Anonymous
Post 04/09/2021 09:55     Subject: Good college for non partier child
Yeah.

Many "party" nights end in vomiting, pregnancy, STI's, rape, or injuries (think crashes, falling off high objects).

So having a "sloppy" drunk is rather a euphemism.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 23:48     Subject: Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mommy needs to loosen the apron strings a little.


Some posters do not get that the KID might be driving this. We drink, and drank in college but my child does not want to . I am respecting HER wishes (not vice versa). Stop imposing your stereotypes on other families!


Exactly, while I don’t want my DS to be a sloppy drunk, we wouldn’t care if he partied some, but it’s not his personality at all. I mean maybe at some point in college he will actually have a beer or two at a party but he’s just not going to do a 180. This is who he is and is consistent for him.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 23:34     Subject: Good college for non partier child
For you parents who sniff at options that may not sound like ‘a blast!’ Please recognize even your child may it want to follow in the glory days of mom or dad’s expectations to go crazy. Plenty can go wrong with black out drunk as a right of passage- and may even cause depression in students who find they can’t cope with the wilder social norms.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 23:07     Subject: Re:Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:OP, where have your older kids gone? I have a 10th grader that is definitely not a partier, not going to be a drinker, and I’m trying to help him put together a list of schools. I think he’s oblivious enough to these things that he doesn’t quite appreciate the issue.

Schools I want him to consider include W&M, Mary Washington, St Mary’s of MD, Franklin and Marshall, Rochester, CWRU, and then more reach schools like Vassar, Rice, CMU, Wesleyan, Haverford and Swarthmore.

Would be interested in what folks think of this list...


I have a non-partying freshman at Mary Washington who says it's great to not have the pressure.
The school's president said they are not party school, but they do have fun.
Thankfully they had very low covid numbers. At some point, all cases were traced to off-campus gatherings.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 20:01     Subject: Re:Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:William & Mary. My non-partner found another non-partier and they have a group of non-partying friends. Even in pandemic school, they have a robust social life.


Sounds like a non-partying blast.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 19:40     Subject: Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:Mommy needs to loosen the apron strings a little.


Some posters do not get that the KID might be driving this. We drink, and drank in college but my child does not want to . I am respecting HER wishes (not vice versa). Stop imposing your stereotypes on other families!
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 18:57     Subject: Good college for non partier child
Mommy needs to loosen the apron strings a little.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 18:57     Subject: Re:Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:Is Pitt a big party school?

I wouldn't know because even though I went to Pitt in the 90s, I wasn't into the party scene and was able to find my people/have a good social life without partying. But I do remember friends going to Zelda's constantly
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2021 18:54     Subject: Good college for non partier child
Anonymous wrote:Lots of people are going to suggest places like Grinnell, Carleton, Swarthmore, Macalester, Haverford, etc: small colleges that attract bookish kids.

Don't forget places like Michigan, Wisconsin, UNC, Berkeley and UCLA. Yes there are dozens of parties every weekend at big state schools. There also are thousands of students who don't go to them.


+1. I went to a huge sec school. Was involved in Greek life. Drinking wasn't a big thing for me, and while I was friends with many people, I was closest with those who weren't as into that. Lots of places could work, good luck!