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Anonymous wrote:Personally, yes, because we emphasize academics, believe the education, classmates, and overall experience is superior at an excellent school, and have kids with the expected stats. That said, a parent can’t expect the unreasonable. If your kid isn’t taking a rigorous curriculum, getting excellent grades, scoring a 34/1500 on the ACT/SAT, then it’s not realistic to expect admission to prestigious college. In that case, one can’t be embarrassed about something that was never obtainable.

But excellence and prestige are not necessarily the same thing.

True dat. My DC wants to ED Carleton. One of her friends Moms (who doesn’t have the best social skills) asked why she’d apply to a school no one had ever heard of. Excellent SLAC. Not necessarily prestigious in the DMV.

Kinda like UVA is not necessarily prestigious outside the DMV.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid can’t get into one, are you embarrassed?

honestly, yes, but that's because my expectations have been pretty high, went private K-8 then public HS, and I think of my kid as quite smart and though straight A student not an overachiever, not going the extra mile, never seriously aiming for top 20 .. I didn't push my kid, didn't tutor, felt some guilt about it when lower than expected SAT score came back first round and thought 'what if not getting into state flagship?', the idea of community college kinda didn't appeal to me, had a knot in my stomach about it

in the end, got into state flagship honors but no scholarship

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, yes, because we emphasize academics, believe the education, classmates, and overall experience is superior at an excellent school, and have kids with the expected stats. That said, a parent can’t expect the unreasonable. If your kid isn’t taking a rigorous curriculum, getting excellent grades, scoring a 34/1500 on the ACT/SAT, then it’s not realistic to expect admission to prestigious college. In that case, one can’t be embarrassed about something that was never obtainable.

But excellence and prestige are not necessarily the same thing.

True dat. My DC wants to ED Carleton. One of her friends Moms (who doesn’t have the best social skills) asked why she’d apply to a school no one had ever heard of. Excellent SLAC. Not necessarily prestigious in the DMV.

Anonymous wrote:I’m proud that my kid could go to a prestigious school if he wanted to, but I’m also proud that he is down to earth and choose a different path. It’s a great school, especially for his major, but it’s a large public school that I don’t think anyone has ever framed as “prestigious”.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My selfworth is wrapped up in DC’s success but therapy has helped us get through this trying time. Thoughts and prayers would be very much appreciated.

Can you recommend your therapist? Some mornings I wake up and feel great for about 30 seconds, until despair takes over as I ponder a future where my child could be exiled to a lesser Ivy or even (lowers voice) a CTCL school. I mean, what would people I know superficially at best say behind my back? Some days it’s just all too much. As I curled up in bed sobbing this morning, my kid told me to Get A Life.

Maybe a DCUM CTCL parent support group?

True story: I went to a party right after my oldest had gotten accepted into UVA. Another parent was talking about her daughter getting accepted into a CTCL school. I had never heard of the school. She described it as “warm.” I could tell she was embarrassed. I was embarrassed for her.

So awkward.

Are you saying UVA is prestigious?? Huh… I mean your story works if your DC was going to Columbia, but UVA??

Yes UVA is prestigious

+1 Students with 1500+ SATs get rejected all the time from UVA. Anyone who thinks UVA isn’t prestigious is just a boomer who hasn’t applied to college in 30-40+ years

Plenty of kids get accepted to UVA with 1400 or less SAT.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My selfworth is wrapped up in DC’s success but therapy has helped us get through this trying time. Thoughts and prayers would be very much appreciated.

Can you recommend your therapist? Some mornings I wake up and feel great for about 30 seconds, until despair takes over as I ponder a future where my child could be exiled to a lesser Ivy or even (lowers voice) a CTCL school. I mean, what would people I know superficially at best say behind my back? Some days it’s just all too much. As I curled up in bed sobbing this morning, my kid told me to Get A Life.

Maybe a DCUM CTCL parent support group?

True story: I went to a party right after my oldest had gotten accepted into UVA. Another parent was talking about her daughter getting accepted into a CTCL school. I had never heard of the school. She described it as “warm.” I could tell she was embarrassed. I was embarrassed for her.

So awkward.

Are you saying UVA is prestigious?? Huh… I mean your story works if your DC was going to Columbia, but UVA??

Yes UVA is prestigious

+1 Students with 1500+ SATs get rejected all the time from UVA. Anyone who thinks UVA isn’t prestigious is just a boomer who hasn’t applied to college in 30-40+ years

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My selfworth is wrapped up in DC’s success but therapy has helped us get through this trying time. Thoughts and prayers would be very much appreciated.

Can you recommend your therapist? Some mornings I wake up and feel great for about 30 seconds, until despair takes over as I ponder a future where my child could be exiled to a lesser Ivy or even (lowers voice) a CTCL school. I mean, what would people I know superficially at best say behind my back? Some days it’s just all too much. As I curled up in bed sobbing this morning, my kid told me to Get A Life.

Maybe a DCUM CTCL parent support group?

True story: I went to a party right after my oldest had gotten accepted into UVA. Another parent was talking about her daughter getting accepted into a CTCL school. I had never heard of the school. She described it as “warm.” I could tell she was embarrassed. I was embarrassed for her.

So awkward.

Are you saying UVA is prestigious?? Huh… I mean your story works if your DC was going to Columbia, but UVA??

Yes UVA is prestigious

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My selfworth is wrapped up in DC’s success but therapy has helped us get through this trying time. Thoughts and prayers would be very much appreciated.

Can you recommend your therapist? Some mornings I wake up and feel great for about 30 seconds, until despair takes over as I ponder a future where my child could be exiled to a lesser Ivy or even (lowers voice) a CTCL school. I mean, what would people I know superficially at best say behind my back? Some days it’s just all too much. As I curled up in bed sobbing this morning, my kid told me to Get A Life.

Maybe a DCUM CTCL parent support group?

True story: I went to a party right after my oldest had gotten accepted into UVA. Another parent was talking about her daughter getting accepted into a CTCL school. I had never heard of the school. She described it as “warm.” I could tell she was embarrassed. I was embarrassed for her.

So awkward.

Are you saying UVA is prestigious?? Huh… I mean your story works if your DC was going to Columbia, but UVA??