Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates, despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. Am I the only one who cares about this?

Stop inviting her over.

My own kids aren't allowed in the master without permission. I'm certainly not allowing random kids in.

Why? That’s so ridiculous.

Other people having different preferences about private spaces *in their own home* is ridiculous? It’s fine if you are fine with kids being in your bedroom, but surely you understand that People Are Different From You?

You sound like a rude, clueless boundary-stomper who raises rude children.

I teach my kids not to go upstairs at all unless invited. If it's a rambler, they are not to go into bedrooms for the same reason.

I’m honestly baffled by this thread. What is in there?? A large collection of s*x toys?

Anonymous wrote:Why not just lock the door?

+1

My kids go in our bedroom all the time, and I know at least one parent of a friend also lets her daughter in often, so it would truly never occur to me to give this instruction. In fact it would often be most appropriate for them to come use our bathroom instead of the other second floor bathroom, like if the au pair were in the other bathroom getting ready to go out.

In case of a locked doorknob, I have a little metal thingy that pops the lock from the outside hallway. Every once in awhile, my kids would inadvertently lock their door (just a simple push button) and fall asleep.

My kids were always welcome in my room but rarely went in because I didn’t make it a big deal. Some of you are so uptight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If I want them out of our bedroom, I lock the door, but otherwise I let the kids go wherever. Our master bedroom isn't that interesting for a kid (no toys), so I don't find this to be a problem.

Where do you hide gifts and things like that?

High up in our closet in a shelf that's out of kid eyesight. There's really nothing I would worry about having a kid break in our bedroom, and again, there's not much of interest for a kid in there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So surprised so many people have outside locks on bedroom doors.

It's not normal. It's only for people who are not doing a good job of raising their kids.

Yeah, we’re in a 110-year old row house with the original doors. There’s no locking any bedroom doors. The only door that locks in our house is the laundry room/workshop in our finished basement. That was locked when kids were younger because of safety reasons.

Anonymous wrote:Nope. If I want them out of our bedroom, I lock the door, but otherwise I let the kids go wherever. Our master bedroom isn't that interesting for a kid (no toys), so I don't find this to be a problem.

Where do you hide gifts and things like that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates, despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. Am I the only one who cares about this?

Stop inviting her over.

My own kids aren't allowed in the master without permission. I'm certainly not allowing random kids in.

Why? That’s so ridiculous.

Why does a kid need to be hanging out in the master bedroom? They have their own rooms and play areas and the rest of the house.

Anonymous wrote:So surprised so many people have outside locks on bedroom doors.

It's not normal. It's only for people who are not doing a good job of raising their kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is one of my daughter’s friends who always goes into the primary bedroom during play dates, despite us repeatedly telling her not to. Should I say something to the parents?

I personally have taught my daughters not to go in the parents’ bedrooms or other private areas of the home during a play date. Am I the only one who cares about this?

Stop inviting her over.

My own kids aren't allowed in the master without permission. I'm certainly not allowing random kids in.

Why? That’s so ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:So surprised so many people have outside locks on bedroom doors.

Ah ok, I understand now. I lock my bedroom door when I'm inside and don't want a kid coming in (on a work call, showering etc.) I think we can lock our door from the outside with a key but I don't do that, because 1) I don't care, and 2) we've never had a situation where a kid just barged in even though the door was closed.

So surprised so many people have outside locks on bedroom doors.