Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 21:13     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
OP no not normal. Completely strange that a child would ask those questions.



Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 21:13     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I think this is only threatening if you think sexuality is threatening. It’s natural and repressing it causes even more issues than just being ok with it.

I guess it depends on your definition of flirt also. Flirt as in show positive attention, being a warm and friendly human being, is fine in my book. Obviously leering or inappropriate comments are yuck.


I think it’s fine to talk to someone of the opposite sex if it’s the same way you’d talk to someone of the same sex.

But if you’re “warm and friendly” with the opposite sex and not same sex, it’s just weird, creepy, makes everyone else uncomfortable, and makes you look desperate for attention. Sorry, but I don’t want someone to express their sexuality with me or my spouse.


+ 1000
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 21:12     Subject: Re:Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes of course and if I become friendly with the dad I always make an effort to become friendly with the wife too. The dad so talk to the most I actually started out wanting to friends with the wife first but she was kind of aloof and he was more approachable and now he and I are friends. We have gone through periods of texting all day but it’s mostly bc we both have anxiety and I would feel comfortable with her reading everything that is written and often send my greeting a to her through him, happy bday etc, but she still does not reciprocate which bums me out a little.



I probably would reciprocate with a woman who thought it was appropriate to text my husband all day and discuss the details of his anxiety either.


Lol we don’t discuss his anxiety! He just does it because he is anxious. It could not be more harmless. We don’t even live in the same state!



It doesn't matter where you live or even if the conversation is "harmless". It's still not appropriate to be texting someone's spouse that way.


I have plenty of guy friends from pre marriage days. We text. We talk on the phone. We discuss relationships. It’s not a big deal.


Why is it that some women have a hard time accepting things change when their guy pal gets married. That texting him all hours of the day is no longer appropriate?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 21:11     Subject: Re:Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes of course and if I become friendly with the dad I always make an effort to become friendly with the wife too. The dad so talk to the most I actually started out wanting to friends with the wife first but she was kind of aloof and he was more approachable and now he and I are friends. We have gone through periods of texting all day but it’s mostly bc we both have anxiety and I would feel comfortable with her reading everything that is written and often send my greeting a to her through him, happy bday etc, but she still does not reciprocate which bums me out a little.



I probably would reciprocate with a woman who thought it was appropriate to text my husband all day and discuss the details of his anxiety either.


Lol we don’t discuss his anxiety! He just does it because he is anxious. It could not be more harmless. We don’t even live in the same state!



It doesn't matter where you live or even if the conversation is "harmless". It's still not appropriate to be texting someone's spouse that way.


I have plenty of guy friends from pre marriage days. We text. We talk on the phone. We discuss relationships. It’s not a big deal.


Do you spend all day doing it? It's not a big deal for you because you are not his wife who needs him to be other things for his family instead of talking and texting you all day.


And it's really inappropriate for you to be discussing details of your relationships.

Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 21:01     Subject: Re:Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes of course and if I become friendly with the dad I always make an effort to become friendly with the wife too. The dad so talk to the most I actually started out wanting to friends with the wife first but she was kind of aloof and he was more approachable and now he and I are friends. We have gone through periods of texting all day but it’s mostly bc we both have anxiety and I would feel comfortable with her reading everything that is written and often send my greeting a to her through him, happy bday etc, but she still does not reciprocate which bums me out a little.



I probably would reciprocate with a woman who thought it was appropriate to text my husband all day and discuss the details of his anxiety either.


Lol we don’t discuss his anxiety! He just does it because he is anxious. It could not be more harmless. We don’t even live in the same state!



It doesn't matter where you live or even if the conversation is "harmless". It's still not appropriate to be texting someone's spouse that way.


I have plenty of guy friends from pre marriage days. We text. We talk on the phone. We discuss relationships. It’s not a big deal.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:58     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?

I sometimes wonder if instead of repressed, brain-washed women posting the ultra-conservative tripe on the Relationship Forum (I don’t talk to men who are not my husband, it’s too sexual! Nothing but full coverage swimsuits at the community pool, otherwise it’s too sexual!). it’s actual men posing as women. Just to stir the pot and troll.

Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:53     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I think this is only threatening if you think sexuality is threatening. It’s natural and repressing it causes even more issues than just being ok with it.

I guess it depends on your definition of flirt also. Flirt as in show positive attention, being a warm and friendly human being, is fine in my book. Obviously leering or inappropriate comments are yuck.


I think it’s fine to talk to someone of the opposite sex if it’s the same way you’d talk to someone of the same sex.

But if you’re “warm and friendly” with the opposite sex and not same sex, it’s just weird, creepy, makes everyone else uncomfortable, and makes you look desperate for attention. Sorry, but I don’t want someone to express their sexuality with me or my spouse.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:41     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


NP. The problem is when people think being normal/friendly is “flirting”.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:34     Subject: Re:Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes of course and if I become friendly with the dad I always make an effort to become friendly with the wife too. The dad so talk to the most I actually started out wanting to friends with the wife first but she was kind of aloof and he was more approachable and now he and I are friends. We have gone through periods of texting all day but it’s mostly bc we both have anxiety and I would feel comfortable with her reading everything that is written and often send my greeting a to her through him, happy bday etc, but she still does not reciprocate which bums me out a little.



I probably would reciprocate with a woman who thought it was appropriate to text my husband all day and discuss the details of his anxiety either.


Lol we don’t discuss his anxiety! He just does it because he is anxious. It could not be more harmless. We don’t even live in the same state!



It doesn't matter where you live or even if the conversation is "harmless". It's still not appropriate to be texting someone's spouse that way.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:28     Subject: Re:Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes of course and if I become friendly with the dad I always make an effort to become friendly with the wife too. The dad so talk to the most I actually started out wanting to friends with the wife first but she was kind of aloof and he was more approachable and now he and I are friends. We have gone through periods of texting all day but it’s mostly bc we both have anxiety and I would feel comfortable with her reading everything that is written and often send my greeting a to her through him, happy bday etc, but she still does not reciprocate which bums me out a little.



I probably would reciprocate with a woman who thought it was appropriate to text my husband all day and discuss the details of his anxiety either.


Lol we don’t discuss his anxiety! He just does it because he is anxious. It could not be more harmless. We don’t even live in the same state!
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:07     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I think this is only threatening if you think sexuality is threatening. It’s natural and repressing it causes even more issues than just being ok with it.

I guess it depends on your definition of flirt also. Flirt as in show positive attention, being a warm and friendly human being, is fine in my book. Obviously leering or inappropriate comments are yuck.



When I got married I made a choice to repress some of my sexuality or at least only openly express it with one person.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:06     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I think this is only threatening if you think sexuality is threatening. It’s natural and repressing it causes even more issues than just being ok with it.

I guess it depends on your definition of flirt also. Flirt as in show positive attention, being a warm and friendly human being, is fine in my book. Obviously leering or inappropriate comments are yuck.



Why do you interact with someone of the opposite sex need to be sexual? Can you not have a friendly interaction that brings positive attention to a person without it being sexual?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:05     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I think this is only threatening if you think sexuality is threatening. It’s natural and repressing it causes even more issues than just being ok with it.

I guess it depends on your definition of flirt also. Flirt as in show positive attention, being a warm and friendly human being, is fine in my book. Obviously leering or inappropriate comments are yuck.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:04     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.


I agree. I made the distinction between flirting and talking here because some people cannot have a conversation with the opposite sex without flirting.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2021 20:00     Subject: Do you talk to parents of the opposite sex?
Anonymous wrote:Dad's probably a cheater.


But it's totally fine to talk to parents of the opposite sex. Talk not flirt, I generally consider flirting in font of your kids tacky.


I generally consider flirting with anyone when you’re married to be tacky.