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Anonymous wrote:Are you the one with a baby that screams all day and night? I'd not go anywhere and especially not make other people suffer with that. A huge con for anyone will be your baby screaming non-stop.

I didn't read the other thread, and I already voted above for going to your mom, but reading this, I think it's time to get some problem solving help from experienced parents. If your mom and gma are willing to take some time holding the baby and letting you sleep, and maybe trying some of their own baby calming tricks, then I'd do that.

I also think that you sounded like you liked the idea of sleeping with your mom. Could you all go to your mom's and have you share with your mom and the baby, and give Dad and the toddler the alcove?

Are these cabins on the water? Both scenarios with a toddler make me very nervous, honestly. Someone needs to be designated “eyes on the kid” at all times.

I would totally stay home.

You and baby your parents, DH and toddler in laws or all go to parents

Anonymous wrote:Are you the one with a baby that screams all day and night? I'd not go anywhere and especially not make other people suffer with that. A huge con for anyone will be your baby screaming non-stop.

I didn't read the other thread, and I already voted above for going to your mom, but reading this, I think it's time to get some problem solving help from experienced parents. If your mom and gma are willing to take some time holding the baby and letting you sleep, and maybe trying some of their own baby calming tricks, then I'd do that.

I also think that you sounded like you liked the idea of sleeping with your mom. Could you all go to your mom's and have you share with your mom and the baby, and give Dad and the toddler the alcove?

Both these trips sound pretty awful. I would choose staying home.

I would pay for a house and invite them.

I wouldn’t split up. Your husband sounds like the type who wouldn’t keep his eyes fully on the toddler. More adult supervision is better, more help and support is better.

A 7 hour drive with your situation is a non-starter.

Anonymous wrote:Okay. There’s no way in hell I would go to the inlaws cabin. When you have a you g baby you NEED rest and sleep.

Now you need to decide if it’s worth it to go to your family’s cabin.

I seriously couldn't imagine going to those IL's cabin even when kids are older. That sounds miserable under any circumstance.

I'd stay the hell home.

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Anonymous wrote:Your family.

S/o- why are in laws always so unhelpful? It is the same with my in laws. Do they just not feel comfortable/obligated because it’s not their daughter that’s the mom that’s struggling?

In defense of in laws, I have to say that our family dynamic is totally the opposite.

My mother is not only not helpful, she's the opposite of helpful. She makes everything so stressful, because she has all these rigid ideas about how things should go, and zero flexibility.

My in laws are amazing with my kids, and treat me like their own daughter.

NP. Both of our families are helpful, but for my my family is a little more helpful because I'm more comfortable ordering them around lol. I ask my parents for exactly what I want and how I want it done, and they comply. I am not as comfortable micromanaging DH's parents and as a result they don't do things the way I want them to and are in my view less helpful. Also my parents are a little younger and better able to keep up with our 3 and 4yos (66 and 69 vs 70 and 77).

Sorry, but you are coming off as spoiled and rude.

Op here. These are tiny cabins in the middle of nowhere midwest. My Fils grandpa bought theirs in 1924 and my mom's has been in her family since the 70s. Both are maybe 1000sqft 2 tiny bedrooms.

Your family! You need a break!

I would see if your parents would give you the room and they sleep in the alcove. At least your 4 family members could get a room.

I would pick neither as you presented the choices.