Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

Your social climbing would be recognized immediately Android or something you would be rejected.

+1. Read the sick of strivers thread. The people that you're talking about have cultures that will be completely foreign to you. That's by design. If you're not accustomed to their ways of life, then you'll stick out like a sore thumb in most social situations you might find yourself in with them. I have extended family that is upper class (i.e., uncles, aunts, cousins) with full time household staff, multiple homes domestically and internationally and wealth going back several generations. Their ways of doing things start at birth and are passed down through the generations. It can't be faked or rather, the facade falls apart pretty quickly. Also, in certain cities, it's your last name that matters and what folks think of your parents or grandparents in terms of how you fit in socially. Folks really manage their reputations at the family level because that's part of the bargain of living up to the family name. I moved away from my hometown and am now middle aged but am still known as "so and so's" niece or daughter/granddaughter.


Your post is pretty telling - you basically want to meet people because of the money, wealth, culture and status that they have -- not because they are kind, a good person or because you share common interests -- the very definition of a social climber. Instead of spending time trying to increase your status by proxy, try building a loving family and a great circle of friends that you care about no matter what their class is.

"genteel"

"polite, refined, or respectable, often in an affected or ostentatious way"


That's what you are looking for, OP? Are you sure?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

You need to join the right church. You need to join the right country club. Junior League and DAR and the right sorority used to be helpful, but I have no idea about now.

Good luck getting into the Junior League down there. There is vetting.

Yep. The Junior League in DC isn’t on the same level. Bunch of annoying strivers.

This. The DC Junior League isn't at all exclusive.

Yes, but you can transfer your membership to Birmingham or Montgomery. That will at least give you the benefit of the doubt once you arrive in Alabama.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

You need to join the right church. You need to join the right country club. Junior League and DAR and the right sorority used to be helpful, but I have no idea about now.

Good luck getting into the Junior League down there. There is vetting.

Yep. The Junior League in DC isn’t on the same level. Bunch of annoying strivers.

This. The DC Junior League isn't at all exclusive.

+1 literally laughed out loud reading the title. Nowhere but here dear DCUM.

just here to say that thread titles like this are why i come back to dcum over and over thanks OP for the laugh

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a huge difference between say, old Baptist plantantion Money from South Carolina or Alabama versus say, an old Episcopalian Merchant family from Leesburg. The second is going to be much more progressive.

I'm friends with a member of an old Charleston plantation family and he's about as progressive as you get. To be fair, his husband is a little more conservative

go to the right prep school. Go to an acceptable college and join the right clubs.

I think there's a huge difference between say, old Baptist plantantion Money from South Carolina or Alabama versus say, an old Episcopalian Merchant family from Leesburg. The second is going to be much more progressive.

Why would they want to meet you, OP? What makes you worth interacting with?

Start there.

+1 to the right church

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

Asks another striver who lacks manners or class. How can ppl be this self unaware?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

You need to join the right church. You need to join the right country club. Junior League and DAR and the right sorority used to be helpful, but I have no idea about now.

Good luck getting into the Junior League down there. There is vetting.

Yep. The Junior League in DC isn’t on the same level. Bunch of annoying strivers.

Grad school at famous art college.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The recent threads about the affluent Southern family has me wondering where I can encounter them. Everyone in the DMV seems to be UMC strivers from other states and lack manners and class.

You need to join the right church. You need to join the right country club. Junior League and DAR and the right sorority used to be helpful, but I have no idea about now.

Good luck getting into the Junior League down there. There is vetting.