DH and I fight way too much. We aren’t going to make it and we both know it so all compromise and cooperation has gone out the window. I know our fighting is hurting my kids, especially my 8 yr old son but I just can’t seem to just stop arguing or getting angry with DH in front of the kids.

I’m feeling enormous shame just writing this.

I’m so easily annoyed. I tell my toddler to stop doing things just because it annoys me - like playing with a certain toy or banging his feet on something. I have too many “please stop that”s.

And I think I expect too much from my kids too young.

Scream in anger when dealing with my defiant child I feel shame every time and it still happens

When I am on my last nerve I get a little high to take the edge off.

Anonymous wrote:Slept with their coach

I like you.

Anonymous wrote:Slept with their coach

Was it worth t?

I am actually a very good parent and a good wife. I have worked hard to create a harmonious home environment for everyone.

What I have not done is give them chores and household responsibilities, and sometimes I do worry if they will be able to manage their own household when they leave the nest.

Late bedtime / late to school

Anonymous wrote:I yell a lot. When my kids are misbehaving and not listening to correction, I just resort to yelling. I hate it and I want to stop but I just keep giving in to yelling.

Same here. I started yelling more throughout the pandemic and distance learning. For me, working full-time and being out of the house and the kids away at school provided time for everyone to decompress. Dealing with work issues and their school issues at the same time for more than a year did a number on me. We had no help, either. The part-time nanny even quit when Covid got really bad.

Anonymous wrote:Slept with their coach

Because you wanted to or to get them on the team?

Let my kids use screens for many, many hours a day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On my phone too much.

+1. Also, in the early years I had a lot of anger. I have it under control now but I wish I'd had it under control then.

Same!!!!

Anonymous wrote:Slept with their coach

But did they make the team?

Honestly, the biggest thing is that I worry we don’t have enough money. We aren’t poor but we are middle class and it’s really hard to pay for everything. Not talking about material goods, but stuff like activities and saving for college. I’m worried our kid will just be locked out of a lot of opportunities simply because we can’t pay. It’s especially hard in this area because so many families have so much.

On the flip side, I think I’m a really good parent on the non-economic side. Hopefully that balances it out a little.

Wow I feel less alone! 😅 Anger, phones and +1 to the “emotionally volatile” post as well. My oldest daughter is the same as you described yours and I feel terrible when she senses something is wrong bc she too tries to overcompensate to make things ok again. I grew up catering to my father’s moods and that’s the LAST thing I want for my kids so I need to work on this!