I honestly feel bad for HS students nowadays.

I have two in high school now and one at college, they all just work REALLY hard. They have longer more consuming days as high schoolers than most adults have.

They all take advantage of study hall and breaks at school, work hard when they work, and do not get enough sleep. Days when their workload is lighter they go to bed early and schedule things for fun. Schedule, schedule, schedule everything between challenging private school academics/tutors/school sports/out of school sports etc...

My child is ADD and took an AP class freshman year. I won't lie it was really, really tough. She made it through but in the end we had to realize that she was never going to be able to do multiple APs and play on a competitive high school sports team where she couldn't miss practices.

So she actually went out for sports that were less competitive at her school and also dropped a couple extra curriculars outside of school too. There is only one AP class per year.

We could have pushed, got tutors, more medication, more doing things for her and so on but ultimately decided it wasn't the right approach for our child and family.

OP, my child is not ADHD but has to work hard to balance travel sports plus 2x high school sports as a 9th grader. Taking AP World History, Algebra II, Engineering, and Honors classes. He makes a schedule for studying and plans out when to get home work completed - that being said, will procrastinate sometimes! I don't know how balance will work once he goes back to school since he won't be able to work on assignments during asynchronous time. A book on organization and having good study habits may help this summer - also knowing what works for your child as far as studying goes. And what kind of grades are acceptable - As and Bs? Cs as long as there is an understanding of the material? Straight As, two sports, travel sports outside of that, plus coaching a rec team is how my child thrives but it isn't for everyone. I also would second knowing that studying has to happen on weekends!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - if this is relevant my child is in public school. FCPS. Had no desire to apply to TJ so just run of the mill public school.

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That has no bearing on anything.

An AP class is an AP class. Calculus is Calculus.

OP either your child is capable or not. If you do not know already then they are not.

Mine did varsity sports and outside activities, and great grades no problem. The bottom line in our house. Grades come first. Could care less about sports.

Agree that one knows one way or the other (about ability, drive, organization etc) . Don’t flame me —I have a very high iq kid and an above above iq but higher eq kid. They will both find their way.

Educational research says otherwise. Motivation, executive functioning, and academic skill are not fixed. They can be learned, and kids can naturally improve upon them as they mature. OP, find a balance for your child that works in the context of the time she needs to complete the homework, but also allows her to get the physical movement she seems to need.

--homework during study halls.
--focused homework time every evening 7:30-10pm. Doesn't waste time on the internet, etc