Late April/early May is perfect. Great weather for pregnancy,
a summer of maternity leave, and birthday parties for the kid. People aren’t travelling so they’ll get lots of party attendees and it’s usually very pretty that time of year.

16:08 here, I should add that I'm also a big planner but while I planned when to start trying, it's impossible to truly pin down what month you end up conceiving unless maybe you're doing assisted reproductive methods.

November was nice for me. (Granted, I have a supportive family who came to me during Thanksgiving/Christmas so I didn't have to travel.) Your "newborn quarantine" is during winter so you don't have FOMO about going out and doing stuff. I was pregnant during summer and it sucked, but wasn't a dealbreaker.

During covid I would go for a summer or early fall baby

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have other children or a career to consider?

OP here. No other kids. This would be my first! My husband and I both work, relatively long hours. I am a super cautious, super planner so I want to make sure I am as informed as possible and this is really going to be something I can do.

Let me just say, OP, that the first lesson you need to learn is that your super planner lifestyle will go out the window the day your child is born. Ten years from now, you will look back on this post and marvel at the naivety that you are displaying here.

Maybe, but maybe not. I'm also a super planner and things worked out for us - I wanted to have kids spaced roughly 2-3 years apart with birthdays between Feb and July and that's how things went.

I think April/May are best. My first was born early May, great for teachers! My second is due early August, I love summer, but hard to be super pregnant in this heat.

Anonymous wrote:I wanted April/May. Warm enough to be able to go for walks and not worry about flu season in the hospital, birthdays during the school year (a big deal for kids!) and no question about sending to K on time. I’m also a teacher, so it would be logistically easy to take off the rest of the school year and wait until august for day care.

I got feb and March because mine decided to be premies though, lol.

I will 2nd April/May as the best months to have a baby. You are super pregnant during the cooler months, have the baby after the indoor germs months and it is warm enough to go for walks. My first 2 kids were born in April and May and it was great. Number 3 was born in February. He ended up with RSV at 4 weeks old and spent a week in the hospital. While we were there the nurses very seriously told me to never purposely have a baby in the winter. Our 4th was born at the end of April and it was great.

Anonymous wrote:My first was born in November, my second in July. Before having my second I didn’t realize that by having a summer baby , you basically spend up to 1 year less in daycare costs. I will end up paying 8 months more in daycare costs for my first over my second baby. So I say summer baby is the best! It’s also nice to have birthdays outside in the summer too.

Fair point about daycare costs. I have November and December babies, and one unexpected perk is they were both toilet trained around age 3 (a little earlier for my DD, a little later for my DS), which meant I didn’t have to worry about them being toilet trained for Pre-K3. Some of the moms of August and September babies were very anxious about their kids being toilet trained by the time preschool started. Pros and cons to everything.

My first was born in November, my second in July. Before having my second I didn’t realize that by having a summer baby , you basically spend up to 1 year less in daycare costs. I will end up paying 8 months more in daycare costs for my first over my second baby. So I say summer baby is the best! It’s also nice to have birthdays outside in the summer too.

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Anonymous wrote:I think these comments about OP being a super planner are unnecessary and rude. I know lots of people who have gotten pregnant on the first try. OP isn't an idiot, I'm sure she understands that kids mean chaos. Just answer her question.

I've had a Winter baby and Spring baby and spring was much better. So much easier to go for walks without having to bundle everyone up. I'd say the best months are March-June.

Sorry, but I disagree. The comments are not "rude." People need to understand that when they go to DCUM with a question... well, sometimes the wording in the question tips them off as a bit neurotic. People will note that, especially when it has to do with parenthood.

OP here. Maybe I am a bit neurotic. Even with all of my flaws, I hope I can still be a mom. Was just excited to get some friendly advice. I appreciate all of those who have responded. I have learned a great deal.

Loved my April baby. Basically got to spend my entire summer off with her.

I would have liked spring, but my fertility didn't cooperate. That being said, I and my two kids are all winter babies and it's not bad at all to have lots of celebrations when everything is dark and cold!

I planned to have a baby in June and I had my baby in June. You can plan and if it doesn’t work out, rework your plans. Silly to pretend no one gets pregnant within the first month or few months of trying. I would shoot for a season and not a single month and do your best to make that happen.

March-april is right in the middle of the pack age wise for school too

March. Not too hot or cold.