Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:40
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:38
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:RN here. Would a home PureWick be an option? I have no clue about the cost but I regularly use them on my ICU patients with a good success rate.
I'm a PP. I've heard mixed reviews, but have been intrigued. I think it's about $395/unit. I also think it's a great option for someone in the ICU or stroke victims.
I would love to hear if anyone here has used one with a cognizant patient.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:36
Subject: Re:Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
More than likely it is age related. Probably isn't helped by the fact I bet she isn't drinking enough liquids during the day so bladder isn't emptying until night time. Really a lost cause at this point to try to address.
Eldercare is like dealing with a toddler but some things might help. A bed rail and a bedside commode from walmart or Amazon. Maybe a walker to provide support from bed to commode. she either doesn't wear underwear or wears the diapers which can be ripped off (expense will add up). She will need to practice a dozen times during the day to be more comfortable at night.
Look for a 3-in-1 commode since more ways to use.
Good luck.
Eldercare is like dealing with a toddler but some things might help. A bed rail and a bedside commode from walmart or Amazon. Maybe a walker to provide support from bed to commode. she either doesn't wear underwear or wears the diapers which can be ripped off (expense will add up). She will need to practice a dozen times during the day to be more comfortable at night.
Look for a 3-in-1 commode since more ways to use.
Good luck.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:33
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you hire a night nurse?
Unfortunately Insurance won’t pay for it right now.
Can you pay for it? Something’s got to give if this is going to be an issue for more than a week. Your sleep is really important.
Depending on where they are, this could run $200/night.
She does not need a nurse, just a helper. 8 hours at $15/hour, $120. $60/night/person (mother, daugher). Totally worth it.
I am the PP. I am not referring to a nurse. I paying for a health aide now. I'm curious where you are getting 8 hour shifts for $15/hour. Depending on number of hours I am paying 16-18/hour.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:33
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
RN here. Would a home PureWick be an option? I have no clue about the cost but I regularly use them on my ICU patients with a good success rate.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:31
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Why didn't she go to a rehab for a couple of weeks? Medicare would probably pay for at least a little while.
-social worker
Case manager said this is an option only after surgery ( if she’s able to get it).
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:30
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:I’m reading all the replies and really appreciate them. I don’t mean to come across as heartless as my family and I have taken her in. She’s a difficult person in general and it puts a strain on everybody. Just trying to find ways to make things easier and less stressful for everybody.
OP, I understand, but primarily because I am there too. It is so easy to call people heartless until they are faced with the reality of personally having to care for a difficult adult. It is just different than caring for your own child. You can dictate to your child. It is next to impossible to do it with an adult.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:29
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Why didn't she go to a rehab for a couple of weeks? Medicare would probably pay for at least a little while.
-social worker
-social worker
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:29
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:RN here. Why does she need your assistance for toileting? Did she fall and cause the shoulder fracture? Is it a fear of falling issue?
Hi, yes, she had a terrible fall at her place. She called we went over, had to call 911.
If mobility and transferring are an issue, you can look into assistive devices: A grab bar for positioning, a grabber tool for helping to manage her clothing (maybe sleeping without undies is an option?), there are tools for post-toileting hygiene. Is an aide of some sort financially possible to help with this? You don't need a night NURSE. I totally get her fear of falling issue. If an aide is a possibility, perhaps she can return to her own home sooner rather than later. Also, I'd do a medication review, can some meds be moved to earlier in the day? Tell her Dr. she is only dribbling and perhaps they can add a medication to promote bladder emptying and cut down on some of her night trips.
HTH!!!
Thank you! I didn’t know there may be medication For urine dribbling . will look into it.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:27
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you hire a night nurse?
Unfortunately Insurance won’t pay for it right now.
Can you pay for it? Something’s got to give if this is going to be an issue for more than a week. Your sleep is really important.
Depending on where they are, this could run $200/night.
She does not need a nurse, just a helper. 8 hours at $15/hour, $120. $60/night/person (mother, daugher). Totally worth it.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:26
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
I’m reading all the replies and really appreciate them. I don’t mean to come across as heartless as my family and I have taken her in. She’s a difficult person in general and it puts a strain on everybody. Just trying to find ways to make things easier and less stressful for everybody.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:25
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:RN here. Why does she need your assistance for toileting? Did she fall and cause the shoulder fracture? Is it a fear of falling issue?
Hi, yes, she had a terrible fall at her place. She called we went over, had to call 911.
If mobility and transferring are an issue, you can look into assistive devices: A grab bar for positioning, a grabber tool for helping to manage her clothing (maybe sleeping without undies is an option?), there are tools for post-toileting hygiene. Is an aide of some sort financially possible to help with this? You don't need a night NURSE. I totally get her fear of falling issue. If an aide is a possibility, perhaps she can return to her own home sooner rather than later. Also, I'd do a medication review, can some meds be moved to earlier in the day? Tell her Dr. she is only dribbling and perhaps they can add a medication to promote bladder emptying and cut down on some of her night trips.
HTH!!!
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:24
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you hire a night nurse?
Unfortunately Insurance won’t pay for it right now.
Can you pay for it? Something’s got to give if this is going to be an issue for more than a week. Your sleep is really important.
I agree. Or you pay half, and your mother pays half.
You can't expect her to pee in her diaper all night long, and she can't expect you to get up every 1.5 hours.
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:24
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
Anonymous
06/17/2021 21:23
Subject: Am I being unreasonable? Mother needs to get up several times during the night
She might need to sleep in a lounger type chair so she is already sitting up. Then get herself to the bathroom or commode next to the chair.