Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He needs to pack his own lunches.
Why? What's wrong with mom/dad packing the lunch?
Many spouses pack up for each other, why not the kids?
I do not think this is true, but the answer is that the teen is supposed to be learning how to be an independent adult, not waiting to transition from parent to spouse.
Goodness. Would it be acceptable to you if the teen is making dinner for the entire family three times per week, but the parent packs the lunch? Maybe parent works late and the teen contributes to the family through dinners, or housecleaning, or yardwork, or laundry for everyone. And parent gets up early and likes to do some stuff for the famiyl before leaving for work.
I am a STRONG believer that independence is important and that we should be focused on raising functional adults. But that does not equate to doing nothing at all for the child. In fact, modeling a shared distribution of duties and acts of kindness for eachother is also part of that. Each family can find the right balance for themselves.
So many assumptions on this thread.