Anonymous wrote:Depends. Are the other parents telling you they are concerned about your child's mental health or safety because of things she is telling their child. Or are they concerned her second ear piercing makes her look cheap and will be shunned by the proper kids.

+1 to bolded. OP, to be very blunt the only way to do this is to cut them off via phone, physically, everything until they move on. Can you ship them off somewhere or keep them so busy they can't get together with the other teen? Work on getting them into things that will build their skillset and esteem with better quality people than this other friend assuming that they are indeed toxic.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is stupid. The OP is too vague for anyone to provide advice.

+1

Nobody has any idea what she's even asking or what the problem is. People giving advice just as useless.

OP is vague because she knows she's is likely in the wrong. That she is blaming everything on the friend and other parent is very telling.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and speculate wildly that you’re going through a very difficult time, where you’re feeling a lack of agency and a ton of stress, and are fixating on this person and their intrusion, which is not really the problem at all, but feels more manageable than the real issues, which are daunting.

Agree this is very hard to answer without context

I don’t mean this to come off flip but I find it interesting that you want to control the kid and his family’s actions, but not those most in your control - your own child and yourself. Perhaps an honest conversation with your child about what a true friend looks like would be a start, as well as a discussion about openness and privacy.

Obviously your child doesn't share your impressions the Friend is undermining them if your child continues to share. Talk more with your child about this and how the Friend's parents are inserting themselves given the info they are getting secondhand. You need to convince your child to stop sharing.

As for the parents, just say, "We'll handle this ourselves thank you."

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is stupid. The OP is too vague for anyone to provide advice.

+1

Nobody has any idea what she's even asking or what the problem is. People giving advice just as useless.

Yep. All we can do is guess. Is dd anorexic and OP is trying to get it under control, and dd is sharing with friend in an overly emotional, exaggerated way that friend is then telling her own mom. The mom thinks she knows best for everyone, so feeling it's her duty to talk to OP.

It also could also be something as simple as OP won't let her teen get vaccinated, which makes it hard for the kid to do certain things. So friend's mom calls and to encourage her to get vaccinated. (I happen to agree she should get vaccinated, but never in a million years would tell someone how to parent their child.)

Anonymous wrote:This thread is stupid. The OP is too vague for anyone to provide advice.

+1

Nobody has any idea what she's even asking or what the problem is. People giving advice just as useless.