Anonymous wrote:OP was this a humble brag or are you a troll??

What’s the point of all that without ages, NW and number of kids.

OP no I’m not bragging or trolling. It’s a legitimate question for me. I want to be able to stay in nice hotels and travel more and splurge on fun excursions. I see our friends and colleagues doing this stuff or buying vacation homes etc. and I think “if they can do it, why can’t we?”

We’re in our early forties and have 2 kids in elementary and preschool.

Anonymous wrote:What's your net worth?

OP here. Around 5M.

To answer some other questions, yes he does enjoy being handy and doing home improvement projects. But I also know he doesn’t want to spend the money.

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is incredibly cheap. It will take him 2 days to paint that room and it will look like shit. Wake up and enjoy life. This is mental illness.

Agree

Anonymous wrote:Normal. I would say that is a “lot” of money. It’s a healthy income but def not to the point where you should be flying private and dropping 1k per day on private instructors!

That’s probably why he’s so frugal - he knows you’d be out of control with your spending habits if he didn’t have a tight hold on the reigns!

This is crazy.

OP was this a humble brag or are you a troll??

What’s the point of all that without ages, NW and number of kids.

We make about half of what you do and live better than you do. And we don't worry about money. At all.

Anonymous wrote:HHI hit $1m this year and being very frugal to save as much as possible. Sick of the rat race and want to slow down soon. 48 and tired.

I do wonder if part of why OPs husband is frugal is that he wants to save a lot and get out of the rat race

People on this board are incredibly soendy.
We make a lot more than you and are similarly pretty frugal. But we make careful decisions about where to spend—such as, we will grt the more expensive flight if it saves on transfers or weird flight time. We will get the more expensive hotel to save thing schlepping. We pay someone to mow our lawn as we hate that, and have someone to come do the home repair projects that make us fight.

Your husband is incredibly cheap. It will take him 2 days to paint that room and it will look like shit. Wake up and enjoy life. This is mental illness.

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Anonymous wrote:When this b !tch gonna respond

She probably got sucked into some home improvement project.

+1

HHI hit $1m this year and being very frugal to save as much as possible. Sick of the rat race and want to slow down soon. 48 and tired.

Anonymous wrote:When this b !tch gonna respond

She probably got sucked into some home improvement project.

When this b !tch gonna respond

We are frugal in cars, clothes and vacations (except we do splurge on skiing). I splurge on gofundmes because I feel really bad for a lot of people and I don't think its fair they don't have someone to help. I enjoy not worrying about money.

When you are wealthy, time becomes more important than money. Your husband might gain satisfaction from saving money, living frugally, and doing projects himself. These are very American middle class values for the typical white make that he might be modeling himself after. However, his (and your) time is far more valuable than these money savings. Pay some else to do some things. If you want another project, buy a vacation home or cabin.