Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 19:49     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My favorite are the dads who pace up and down the sideline like another linesman yelling at their kid wherever they happen to be on the field.


From behind the goal even better.


We had a dad do this to his goalie kid. It was uncomfortable for all within earshot. His wife looked like she wanted to crawl in a hole. I'd bet money he is abusive at home the way he was acting on that field. He seemed completely comfortable loudly berating his 9YO's every. move.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 17:10     Subject: DH yelling too much
Doesn't your club have a policy about this? Our benches players if their parents break the rules.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 16:59     Subject: DH yelling too much
Have him read all of the above.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 16:53     Subject: DH yelling too much
Maybe you guys can start a support group
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 16:50     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:I would suggest trying to give him a "job" to do during the game and also point out that it is hard for the kids to hear/process/execute on yelled instructions during the game.

I also have a hard time just watching quietly when my kid is playing soccer. Your DH has all this nervous energy (regardless of whether you think he should or not, his body is producing adrenaline that needs somewhere to go).

Someone suggested that he could record the game (or certain plays) - that would give him something to do besides yell. Or is there a calmer parent that he could chat with during the game - where they are sharing their observations, but not yelling at the kids.





+100. My husband started recording the games for the team a couple years ago- when he realized how much audio he needed to cut out, that really made him realize how much he needed to curb his yelling/sarcastic comments.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 16:49     Subject: DH yelling too much
Our coach told all the parents that if they did not stop the sideline coaching- their kid was going to get pulled from the game.

All the sideline commentary stopped.

Also one mom passed out lollipops which worked too.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 16:36     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My favorite are the dads who pace up and down the sideline like another linesman yelling at their kid wherever they happen to be on the field.


From behind the goal even better.


Or the parents that switch sidelines to the side their kid is playing on that half (you know, so they can see all their kid’s goals 🙄) and stand right by/behind our parents. I had a couple standing right behind my chair at my sons last game who would not shut up the entire half- and most of it was snarking about the other players on their kid’s team. Glad the parents on my sons team are pretty laid back (and that we only have 1 more year of crazy soccer parents after this season)!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 15:50     Subject: Re:DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:I can't help it. I yell at lazy ass referees. I understand if they miss a call or whatever. Goes with the game, but when ARs won't move up and down the line or the center won't get out of the center circle....I get on them. At least be in position to make the call. If you miss it, you miss it, but at least get your ass close to the play.


I started doing this this year. I've promised myself to stop because it's poor behavior - but I agree it's infuriating. Not the missed call itself as you say, but the fact that the ref is consistently nowhere near the play and can't possibly get the call right. If you're a ref and you can't follow the play, then ref little kids' games instead and leave the full field games to fitter refs. This is especially true for U15 and up boys games, where games can get out of hand if reffed poorly and the kids are big and strong enough to cause serious injuries.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 15:48     Subject: DH yelling too much
Get your kid to ask him to stop.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 15:47     Subject: DH yelling too much
Whiney
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 15:29     Subject: Re:DH yelling too much
I can't help it. I yell at lazy ass referees. I understand if they miss a call or whatever. Goes with the game, but when ARs won't move up and down the line or the center won't get out of the center circle....I get on them. At least be in position to make the call. If you miss it, you miss it, but at least get your ass close to the play.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 15:18     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My favorite are the dads who pace up and down the sideline like another linesman yelling at their kid wherever they happen to be on the field.


From behind the goal even better.


We have one of those dads on my DC's U13 team. It's ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:22     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?


Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.


My daughter’s team played against a Hispanic team in the championship game. All the parents were so loud, yelling, etc. It made the game so much more fun, exciting and enjoyable. My daughter really thrived off from it even though it came from the other team’s parents.


I have boys. These Clubs are the worst.

Physical fights on the field. Parents standing on the field. Death threat to the ref...followed him to the car.

My blonde gringo husband worked in Venezuela and Colombia and the profanity and insults they hurl at KIDS and the ref is awful.

This isn’t cute. It’s ridiculous.

Maybe they don’t end up in multiple red cards and serious injury and parents escorted off the field like with the boys.

And —this just happened again last weekend. It’s f@cking Covid —back the h@ll off the field.


Where? I am a bit doubtful.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:21     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?


Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.


My daughter’s team played against a Hispanic team in the championship game. All the parents were so loud, yelling, etc. It made the game so much more fun, exciting and enjoyable. My daughter really thrived off from it even though it came from the other team’s parents.


I have boys. These Clubs are the worst.

Physical fights on the field. Parents standing on the field. Death threat to the ref...followed him to the car.

My blonde gringo husband worked in Venezuela and Colombia and the profanity and insults they hurl at KIDS and the ref is awful.

This isn’t cute. It’s ridiculous.

Maybe they don’t end up in multiple red cards and serious injury and parents escorted off the field like with the boys.

And —this just happened again last weekend. It’s f@cking Covid —back the h@ll off the field.


I’m not saying it’s cute, but it happens. I doubt it will ever stop. As for the other countries — it’s Futbol. Can’t really blame them for doing their thing...their way. I was in Argentina one time and let my child play with the neighborhood kids and it was insane. The potty mouths on these 10 year olds playing soccer was out of this world! It’s just the way it’s done.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2021 14:12     Subject: DH yelling too much
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any tips to curb dh's yelling? He is absolutely not the worst and our club is already very low key with that kind of unwanted participation (not how I grew up with parents yelling and roaring as a fun past time). He acknowledges that others yell too much and get into a coaching role when they shouldn't but sees himself as "rallying" the team and positively hyping them with a dash of directions...NO I just wish he would shut his mouth. I already keep the game time to myself until the last moment in hopes something else busies him but he asks repeatedly and clears his usually busy schedule to go. He is driving me so crazy!! Its unnecessary for him to do anything but his already ample clapping. Any tips on how to reach someone who sees the flaws in the other dads but not himself?


Lol. I’m Hispanic and soccer is in our blood to the point where even my mother (ds’ grandma) is yelling from time to time. My son plays in a predominantly latinx club and we are “THAT” club lol. Just can’t help it. It’s really about the kids experience. Most kids hate parents yelling. But the kids on my ds’ current team seem to thrive off the pressure. They do very well in EDP division one.


My daughter’s team played against a Hispanic team in the championship game. All the parents were so loud, yelling, etc. It made the game so much more fun, exciting and enjoyable. My daughter really thrived off from it even though it came from the other team’s parents.


I have boys. These Clubs are the worst.

Physical fights on the field. Parents standing on the field. Death threat to the ref...followed him to the car.

My blonde gringo husband worked in Venezuela and Colombia and the profanity and insults they hurl at KIDS and the ref is awful.

This isn’t cute. It’s ridiculous.

Maybe they don’t end up in multiple red cards and serious injury and parents escorted off the field like with the boys.

And —this just happened again last weekend. It’s f@cking Covid —back the h@ll off the field.


Yep that happens too lol. Parents show up with Coronas in their little coolers. It is what it is. I never heard death threats, but perhaps it’s true. It’s definitely not for the feint of heart.