Anonymous
05/11/2021 13:20
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
This makes sense. And doesn’t want to be a crappy husband in recovery, but can’t be a good one either.
?
Blindsiding your wife who is clearly surprised and heartbroken isn’t what you do when you love someone. You don’t unilaterally make that decision.
He’s Catholic. Maybe he’s gay and therapy in rehab helped him come out.
He has a very strong bond with his male friends. Dan Levy officiated their wedding.
NP. So...you're implying that a man who has "a very strong bond with his male friends" is gay? Or might be gay? Well, sure. But whether or not Mulaney is gay, men -- straight and gay and anything else -- can have strong bonds with male friends that are not related to sexuality. Do you think straight men really can't have close friendships with each other? Or that a gay man and a straight man might actually be friends without attraction entering into it? Or that two gay men can be "just" friends? Do you also think "men and women can't be friends because there'll always be sexual tension"? How...limiting. What a limited definition of friendship.
You need to check your assumptions. Would "shallow bonds" between men make you more comfortable?
There are lots of things he’s said and done that make lots of people wonder if he is gay.
The fact that he basically moved Pete into his home after he was spiraling is just one. His eclectic taste in certain things is another.
The fact that he became an addict at such a young age seems to point to trauma or some issues early on. Grappling with your sexuality could be a reason.
He was an altar boy. Now he hates the Catholic Church. He started drinking around the age most Catholic boys are altar servers.
Who knows?
Are you assuming he must have been molested? I think that is a tired trope about gay men. Most gay men were not molested as children. Most male survivors of CSA are straight.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 13:18
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
This makes sense. And doesn’t want to be a crappy husband in recovery, but can’t be a good one either.
?
Blindsiding your wife who is clearly surprised and heartbroken isn’t what you do when you love someone. You don’t unilaterally make that decision.
He’s Catholic. Maybe he’s gay and therapy in rehab helped him come out.
He has a very strong bond with his male friends. Dan Levy officiated their wedding.
NP. So...you're implying that a man who has "a very strong bond with his male friends" is gay? Or might be gay? Well, sure. But whether or not Mulaney is gay, men -- straight and gay and anything else -- can have strong bonds with male friends that are not related to sexuality. Do you think straight men really can't have close friendships with each other? Or that a gay man and a straight man might actually be friends without attraction entering into it? Or that two gay men can be "just" friends? Do you also think "men and women can't be friends because there'll always be sexual tension"? How...limiting. What a limited definition of friendship.
You need to check your assumptions. Would "shallow bonds" between men make you more comfortable?
There are lots of things he’s said and done that make lots of people wonder if he is gay.
The fact that he basically moved Pete into his home after he was spiraling is just one. His eclectic taste in certain things is another.
The fact that he became an addict at such a young age seems to point to trauma or some issues early on. Grappling with your sexuality could be a reason.
He was an altar boy. Now he hates the Catholic Church. He started drinking around the age most Catholic boys are altar servers.
Who knows?
Anonymous
05/11/2021 12:52
Subject: Re:John Mulaney filed for divorce.
There were rumors that he cheated on her a lot while he was relapsing per Deux Moi/Blind Gossip. But then she put out this statement, that she was surprised, so that was surprising. Think he may be struggling with recovery and doesn't want to bring her down. Honestly, I think it's a blessing in disguise to get divorced by an addict.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 12:20
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
This makes sense. And doesn’t want to be a crappy husband in recovery, but can’t be a good one either.
?
Blindsiding your wife who is clearly surprised and heartbroken isn’t what you do when you love someone. You don’t unilaterally make that decision.
He’s Catholic. Maybe he’s gay and therapy in rehab helped him come out.
He has a very strong bond with his male friends. Dan Levy officiated their wedding.
NP. So...you're implying that a man who has "a very strong bond with his male friends" is gay? Or might be gay? Well, sure. But whether or not Mulaney is gay, men -- straight and gay and anything else -- can have strong bonds with male friends that are not related to sexuality. Do you think straight men really can't have close friendships with each other? Or that a gay man and a straight man might actually be friends without attraction entering into it? Or that two gay men can be "just" friends? Do you also think "men and women can't be friends because there'll always be sexual tension"? How...limiting. What a limited definition of friendship.
You need to check your assumptions. Would "shallow bonds" between men make you more comfortable?
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:35
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be surprised if he came out as gay but I’m su comfortable with people saying he is gay. He had addressed his sexuality multiple times and it doesn’t seem right for people to say they know more about his orientation than he does.
That. It feels gloat-y, not sympathetic, and I don't see why people are pulling for that explanation.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:24
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:I think they are both super cool people but based on my stalking she was much more into the relationship than he was from the day they met. Kinda seems like she wore him down and that never bodes well.
She insisted they'd be married when they met. Stalker. I''m going to chalk this up to a mistake and moving on.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:21
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He sobered up and realized their relationship was toxic. Or that he is actually gay.
That’s what I’m thinking.
Or, perhaps she cheated and that’s what prompted him to fall off the wagon?
It could be anything. He could have met someone new in rehab. She could be undermining his recovery by using. One of them could have changed their mind about remaining child free. We could speculate all day, but they’re not saying why and it’s really none of our business anyway.
+1
Well said.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:05
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he came out as gay but I’m su comfortable with people saying he is gay. He had addressed his sexuality multiple times and it doesn’t seem right for people to say they know more about his orientation than he does.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:00
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
I think they are both super cool people but based on my stalking she was much more into the relationship than he was from the day they met. Kinda seems like she wore him down and that never bodes well.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 10:00
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thoughts? Honestly I am always bummed when people announce divorce, even though I know in my head that if somebody wants a divorce badly enough to file for it, they should really get divorced.
Divorce is a failure, that's why it feels bad.
You would kick your dog too if he got injured, right?
Anonymous
05/11/2021 09:58
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
I love him, but always thought he was secretly gay.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 09:53
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
Too late. Someone divorcing you def f&cks up your life, for a while at least.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 09:33
Subject: John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
This makes sense. And doesn’t want to be a crappy husband in recovery, but can’t be a good one either.
?
Blindsiding your wife who is clearly surprised and heartbroken isn’t what you do when you love someone. You don’t unilaterally make that decision.
He’s Catholic. Maybe he’s gay and therapy in rehab helped him come out.
He has a very strong bond with his male friends. Dan Levy officiated their wedding.
? There’s nothing inherently cruel about breaking up with someone. You’re reading a lot into things to assume she was “blindsided.”
I think they're going by her comment that she was heartbroken he had chosen to end their marriage, but she deleted her Instagram account when he went into rehab and when she restarted it a few months ago she'd removed the "Mulaney" and all photos of him, so seems like she wasn't blindsided.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 09:33
Subject: Re:John Mulaney filed for divorce.
I think he’s basically a decent human and doesn’t want to f@ck up her life along with his.
This is my guess too... He is so open about how people mistake his sexuality, how he's agnostic now, etc., I would surprise me if he was actually closeted at this point b/c of religion.
Anonymous
05/11/2021 09:27
Subject: Re:John Mulaney filed for divorce.
Anonymous wrote:Shrug. Not a very interesting couple.
Your definition of interesting is how a couple looks together?
It's good that you value the important things in life, PP.