Just what is surprising about a 55yo man dating hot grandmas under 60? Age is not really a big deal for (most) men. The most important things are: is she fit? is she sex positive? Everything else is negotiable.

I literally just talked to a man in his late 50s who said he just wasn't attracted to the younger women any more - 26, 30, just not attractive to him. I pushed him in suggested that if [name of person we both know who is objectively hot] came onto him he'd be interested. The answer was no. Now. The reason was both that they have nothing in common AND that he wouldn't want to sexually disappoint her (some ED issues), but that a more mature woman would expect it. So there could be that, too.

Sounds trolly. Not many 49 year old wealthy women have all grown children in 2021.

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Anonymous wrote:"He also seems to have no problem getting dates. I don’t understand it."

This post isn't about the women he's getting dates with, it is about her shock and amazement that he is getting more dates, more quickly, than she is. Sounds like you let go of a good man, OP. The ladies see him as a catch.

Maybe he’s a good man for some. But I never felt he met my emotional or material needs. Now he just wants 1/2 my wealth.

If a friend tells me she is contemplating divorce I ask her if she will be ok with him being romantically involved with another woman. Because the truth is no matter what you think about him, chances are really high that he will have a far easier time dating and meeting other women than you will dating other men.

Unless he was horrible to you and your children, try to be glad he has found someone that makes him happy. Hopefully that results in him being in a good place to be a good father to your children.

Why do you think it’s easier for men ? I thought it was the reverse !

50/50 custody helps balance the scales.

Be happy he doesn't want more kids with a younger woman.

Older men have a super easy time dating women close to their own age, unless they have obvious major issues.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds right to me, he's dating women in his age range.

+1. I don't get it. Do you want him going after your daughter's friends? Starting a second family? This seems mature and ideal.

Sounds right to me, he's dating women in his age range.

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Anonymous wrote:"He also seems to have no problem getting dates. I don’t understand it."

This post isn't about the women he's getting dates with, it is about her shock and amazement that he is getting more dates, more quickly, than she is. Sounds like you let go of a good man, OP. The ladies see him as a catch.

Maybe he’s a good man for some. But I never felt he met my emotional or material needs. Now he just wants 1/2 my wealth.

If a friend tells me she is contemplating divorce I ask her if she will be ok with him being romantically involved with another woman. Because the truth is no matter what you think about him, chances are really high that he will have a far easier time dating and meeting other women than you will dating other men.

Unless he was horrible to you and your children, try to be glad he has found someone that makes him happy. Hopefully that results in him being in a good place to be a good father to your children.

Why do you think it’s easier for men ? I thought it was the reverse !

Anonymous wrote:I’m 49. My DH and U are separated and getting divorced. My DH has started to date other women and I can’t figure it out. The women he’s been seeing are in the age range of 45 - 60. He also seems to have no problem getting dates. I don’t understand it. I thought men went for much younger models not hit grandmas. DH is 55.

He is mature? That is a perfectly appropriate age range for him to be dating.

Remember, to a 55 year old, a 45 year old is not an older woman.

I don't understand why you are even asking the question, TBH.

Our children are grown.

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Anonymous wrote:"He also seems to have no problem getting dates. I don’t understand it."

This post isn't about the women he's getting dates with, it is about her shock and amazement that he is getting more dates, more quickly, than she is. Sounds like you let go of a good man, OP. The ladies see him as a catch.

Maybe he’s a good man for some. But I never felt he met my emotional or material needs. Now he just wants 1/2 my wealth.

If a friend tells me she is contemplating divorce I ask her if she will be ok with him being romantically involved with another woman. Because the truth is no matter what you think about him, chances are really high that he will have a far easier time dating and meeting other women than you will dating other men.

Unless he was horrible to you and your children, try to be glad he has found someone that makes him happy. Hopefully that results in him being in a good place to be a good father to your children.

Young women want husbands and babies.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter tells me. And further that he seems happy.

You shouldn't be encouraging this

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Anonymous wrote:"He also seems to have no problem getting dates. I don’t understand it."

This post isn't about the women he's getting dates with, it is about her shock and amazement that he is getting more dates, more quickly, than she is. Sounds like you let go of a good man, OP. The ladies see him as a catch.

Maybe he’s a good man for some. But I never felt he met my emotional or material needs. Now he just wants 1/2 my wealth.

Why is it only your wealth and not both of yours? Generally, when divorcing, the wealth is split close to 50/50.

My daughter tells me. And further that he seems happy.