Anonymous wrote:When my college snob mom asked where my DD went on a college visit my mom said, “Why would you do that to her? I thought she was smart.”

We were on speaker phone and DD heard. Infuriating!

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Anonymous wrote:DS is a junior. 4.2 Weighted GPA, 1210 SAT (taking again in the fall), 3 APs so far with 3 more next year. Limited ECs - nothing out of the ordinary. Not an URM, not full pay...Wants to be a computer science major. Very introverted, typical geeky gamer kid.

He wants a large campus. We are trying to set expectations around state schools like George Mason, Penn State, Pitt, uDelaware, Rutgers, Virginia Tech etc. Even some of those aren’t guaranteed... meanwhile, my in laws keep telling him to apply to IVYs, Stanford, MIT, and Carnegie Mellon (as a “safety”).

I love my kid but he is not getting into Harvard with his stats. What’s the best way to set realistic expectations for him, and his grandparents?

Some of them are not guaranteed? Sorry to break it to you, but unless the SATs go up quite a bit several of them are guaranteed "no" . . .

Ummm you have NO idea what you are talking about. The kids stats are perfect or even higher for all of these schools. Add Temple and Wake Forest to his list too. He will be fine. It’s not all about the SAT. Actually, you likely won’t have to submit if he is class of 2022

Clearly you have no idea what you're talking about. A 1210 is low for Va Tech for sure. And to suggest "Temple and Wake Forest" in the same sentence makes zero sense. One is a large urban state school in the northeast with low admissions standards. The other is a small private school in the south with high admissions standards. They couldn't be more different. You're pulling college names out of your butt.

The gpa is good. If it were my kid I’d suggest not submitting the sat score.

+1 1210 is well below the 25th percentile for Wake Forest and Pitt too.

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Anonymous wrote:“Mom and Dad. This is a very stressful time at our house. And requirements and rules for college entrance have changed so much since I was in high school that a lot of your info— especially in CS— is outdated. I promise we are doing all we can to help him attend a good school for him.

Larlo has a great relationship with you both, and I am asking you— PLEASE— keep you opinions about his college decision to yourself.”

— signed, many years of therapy over boundaries.

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--- and if they blow you off and just pressure your DS behind your back, feel free to allow your DS to set the boundary as he sees fit. Especially if grandparents are dangling financial support over his head.

Must be nice.

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Anonymous wrote:DS is a junior. 4.2 Weighted GPA, 1210 SAT (taking again in the fall), 3 APs so far with 3 more next year. Limited ECs - nothing out of the ordinary. Not an URM, not full pay...Wants to be a computer science major. Very introverted, typical geeky gamer kid.

He wants a large campus. We are trying to set expectations around state schools like George Mason, Penn State, Pitt, uDelaware, Rutgers, Virginia Tech etc. Even some of those aren’t guaranteed... meanwhile, my in laws keep telling him to apply to IVYs, Stanford, MIT, and Carnegie Mellon (as a “safety”).

I love my kid but he is not getting into Harvard with his stats. What’s the best way to set realistic expectations for him, and his grandparents?

Some of them are not guaranteed? Sorry to break it to you, but unless the SATs go up quite a bit several of them are guaranteed "no" . . .

Ummm you have NO idea what you are talking about. The kids stats are perfect or even higher for all of these schools. Add Temple and Wake Forest to his list too. He will be fine. It’s not all about the SAT. Actually, you likely won’t have to submit if he is class of 2022

Clearly you have no idea what you're talking about. A 1210 is low for Va Tech for sure. And to suggest "Temple and Wake Forest" in the same sentence makes zero sense. One is a large urban state school in the northeast with low admissions standards. The other is a small private school in the south with high admissions standards. They couldn't be more different. You're pulling college names out of your butt.

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Anonymous wrote:“Mom and Dad. This is a very stressful time at our house. And requirements and rules for college entrance have changed so much since I was in high school that a lot of your info— especially in CS— is outdated. I promise we are doing all we can to help him attend a good school for him.

Larlo has a great relationship with you both, and I am asking you— PLEASE— keep you opinions about his college decision to yourself.”

— signed, many years of therapy over boundaries.

+1

--- and if they blow you off and just pressure your DS behind your back, feel free to allow your DS to set the boundary as he sees fit. Especially if grandparents are dangling financial support over his head.

Anonymous wrote:“Mom and Dad. This is a very stressful time at our house. And requirements and rules for college entrance have changed so much since I was in high school that a lot of your info— especially in CS— is outdated. I promise we are doing all we can to help him attend a good school for him.

Larlo has a great relationship with you both, and I am asking you— PLEASE— keep you opinions about his college decision to yourself.”

— signed, many years of therapy over boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:DS is a junior. 4.2 Weighted GPA, 1210 SAT (taking again in the fall), 3 APs so far with 3 more next year. Limited ECs - nothing out of the ordinary. Not an URM, not full pay...Wants to be a computer science major. Very introverted, typical geeky gamer kid.

He wants a large campus. We are trying to set expectations around state schools like George Mason, Penn State, Pitt, uDelaware, Rutgers, Virginia Tech etc. Even some of those aren’t guaranteed... meanwhile, my in laws keep telling him to apply to IVYs, Stanford, MIT, and Carnegie Mellon (as a “safety”).

I love my kid but he is not getting into Harvard with his stats. What’s the best way to set realistic expectations for him, and his grandparents?

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Anonymous wrote:DS is a junior. 4.2 Weighted GPA, 1210 SAT (taking again in the fall), 3 APs so far with 3 more next year. Limited ECs - nothing out of the ordinary. Not an URM, not full pay...Wants to be a computer science major. Very introverted, typical geeky gamer kid.

He wants a large campus. We are trying to set expectations around state schools like George Mason, Penn State, Pitt, uDelaware, Rutgers, Virginia Tech etc. Even some of those aren’t guaranteed... meanwhile, my in laws keep telling him to apply to IVYs, Stanford, MIT, and Carnegie Mellon (as a “safety”).

I love my kid but he is not getting into Harvard with his stats. What’s the best way to set realistic expectations for him, and his grandparents?

Some of them are not guaranteed? Sorry to break it to you, but unless the SATs go up quite a bit several of them are guaranteed "no" . . .

Ummm you have NO idea what you are talking about. The kids stats are perfect or even higher for all of these schools. Add Temple and Wake Forest to his list too. He will be fine. It’s not all about the SAT. Actually, you likely won’t have to submit if he is class of 2022

Anonymous wrote:Well at least it's just the grandparents. In our case, it's my husband! He thinks DS should be able to get in most places with mostly As and A-s, maybe 5 APs by end of senior year, a sport and above average SATs. "He can still make it into one of the ivy's or the military academies (his big thing) if he just Aces the last two years." Ugh. He graduated high school in the 80's - he has no clue no matter how I try to inform him. He says I'm just a negative Nancy. Poor kid is going to end up with anxiety at this rate.