age man never married, no kids

B. Same age man divorced, no kids

C. Same age man widowed, no kids

D. Same age man never married, with kids under 5

E. Same age man divorced, with kids under 5

F. Same age man, widowed, with kids under 5


Do you consider any of the above to have red flags?

It would depend on far more variables than just these. Including my own priorities and desires.

For example, when I was dating post-divorce at 33, I ruled out guys with kids but not guys who were divorced. I still wanted to have my own kids and wasn’t open to the complications that other people’s kids bring at that point.

If I was doing it now at 43, I’d be more open to dating someone with kids.

The only slight red flag for me in your too-generic list is the never-married guy with kids. Especially if those kids primarily live with their other parent(s). No thanks.

"No one can help if their spouse died"-I just attended a funeral where the husband committed suicide with a kid in high school. I would be curious to know the cause of death.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A, B, C.

Seriously. Isn’t this obvious?

I’m confused why the answer wouldn’t just be A?

He is at least 39 and he never got married? Red flag.

Actually he is 37-39 and the woman in the scenario is also never married. Why the double standard?

Same for her. Sorry. 9 out of 10 times something is off.

I truly don't understand this line of thinking.

How many never married friends do you have? Or have you tried online dating in your late 30s or 40s?

I know a good amount of people in all categories, and can say with confidence there's something wrong with a lot of the marrieds. I don't get this line of thinking seems incredibly dated.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A, B, C.

Seriously. Isn’t this obvious?

I’m confused why the answer wouldn’t just be A?

He is at least 39 and he never got married? Red flag.

Actually he is 37-39 and the woman in the scenario is also never married. Why the double standard?

Same for her. Sorry. 9 out of 10 times something is off.

I truly don't understand this line of thinking.

How many never married friends do you have? Or have you tried online dating in your late 30s or 40s?

A, B, C, F

F would be the way to go if I wanted a family but did not want to go through a pregnancy or have my own biological kids.

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Anonymous wrote:C might be best one. Followed by tie for A and B.

It wouldn’t bother you to know that the only reason he is with you is because his first choice died?

DP Nope, it means she’s permanently out of the way

And he would have a permanent hole in his heart.

Really depends if you’ll always be second to wife #1. Some guys will be glad she’s gone so they can move on or are open to new love. My neighbor’s husband died and she did not reserve the neighboring plot in the cemetery. That told you how she felt. Remarried twice.