Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:48
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
My husband got me a card and sent the teenager to the grocery for flowers. She also bought me a card. I made reservations weeks ago and we went out for a lovely meal. If I hadn’t thought of it, it would not have happened. In the past if I wanted a present I would send the link and it would be my present. Sometimes even wrapped. Sometimes I buy myself a cake.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:44
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous[b wrote:]You are not your husband's mother[/b]
Your kids honored you. That's the point of Mother's Day.
I hate that argument. Op is the mother of his children. That deserves flowers at least.
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:39
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Don’t feel bad (same here ) I got nothing
Last year from my grown children and this year, my husband felt kind of guilty so he bought me a half ass plant and card from the
125 store so trust me I know it hurts
Last year from my grown children and this year, my husband felt kind of guilty so he bought me a half ass plant and card from the
125 store so trust me I know it hurts
Anonymous
05/13/2024 18:37
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:So last year I got exactly nothing for Mother's Day. Not a card, nothing from the kids, nada. I was upset - I mean, can't you even have the kids make a card or something? and later on got the guilt flowers from the grocery store.
This year, husband is working in another city, so we're not together. My kids stepped up and gave me nice cards and a picture from each. I got a phone call from my husband, that's it.
I have never been huge on gifts for Valentine's, Mother's Day, even our anniversary. I was tying to just chill out about it but then my mom sent a text saying she hoped I got some beautiful flowers. Well, I didn't. And of course I have always been the one that has taken on all the responsibility for sending my 7 nieces and nephews gifts, flowers or gifts for my mother in-law for her birthday, anniversary, Mother's Day. IF I didn't, my husband wouldn't even think about it.
I'm not sure it's worth me even telling him anything. But it just feels like crap.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:34
Subject: Re:Nothing for Mother's Day...again
I don’t think it is inherently right or wrong, deserving or underserving to exchange gifts or cards for these parent holidays. It depends on what the spouse values.
If you or your partner values a receiving on of a personal card and/or a gift, then communicate that and it is lovely as the other partner to make that happen for your loved one. This goes beyond gift giving. There are small things, and sometimes big things, that are important to us, and that if we make it known to our spouse, it is an act of love to us when they do it.
OP, I posted before. If you’ve made your wishes explicitly clear to your husband, and you’ve delivered the information in a way that has landed well with him and he continues to disregard your wishes then I’m sorry. That stinks and your feelings and disappointment are valid. I will echo what I said earlier about enjoying the day with yourself and your kids, and also halting the compensation on your in laws side when it comes to your husbands lack of gift giving and flower delivering.
If you haven’t told him it means a lot to you and why, then do consider letting him know.
The thing with love is that we don’t have to agree with each other’s preferred ways of receiving love to be able to give it. That’s the great thing about other people’s values. As partners in life we don’t have to agree with each other all the time to give each other love.
If you or your partner values a receiving on of a personal card and/or a gift, then communicate that and it is lovely as the other partner to make that happen for your loved one. This goes beyond gift giving. There are small things, and sometimes big things, that are important to us, and that if we make it known to our spouse, it is an act of love to us when they do it.
OP, I posted before. If you’ve made your wishes explicitly clear to your husband, and you’ve delivered the information in a way that has landed well with him and he continues to disregard your wishes then I’m sorry. That stinks and your feelings and disappointment are valid. I will echo what I said earlier about enjoying the day with yourself and your kids, and also halting the compensation on your in laws side when it comes to your husbands lack of gift giving and flower delivering.
If you haven’t told him it means a lot to you and why, then do consider letting him know.
The thing with love is that we don’t have to agree with each other’s preferred ways of receiving love to be able to give it. That’s the great thing about other people’s values. As partners in life we don’t have to agree with each other all the time to give each other love.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:21
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:
But you did get something. And it was more than last time.
Why on earth are you complaining?!?
Keep it moving, beggar. Stop shaming women for having standards.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:20
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
But you did get something. And it was more than last time.
Why on earth are you complaining?!?
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:16
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
I finally got my wish... DH let me peg him.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:15
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
... not everyone buys into this Hallmark mentality
Anonymous
05/09/2021 19:13
Subject: Re:Nothing for Mother's Day...again
So, none of you get anything from your husband for Mother's Day?
The point isn't that some women get something. It's that getting nothing is also reasonable. Not getting a gift from your husband is a reasonable occurrence.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 18:48
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, none of you get anything from your husband for Mother's Day? Seriously nothing?
Do you get nothing for your husband for Father's Day? I usually get a card and something small for my husband. And vice versa for me.
These are the ladies who are just happy to a man. It doesn't matter how the man treats them just as long as they have a man. These are also the ladies who were telling the OP of the 2 weeks no call thread, that she was playing games if she told the guy she could see him next week because the day of was too short of notice. Pick mes as the kids say, and expect all other women to want to be treated as piss poorly as them, but if you ask them they are feminists and above it all.
No it's just women who recognize this isn't their birthday or Valentine's Day, when gifts from the spouse would be appropriate and expected.
No it's just doormats and pickmes. Sad ladies.
Yours is not the only interpretation of what Mother's Day is about.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 18:47
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
My husband does not “believe in” Mother's Day and also thinks I’m not a great mother, so he did not even wish me HMD.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 18:45
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, none of you get anything from your husband for Mother's Day? Seriously nothing?
Do you get nothing for your husband for Father's Day? I usually get a card and something small for my husband. And vice versa for me.
These are the ladies who are just happy to a man. It doesn't matter how the man treats them just as long as they have a man. These are also the ladies who were telling the OP of the 2 weeks no call thread, that she was playing games if she told the guy she could see him next week because the day of was too short of notice. Pick mes as the kids say, and expect all other women to want to be treated as piss poorly as them, but if you ask them they are feminists and above it all.
No it's just women who recognize this isn't their birthday or Valentine's Day, when gifts from the spouse would be appropriate and expected.
No it's just doormats and pickmes. Sad ladies.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 18:43
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, none of you get anything from your husband for Mother's Day? Seriously nothing?
Do you get nothing for your husband for Father's Day? I usually get a card and something small for my husband. And vice versa for me.
These are the ladies who are just happy to a man. It doesn't matter how the man treats them just as long as they have a man. These are also the ladies who were telling the OP of the 2 weeks no call thread, that she was playing games if she told the guy she could see him next week because the day of was too short of notice. Pick mes as the kids say, and expect all other women to want to be treated as piss poorly as them, but if you ask them they are feminists and above it all.
No it's just women who recognize this isn't their birthday or Valentine's Day, when gifts from the spouse would be appropriate and expected.
Anonymous
05/09/2021 18:40
Subject: Nothing for Mother's Day...again
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, none of you get anything from your husband for Mother's Day? Seriously nothing?
Do you get nothing for your husband for Father's Day? I usually get a card and something small for my husband. And vice versa for me.
No, my husband and I do not exchange gifts or cards for MD/FD.
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