God, no.

I used to drink with my son when I visited him at school, take part in fraternity tailgates, buy rounds at the bar for his friends. We don’t get wasted but I see nothing wrong with having drinks with another adult.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up around here and see parents I knew in high school who are now in their 50s posting pics of hanging out at Dewey bars and college tailgates/bars proudly drinking away with their college children. I think it is very immature and just terrible for their health.

Heh. My husband and I (both 52) joined our daughter for a tailgate at a Michigan football game last weekend. There may have been drinking games. My daughter had no clue I even knew how to play beer pong, let alone my skills 🤣 We're certainly not doing that every weekend, but life is just too short to be perfectly mature and healthy all the time.

We've done similarly. One off events, and we model responsible behavior (never drive) and don't make fools of ourselves, but we might drink a little more than we would normally. It's one of the fun things about having older children.

But I get this doesn't work for everyone and if you have bad drunks/alcoholics in your family this would seem like a horrible choice. I have a BIL who gets super beligerent every time he's drunk, but thank goodness he doesn't have kids.

Some friends of ours host a NYE party every year and there is a lot of drinking going on. Sometimes, their adult children (20’s) are in town and at the party and they are doing shots with the late 50’s/early 60’s crowd. It has always seemed odd to me. I am not a big drinker (a glass of wine once in a while) so it hasn’t come up with my adult children.

We drink very little. The kids don’t seem interested for which I am very grateful.

If they drank, it would be fine with me. But they say it’s not appealing.

Anonymous wrote:I grew up around here and see parents I knew in high school who are now in their 50s posting pics of hanging out at Dewey bars and college tailgates/bars proudly drinking away with their college children. I think it is very immature and just terrible for their health.

Heh. My husband and I (both 52) joined our daughter for a tailgate at a Michigan football game last weekend. There may have been drinking games. My daughter had no clue I even knew how to play beer pong, let alone my skills 🤣 We're certainly not doing that every weekend, but life is just too short to be perfectly mature and healthy all the time.

Have you ever been to an Irish celebration or wake?

My alcoholic parents were cool with it.

Anonymous wrote:Wine with dinner or drinks at a party, sure. I don't "party" in the sense that it's a verb anymore, so no one is drinking in excess or getting drunk in these scenarios.

Yeah, this just killed me.
Time to grow up, OP
You don't want to be that 80 year old who likes to "party."

Wine with dinner or drinks at a party, sure. I don't "party" in the sense that it's a verb anymore, so no one is drinking in excess or getting drunk in these scenarios.

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Anonymous wrote:What is worse is the people who smoke weed with their kids.

Totally agree. This is the epitome of immaturity and bad parenting.

I hope my kids want to eat mushrooms.

And with me.

I'm 42 and now smoke pot with my 23 year old half brother.

It's great.

Loosen up people. I probably drink 10 times a year and more than half are celebrations in which my adult 20 something kids are present. I might overindulge once or twice a year, and my husband too but likely at different events. My kids drink more frequently, rarely get drunk but mostly do get tipsy. No one drives. They exercise regularly and have productive jobs. No one intends to get wasted but it sometimes happens. Glad I don’t have all you moral police around at our events!!

Anonymous wrote:What is worse is the people who smoke weed with their kids.

Totally agree. This is the epitome of immaturity and bad parenting.

What is worse is the people who smoke weed with their kids.