Anonymous wrote:Since age 9 or 10 my kids have never worn a single piece of clothing given to them by a relative. It doesn't matter if you think it's cool, or some similar-aged kid has told you it's in style, or whatever. Kids develop their own sense of style pretty young. I advise buying something different than clothing.

Aunt is raising her, so you suggest tat she goes naked?

My 10yo likes old navy.

Since age 9 or 10 my kids have never worn a single piece of clothing given to them by a relative. It doesn't matter if you think it's cool, or some similar-aged kid has told you it's in style, or whatever. Kids develop their own sense of style pretty young. I advise buying something different than clothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Athleta had a really limited selection in girls sizes.

My DDs like Old Navy, Target, Nordstrom Rack, Dillards, and they LOVE getting boxes from Stitch Fix—the prices are reasonable for kids’ clothing. Also Justice, but that’s online only now.

I really hope the Hanna Anderson post was a lame attempt at a joke.

Hanna has plenty of cute solids and tops that aren't babyish. No wonder your daughters are snobby. No way I'd like my kid wear athletic clothes to school.

+1 I also don’t allow athletic clothes. Lame.

Honestly target has a really nice selection. I also like H&M for some flair, which my DD likes.

I posted already but I’ll echo that girls this age don’t really judge each other by clothes…that comes later. And social groups aren’t really demarcated by clothes at this age either.

iME, girls this age can be weird about shyness. So if they say hi to a girl and the girl doesn’t really respond, they assume the girl doesn’t like them, or isn’t interested in being friends. Weird things like that—it’s a transitional phase when they are past the little kid “everyone my friend!” Stage but don’t yet have the social skills to figure out more complex relationships.

So if your niece is shy, you may want to be a little more proactive in talking to the teacher, reaching out to peers’ moms to suggest get-together, signing her up for after school stuff, etc. On the positive side, I think 4th grade is waaay easier than 6th or 7th grade. Then I think it gets easier again. 6th seems to be peak social rigidity for girls.

The look can vary between schools and areas. One of my daughters was at a school where the kids dressed very sporty- athletic shorts and tops. I know another girl at a school where the girls where cut off jean shorts and trendier looking tops, and not athletic clothes.

Do NOT by Hanna Andersson for a 4th grader if you are concerned with her being fashionable or fitting in. Same goes for Boden and Tea (although every once in a while you might find a more dress up out from those brands that don't look as babyish). I loved Hanna for my 3 year old, but by 4th grade it is a definite no.

My daughters get clothes from Old Navy, Target, Gap. Target has surprisingly decent and cute things for this age.
Nordstrom or Bloomingdales are good for nicer/more expensive things. H&M or Zara can have some things too, but more hit or miss.

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Anonymous wrote:Athleta had a really limited selection in girls sizes.

My DDs like Old Navy, Target, Nordstrom Rack, Dillards, and they LOVE getting boxes from Stitch Fix—the prices are reasonable for kids’ clothing. Also Justice, but that’s online only now.

I really hope the Hanna Anderson post was a lame attempt at a joke.

Hanna has plenty of cute solids and tops that aren't babyish. No wonder your daughters are snobby. No way I'd like my kid wear athletic clothes to school.

hanna is for kids whose parents insist they wear it. No tween is wearing it by choice

Are 4th graders tweens? Mine's 8.

most of them are 9 starting 4th grade . Yes we realize your genius child is ahead. But 9-12 is considered tween.

At that age, my kid was wearing mostly Gap, Old Navy, Target. Very little athletic wear but that was her preference. She also had Carter and Osh Kosh and Hanna (leggings), but nothing that screams these brands, mainly plain stuff. I think it can vary widely by school. At my DD's school, the girls basically did not care what others wore -- it just never came up. They didn't know or care about brands. It is still that way in 5th grade, and it was me worrying unnecessarily.

If you want to fit in, get her a couple outfits for the first couple days of school, then do more shopping once you see what other kids are wearing.

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Anonymous wrote:Athleta had a really limited selection in girls sizes.

My DDs like Old Navy, Target, Nordstrom Rack, Dillards, and they LOVE getting boxes from Stitch Fix—the prices are reasonable for kids’ clothing. Also Justice, but that’s online only now.

I really hope the Hanna Anderson post was a lame attempt at a joke.

Hanna has plenty of cute solids and tops that aren't babyish. No wonder your daughters are snobby. No way I'd like my kid wear athletic clothes to school.

hanna is for kids whose parents insist they wear it. No tween is wearing it by choice

Are 4th graders tweens? Mine's 8.

NP-Reasonable question. Mine is going to turn 10 in December and very much between becoming a teen and still being a “big kid”.
We shopped together online at Target, Kohl’s and Tea Collection. Mine wanted more “girly things” compared to the last two years when we have avoided newer and nicer clothing figuring we were either home where no one could see us or out hiking. I helped steer away from things that I thought were going to be too young when she resumes full time being with peers. We’re entering a middle ground that can be hard to navigate.

I’d love advice for shoes! The sneaker-sole maryjanes from Jambu and Merrell don’t exist in her size any more. What do kids this age wear besides sneakers or sandles without being dressy shoes?

Some ideas:
https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=707452002&cid=6070&pcid=6070&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ATees&cpos=47&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D6070&cvar=16849&ctype=Listing&cpid=res21080314611038103984221#pdp-page-content
https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=707449002&cid=6070&pcid=6070&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ATees&cpos=208&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D6070&ctype=Listing&cpid=res21080314611038103984221#pdp-page-content
https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=737132052&cid=6070&pcid=6070&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop+Girls+Categories%3ATees&cpos=283&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D6070&ctype=Listing&cpid=res21080314611038103984221#pdp-page-content
https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=694796002&cid=6070&pcid=6070&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ATees&cpos=391&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D6070&ctype=Listing&cpid=res21080314611038103984221#pdp-page-content

Target is pretty good. Cute t-shirts and they sell some athletic clothes as well. DD who is going into 4th loves dry wicking shirts when it is hot outside. Old Navy is also a fav to get some tees at.

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Anonymous wrote:Athleta had a really limited selection in girls sizes.

My DDs like Old Navy, Target, Nordstrom Rack, Dillards, and they LOVE getting boxes from Stitch Fix—the prices are reasonable for kids’ clothing. Also Justice, but that’s online only now.

I really hope the Hanna Anderson post was a lame attempt at a joke.

Hanna has plenty of cute solids and tops that aren't babyish. No wonder your daughters are snobby. No way I'd like my kid wear athletic clothes to school.

hanna is for kids whose parents insist they wear it. No tween is wearing it by choice

Are 4th graders tweens? Mine's 8.

Funny to see all these people arguing. This is so dependent on your child's personality. Some kids this age care a lot about what they wear. Others, like my daughter, don't have much of an opinion. I've asked my daughter if she wants to go shopping and she had a few requests in terms of color and style, but nothing about brands at all.

She also doesn't prefer athletic clothing because she finds athletic leggings, for example, to be too tight and she doesn't like wide waistbands. This summer, her friends and campmates have all been wearing similar cotton shorts and t-shirts, some girls wear the bike shorts and longer t-shirts that are trendy and some wear short or mid-length shorts and regular t-shirts. This is 2nd - 6th graders and none of them seem particularly trendy.

Anonymous wrote:Also, my kids wear athletic clothes to school because they are athletes and have PE, running club, etc. My DD got the most pull-ups in the school by a wide margin.

Congratulations? I'm sure her outfit was key to her success.