Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 16:00     Subject: Re:Vent—

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Anonymous wrote:'totally I agree with you All the families on the team are paying a nice chunk of change so its a collective investment and he isn't pulling his weight let him know get you act together or give your roster spot to a family who will pull their weight.


Investment? No, it’s entertainment. You people are ridiculous, these are kids.


Investment does not necessarily mean money.

Your attitude is why we don't like being on teams where kids and family do not take it seriously and skip critical practices and games, leaving other teammates to scramble for subs and a win.

Next time, play rec or private trianing for solely entertainment.


Exactly, Its more than entertainment is about teamwork, brotherhood, sisterhood, learning to work together , and holding each other accountable. We win together we lose together and we all go thru it together. Uf your child or family doesn't buy in they should probably play rec soccer.


Let’s be honest, travel soccer is rec soccer. If you are talking about a top 50 ranked national team, maybe you have a point. Most everything else is just to keep kids active and entertained. Youth soccer is a mess because everybody thinks their kids are playing World Cup games or are little messi’s. The attitude of take it seriously is why so many kids quit. Y’all are killing the fun for the kids - good parenting.


And lets be honest, there is nothing and I mean NOTHING special at all about your kid. Your kid will likely never contribute to the human condition in a positive way. Your kid could be a honor student or a failing student and their impact on the world would still be a net zero. There is nothing special about you, your kid or the values you have.

Neither you nor you kid will ever have what amounts to an original thought in this world.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 15:52     Subject: Re:Vent—

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Anonymous wrote:What tournament?


We’re in Colorado. So this is a totally anonymous place for me to vent 😬.


Smart. Is there a Colorado Urban Moms soccer forum were I can complain a soccer in the DMV?


There is. But all they do is complain about Loudon.


Loudoun
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 15:24     Subject: Vent—

For those parents who have kids playing the full game, I can see how the above might irk you. But for those parents with 9 year olds or 10 year olds who play maybe 10 minutes a game in the tournament... really? The team clearly has no allegiance in terms of developing them, so I don’t think they should owe the team anything. Surely someone else can manage that 10 minutes. That may not be the scenario for the above situation, but I have seen it.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 09:25     Subject: Re:Vent—

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Anonymous wrote:If your kids are all in you should be all in too. Support them, For many if not all of them them. This is their World Cup or pro career. Just as pro athletes window is late teens thru early thirties. For most people who love Competitive sports. Their window is age 8 thru about 18. If your kid loves the sport go all in with them make their life the best you can. You cant ever go back once their grown and once they grow up these sports opportunities aren't the same for them. Many kids dream of playing pro as a kid almost none make it. The same is true if your kid dreams of being a scientist I encourage you to give them every experience possible within your means to help them achieve it. Nothing your kids love should be labeled " JUST A" game or science ,or Boy Scouts, or band. If they have a passion its your job as a parent to help and support them to get the best experience possible. Win , lose , succeed, or fail be all in with your kids no exception.

Ok then! Time for Prozac for you?
You don't see it, most self-centered people don't. Your kids hate you and will hate you forever.


Thanks Dr. Where do I pay co-pay ? What time will my prescription be ready?

My kids love me because I give them any and all the support they want and need to flourish and live their best life ever.

You are clearly one of the insane sports parents! Nobody loves you nor them. They are not Olympic athletes and their window is not 8-18! Most kids don't dream of playing pro sports! Only most insane parents dream of their kids playing pro sports. Hence they rob their kids of normal parents bcs, like you, they become insane nightmare sports parents!
It is JUST a game.


As a parent I don't care if my kid wins or loses. I SURE AS HELL CARE if I have made time and space in my calendar for a whole weekend tournament that is then called off because some other adult didn't bother to.

It's also a team sport. If your family doesn't understand that you have a responsibility to others in this game, I suggest a switch to tennis.


I agree. Parents think that if parents teach their DD accountability and responsibility to their team means that they are dreaming having of their DC becoming a professional or USWNT player. It’s the contrary. It teaches kids to learn to be responsible adults and they have to be accountable for their actions.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:52     Subject: Vent—

For some, it's a full investment. If you don't see this as an investment, you're not gonna make it.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:51     Subject: Re:Vent—

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your kids are all in you should be all in too. Support them, For many if not all of them them. This is their World Cup or pro career. Just as pro athletes window is late teens thru early thirties. For most people who love Competitive sports. Their window is age 8 thru about 18. If your kid loves the sport go all in with them make their life the best you can. You cant ever go back once their grown and once they grow up these sports opportunities aren't the same for them. Many kids dream of playing pro as a kid almost none make it. The same is true if your kid dreams of being a scientist I encourage you to give them every experience possible within your means to help them achieve it. Nothing your kids love should be labeled " JUST A" game or science ,or Boy Scouts, or band. If they have a passion its your job as a parent to help and support them to get the best experience possible. Win , lose , succeed, or fail be all in with your kids no exception.

Ok then! Time for Prozac for you?
You don't see it, most self-centered people don't. Your kids hate you and will hate you forever.


Thanks Dr. Where do I pay co-pay ? What time will my prescription be ready?

My kids love me because I give them any and all the support they want and need to flourish and live their best life ever.

You are clearly one of the insane sports parents! Nobody loves you nor them. They are not Olympic athletes and their window is not 8-18! Most kids don't dream of playing pro sports! Only most insane parents dream of their kids playing pro sports. Hence they rob their kids of normal parents bcs, like you, they become insane nightmare sports parents!
It is JUST a game.


As a parent I don't care if my kid wins or loses. I SURE AS HELL CARE if I have made time and space in my calendar for a whole weekend tournament that is then called off because some other adult didn't bother to.

It's also a team sport. If your family doesn't understand that you have a responsibility to others in this game, I suggest a switch to tennis.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:48     Subject: Vent—

Anonymous wrote:What a parent does has a direct influence on their DC.

If the parent doesn’t show commitment to the team by showing up on time for practices and games, don’t expect their DC to be committed to the team either.

I had a conversation with my DD prior to playing travel. Told her that if she’s not committed & serious about travel soccer, we can stay in select soccer or go back to Rec. soccer. This means showing up to games/practices on time with a good positive attitude. This attitude and commitment will follow her when she goes to college and when she joins the work force.

It’s very frustrating when I see parents taking their DD late to games or last minute cancellations due to schedule conflicts.


I agree with this. Even if a kid has conflicting sports or activities, a parent can make it work by communicating everything up front and being on time and focused for everything. All that parent had to do was pay attention earlier and the team could have gotten a sub.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:46     Subject: Vent—

We had this happen earlier this year, OP. Had to pull out of the tournament at the last minute because more than one player said they couldn't make it 2 days before the start. Coach had already asked if everyone could go, and then already found guests for the ones who said they couldn't. Then, at the last minute, 2 more players pull out.

Infuriating.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:44     Subject: Vent—

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Anonymous wrote:By the way those nightmare parents who believe their kids are pro athletes tend to be negligent parents. They provide their kids with their over the counter pain killers. I am talking U15 and younger. This is insane.


We go straight to the hard stuff for my u13. Who uses otc?


Larla needs to take the needle if she wants that Virginian silver tier finalist medal
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 08:42     Subject: Vent—

What a parent does has a direct influence on their DC.

If the parent doesn’t show commitment to the team by showing up on time for practices and games, don’t expect their DC to be committed to the team either.

I had a conversation with my DD prior to playing travel. Told her that if she’s not committed & serious about travel soccer, we can stay in select soccer or go back to Rec. soccer. This means showing up to games/practices on time with a good positive attitude. This attitude and commitment will follow her when she goes to college and when she joins the work force.

It’s very frustrating when I see parents taking their DD late to games or last minute cancellations due to schedule conflicts.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 00:51     Subject: Vent—

That is so odd! The part where they ask on the messages for the scheduling app what the schedule was. It seems like the dad realized they screwed up and was a bit sheepish in informing the team.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2021 00:39     Subject: Re:Vent—

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:'totally I agree with you All the families on the team are paying a nice chunk of change so its a collective investment and he isn't pulling his weight let him know get you act together or give your roster spot to a family who will pull their weight.


Investment? No, it’s entertainment. You people are ridiculous, these are kids.


Investment does not necessarily mean money.

Your attitude is why we don't like being on teams where kids and family do not take it seriously and skip critical practices and games, leaving other teammates to scramble for subs and a win.

Next time, play rec or private trianing for solely entertainment.


+1
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2021 15:08     Subject: Vent—

does it mean they have to forfeit? if not why do you care so much?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2021 13:52     Subject: Vent—

Anonymous wrote:By the way those nightmare parents who believe their kids are pro athletes tend to be negligent parents. They provide their kids with their over the counter pain killers. I am talking U15 and younger. This is insane.


We go straight to the hard stuff for my u13. Who uses otc?
Anonymous
Post 05/23/2021 11:22     Subject: Vent—

By the way those nightmare parents who believe their kids are pro athletes tend to be negligent parents. They provide their kids with their over the counter pain killers. I am talking U15 and younger. This is insane.