Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:17     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
It was not in the for common use by all shed. It was in the do not use if you don't own it shed. They decided to ignore the family beach house rules. They should pay to replace.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:16     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One of the owners is my husband's father. The other 2 owners are the dads brother and sister (cousin's mom).
The boogie board was $275.
The child that broke the board wasn't staying at the house, but they were all at the beach at the same time.
We have other things at the house that we allow others to use and these are in the main shed or in the house. I disagree with some of you about just letting this go. The rules of the house were clear. We have not had issues in the past 12 years that we have been using it. If it was me who damaged something, I'd replace it, and we did this once when we bought a new beach umbrella when the old one another cousin contributed broke as I was opening it.
Glad the cousin finally agreed to compensate us and annoyed his mom is getting in the middle.

If this family is like most families, they will all talk about you guys and how ungrateful and cheap you were. I hope the $137.50 was worth it.


+1. I think your cousin is a massive douche, but, you played this wrong. EVERYONE is talking about you now and how cheap you are. You should have taken the $137.50 (or even better said to forget about, nbd). Then you could complain about your cousin to all the family and tell them how he uses stuff out of the "owners' shed" and doesn't replace it. You would be the hero, and maybe you could figure out a way to quietly get back at your terrible cousin. Play the long game my friend.


I’d rather have my $137.50 than some sort of Machiavellian upper hand. You sound like a dreadful person.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:11     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.


Agree. Maybe op is out of touch because she gets a free beach house but a rental for the week could easily be 2K.


Agree. On principle, the cousin should have paid. But who truly cares about a few hundred bucks when you get a free beach house and free storage?! The OP messed up here and everyone will be talking about them.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:04     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.


Agree. Maybe op is out of touch because she gets a free beach house but a rental for the week could easily be 2K.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:02     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
I used to be really jealous of people who had "family beach houses" that they could use, then I found DCUM and found out that it probably sucks.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:02     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Oof this is awkward. If you didn’t pay for the beach house (seems like you’re not an owner) I would let it go. You’re getting a vacation house for free and storing stuff there, which is “agreed upon” but also kind of a PITA for the three owners to have any number of people storing stuff. I’d have said “no problem” and just bought your kid another. Unless you’ve been making contribution gestures over the years (we’ve done this with a siblings vacation house…don’t pay rent but give things each time we go that are pretty equivalent to rent: furniture, etc…).
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:01     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One of the owners is my husband's father. The other 2 owners are the dads brother and sister (cousin's mom).
The boogie board was $275.
The child that broke the board wasn't staying at the house, but they were all at the beach at the same time.
We have other things at the house that we allow others to use and these are in the main shed or in the house. I disagree with some of you about just letting this go. The rules of the house were clear. We have not had issues in the past 12 years that we have been using it. If it was me who damaged something, I'd replace it, and we did this once when we bought a new beach umbrella when the old one another cousin contributed broke as I was opening it.
Glad the cousin finally agreed to compensate us and annoyed his mom is getting in the middle.

If this family is like most families, they will all talk about you guys and how ungrateful and cheap you were. I hope the $137.50 was worth it.


+1. I think your cousin is a massive douche, but, you played this wrong. EVERYONE is talking about you now and how cheap you are. You should have taken the $137.50 (or even better said to forget about, nbd). Then you could complain about your cousin to all the family and tell them how he uses stuff out of the "owners' shed" and doesn't replace it. You would be the hero, and maybe you could figure out a way to quietly get back at your terrible cousin. Play the long game my friend.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 08:00     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:Team OP. The DH and the cousin have equal right to the house. DH’s father is a co-owner. The cousin had a nerve offering to pay 50%. He should replace what broke as a result of him healing himself when he shouldn’t have. According to the social norms of the house, he should have asked first. I OP’s husband could have asked him to replace it and that would have cost the full amount. Aunt needs to butt out.


+1. You break something, you replace it, at whatever price it will cost to repurchase the item.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:59     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.


Nope. Not aunt’s house. She co-owns it with OP’s father.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:58     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.


Talk about biting the hands that feed you. Aunt could be well within her rights to now say, “Due to the squabbling, either we stop the policy of people being allowed to leave stuff here, or better yet, no more guests other than the owners.”
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:56     Subject: Re:shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:One of the owners is my husband's father. The other 2 owners are the dads brother and sister (cousin's mom).
The boogie board was $275.
The child that broke the board wasn't staying at the house, but they were all at the beach at the same time.
We have other things at the house that we allow others to use and these are in the main shed or in the house. I disagree with some of you about just letting this go. The rules of the house were clear. We have not had issues in the past 12 years that we have been using it. If it was me who damaged something, I'd replace it, and we did this once when we bought a new beach umbrella when the old one another cousin contributed broke as I was opening it.
Glad the cousin finally agreed to compensate us and annoyed his mom is getting in the middle.

If this family is like most families, they will all talk about you guys and how ungrateful and cheap you were. I hope the $137.50 was worth it.


Right? Freebie moocher vacation and you’re haggling over $137?
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:54     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have asked them too pay for full replacement. If it was so special/irreplaceable, you shouldn’t have left it there.


Bingo. There are rules, yes, but…stuff happens. And your husband isn’t an OWNER, so he doesn’t get to store things as an owner would. You are NOT OWNERS, so your stuff should be in-and-out.

The cousin isn't an owner either. The cousin took an item, that according to the family rules was not to be touched/shared by other family members, and proceeded to have a friend's child (not even a family member!) jump on it and break it. Cousin was in the wrong here.

Cousin is not an owner, also got free use of the beach house, proceeded to take something that didn't belong to him and break it. And this is OP's fault how?

Team OP.


Can’t take something that isn’t left. Don’t act like an owner. If everyone who comes through leaving stuff behind, especially unlabeled/no note saying “Call Jim at 703-555-5555 if you want to borrow,” then what happens, happens. Don’t leave your shyt. Not everyone can leave their stuff without the place looking completely junky, and items getting mixed up, and “oh let’s put it in this shed because this garage is full.” Stop. You’re a guest, act like one.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:53     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
This is penny wise and pound foolish as the aunt could start charging you rent the week you stay.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:53     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:You sicken me with your pettiness and greed.


It’s not pettiness and greed. I was a PP who said she should have accepted the 50% and never left anything there again, but come on. The house has rules that everyone has followed for 12 years, and the cousin broke them, and then acted like a cheap jerk. Not everyone is rich enough to replace an expensive item with no issue. But lesson learned, don’t leave anything expensive somewhere you may lose it.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2021 07:50     Subject: shared family beach house - issue with damaged item
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have asked them too pay for full replacement. If it was so special/irreplaceable, you shouldn’t have left it there.


Bingo. There are rules, yes, but…stuff happens. And your husband isn’t an OWNER, so he doesn’t get to store things as an owner would. You are NOT OWNERS, so your stuff should be in-and-out.

The cousin isn't an owner either. The cousin took an item, that according to the family rules was not to be touched/shared by other family members, and proceeded to have a friend's child (not even a family member!) jump on it and break it. Cousin was in the wrong here.

Cousin is not an owner, also got free use of the beach house, proceeded to take something that didn't belong to him and break it. And this is OP's fault how?

Team OP.