Anonymous
06/24/2021 11:57
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
This is first come first serve, no question.
But I don't see the problem with having multiple kids in a family having the same names. There are always variations, nicknames, etc.
But I don't see the problem with having multiple kids in a family having the same names. There are always variations, nicknames, etc.
Anonymous
06/24/2021 11:35
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
I’m the fourth and youngest child in my family. Only my sister was sensitive to one particular name I wanted to use after our grandmother. She also named for my grandmother but using a different name (that she liked better anyway). Otherwise we didn’t make an issue about names. She also wouldn’t care if I reused names of her kids.
Anonymous
06/24/2021 09:32
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:So my sister and sister-in-law and I are close, so we did this. We all like similar style of names so we each said if you felt really strongly about a name you could reserve it. We each only had one or two. It worked out. I had a name I had always wanted to use and I am so glad I got to use it for my daughter. I would have been so disappointed if one of them had used it. Our family is close, lives in the same town and gets together often. Having cousins with the same name would be weird. It wasnt hard to avoid a name or two when naming our kids.
My husbands family did not do this. His sister used a name he really really wanted for our child. We were pregnant at the time, so only missed the opportunity by a couple months. He was so disappointed. So I think it is worth having a conversation among siblings. The other person can always say no.
You could have used the name. Your SIL doesn't own the name
Anonymous
06/24/2021 09:29
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
My SIL and I were both pregnant, and due a few days apart, when my MIL was dying of cancer. DH and his sister both wanted to honor her.
So we talked. We agreed that if we both had girls, we'd handle it one way, and if we both had boys, we'd handle it another. In the end, we had one of each and both kids are named for her in different ways.
She's gone on to have other children, while this was my youngest. For the other kids, she didn't share names, but I'm really glad that in that case we did talk.
For her youngest, there was a name on her list that was one of many. It also happened to be the name of our other SIL's beloved grandmother. She asked SIL if they might want to use that name, and when SIL said yes, she chose a different name. Or would have, this was early in the pregnancy and she ended up having a boy.
So we talked. We agreed that if we both had girls, we'd handle it one way, and if we both had boys, we'd handle it another. In the end, we had one of each and both kids are named for her in different ways.
She's gone on to have other children, while this was my youngest. For the other kids, she didn't share names, but I'm really glad that in that case we did talk.
For her youngest, there was a name on her list that was one of many. It also happened to be the name of our other SIL's beloved grandmother. She asked SIL if they might want to use that name, and when SIL said yes, she chose a different name. Or would have, this was early in the pregnancy and she ended up having a boy.
Anonymous
06/24/2021 09:29
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:What's your opinion on this when choosing a name for your kid do you have to consider your siblings?
Example my sister gave her son our father's name as amiddle name. I'm currently pregnant and am using his middle name as my son's middle name and considering our grandfather's name as a first name. My sister who doesn't have kids yet but has been trying accused us of taking all the family names and acting like she's not going to be a mom.
Is this a thing? Do people really plan names to save some for siblings.
Saving names is not a thing in my family. If anyone has a problem than it is on them.
Anonymous
06/24/2021 09:20
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:My sister and I both loved the name Elizabeth growing up. My sister named her first daughter Elizabeth and I was a little sad. I kid you not, a few years later I married a guy whose last name was Borden. I was really glad I didn’t make a stink about the name being mine. I would have felt obligated to use it after that and ended up with a daughter named Lizzie Borden.
Hands down the best anecdote on this thread. Topic closed.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 22:42
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
My sister and I both loved the name Elizabeth growing up. My sister named her first daughter Elizabeth and I was a little sad. I kid you not, a few years later I married a guy whose last name was Borden. I was really glad I didn’t make a stink about the name being mine. I would have felt obligated to use it after that and ended up with a daughter named Lizzie Borden.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 22:35
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Shayla!
Anonymous
06/23/2021 22:33
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's your opinion on this when choosing a name for your kid do you have to consider your siblings?
Example my sister gave her son our father's name as amiddle name. I'm currently pregnant and am using his middle name as my son's middle name and considering our grandfather's name as a first name. My sister who doesn't have kids yet but has been trying accused us of taking all the family names and acting like she's not going to be a mom.
Is this a thing? Do people really plan names to save some for siblings.
She took Dad's name, you take Grandpa's name. Done. Don't name two cousins the same name.
Why not?! I don’t get the big deal since they’re going to have different last names. I would not have cared if my sister or brother named her son for my dad just as I did.
Even in my parents old Brooklyn neighborhood where their siblings lived within blocks of each other, a couple of my cousins had the same experience first name. Our mothers would talk about “My Michael” and “your Michael”.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 22:27
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:What's your opinion on this when choosing a name for your kid do you have to consider your siblings?
Example my sister gave her son our father's name as amiddle name. I'm currently pregnant and am using his middle name as my son's middle name and considering our grandfather's name as a first name. My sister who doesn't have kids yet but has been trying accused us of taking all the family names and acting like she's not going to be a mom.
Is this a thing? Do people really plan names to save some for siblings.
No! My cousin and I are both named for our grandmother. I named my son after my father and would have been fine with my brother doing the same.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 21:44
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:What's your opinion on this when choosing a name for your kid do you have to consider your siblings?
Example my sister gave her son our father's name as amiddle name. I'm currently pregnant and am using his middle name as my son's middle name and considering our grandfather's name as a first name. My sister who doesn't have kids yet but has been trying accused us of taking all the family names and acting like she's not going to be a mom.
Is this a thing? Do people really plan names to save some for siblings.
She took Dad's name, you take Grandpa's name. Done. Don't name two cousins the same name.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 21:40
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
I think whoever gets there first can use the name. I used my dad’s name for my son’s first name but would’ve used it as a middle name if my siblings had had sons first and one had used the name. Turns out they only had girls, so if I hadn’t used it, nobody would have!
Anonymous
06/23/2021 11:15
Subject: Re:Saving names for siblings?
I accidentally stole my brother's planned middle name. I had a girl 4 months before he and his wife had a boy. I used our mother's name as the middle; they had planned to use a shortened first syllable as my nephew's middle name. It was a made-up name but sounded male. Not the real name bc its distinctive but if my mother's name was named Camilla my nephew's middle name was going to be Cam. He didnt do it after my baby was born and while I understand I think they totally could have used it bc. They didnt share any name ideas and for me it was a last-minute decision.
Anonymous
06/23/2021 10:54
Subject: Saving names for siblings?
Anonymous wrote:My sister is married and going through IVF. Both of us absolutely loved two female names since we were little. I used one of the names for my eldest daughter. When I had my second I named her something else. Pregnant with my third girl now and will also name her something else. So yes I’m saving that name for my sister whether or not she ends up having a baby girl.
This is so sweet.