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Anonymous wrote:This is totally your daughter's fault. I'd be angry with her, not the mom. 14 is old enough to know that you already said no so she has to check with you first.

I think doing nails at a sleepover isn’t something a mom should ask a teen’s parent for permission. She’s 14! Come on! Your daughter knew you didn’t want her to get gel nails and did it anyways. You need to talk to your daughter NOT the other mom.

+1 I don't like gel nails either but this isn't questionable parenting by the other mom, it's your daughter doing the opposite of what you told her to do and rubbing it in your face by sending you a picture of it.

I don't think the daughter was rubbing it in OP's face. It sounds like the daughter had no idea that OP would mind. Either she thought OP said no because of cost, or maybe she forgot that conversation, or thought it was about something different? (I'm a woman, but I don' have a clear idea of the difference between gel nails, acrylic nails, whatever nails). She was just happy about it. I think there must have been some miscommunication between OP and daughter, but in any event, the mom didn't do anything wrong.

OP says she told her daughter no about gel nails because they're bad for you, etc. Then OP came on here to post about it being a mark of poor parenting for the sleepover mom, so I doubt she was breezy and casual in her "no" to her kid. Somehow I doubt that the kid who didn't text for permission but did text to show off the finished product was miscommunicating (who texts their mom to show off a sleepover manicure? Who texts their mom during a sleepover at all?). My point is that OP needs to lay off the other mom because she did nothing wrong. If there's a come to Jesus to be had, it's with her daughter.

"Gel nails are atrocious". What does this mean? You don't have "gel nails" just a different type of polish on TOP of regular nails. I think some people are confused...

Anonymous wrote:Gel isn’t that big of a deal once and a while imo. It’s not like she got acrylics or something.

Agree. Another mom did it. She didn’t go to a salon and you won’t be taking her back for maintenance- which she knows. Big deal

At 14, it was your daughter's decision. Now she needs to figure out how she is going to maintain them, or how to get them off when the time comes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is totally your daughter's fault. I'd be angry with her, not the mom. 14 is old enough to know that you already said no so she has to check with you first.

I think doing nails at a sleepover isn’t something a mom should ask a teen’s parent for permission. She’s 14! Come on! Your daughter knew you didn’t want her to get gel nails and did it anyways. You need to talk to your daughter NOT the other mom.

+1 I don't like gel nails either but this isn't questionable parenting by the other mom, it's your daughter doing the opposite of what you told her to do and rubbing it in your face by sending you a picture of it.

I don't think the daughter was rubbing it in OP's face. It sounds like the daughter had no idea that OP would mind. Either she thought OP said no because of cost, or maybe she forgot that conversation, or thought it was about something different? (I'm a woman, but I don' have a clear idea of the difference between gel nails, acrylic nails, whatever nails). She was just happy about it. I think there must have been some miscommunication between OP and daughter, but in any event, the mom didn't do anything wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Was this an at home gel set? I mean those things are barely above the stage of regular painted nails.

Regardless, you are overreacting to all of it. Definitely don't talk to the other mother who did something completely normal at a sleepover. Sure take it up with your daughter but what are you going to say? You need to check with me before getting your nails done at a sleepover?

You know that sounds crazy right?

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Painting your nails is a really normal slumber party activity for tweens and teens. She didn't pierce the kid's ears or give her a tattoo; gel polish is not permanent. And one-time use isn't going to hurt anyone. If anything, your daughter will see that it's not good for her nails, which is a pretty easy way to learn that lesson.

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I’d honestly be a little insulted if another mom asked me for permission to gel polish my 14 yr old. Obviously she would only ask if she thought I was a helicopter mom.

It’s nail polish that lasts a little longer than normal polish. You’re insane OP.

I don’t let my DD (13) get gel nails at the salon....however this is different. At 14, it’s not typical for parents to contact other parents to get permission. Usually kids would text their parents and ask if it’s ok. (Not the parents hosting!) Gel nails are especially innocuous (if it’s done at home). I think you are overthinking/overreacting. Of all the land mines that gave our teenagers....pot, vaping, pills, sex....GEL nails is what is upsetting you? Perhaps it’s a good time to rethink your areas of concern.

Anonymous wrote:What’s wrong with gel polish? You don’t even have to buff the nail. It lasts longer than regular polish.

I don’t get the issue.

UV light I guess.

Put some sunscreen on before starting the manicure. Seems way overboard

At age 14 your daughter should have a sense of body autonomy and be able to say yes or no to the gel nails

Anonymous wrote:This is totally your daughter's fault. I'd be angry with her, not the mom. 14 is old enough to know that you already said no so she has to check with you first.

Totally agree with this. By 14 a kid knows what they're allowed to do and not allowed to do. My kid would have said "My mom won't let me; I'll get in trouble."

What’s wrong with gel polish? You don’t even have to buff the nail. It lasts longer than regular polish.

I don’t get the issue.

Anonymous wrote:Was this an at home gel set? I mean those things are barely above the stage of regular painted nails.

Regardless, you are overreacting to all of it. Definitely don't talk to the other mother who did something completely normal at a sleepover. Sure take it up with your daughter but what are you going to say? You need to check with me before getting your nails done at a sleepover?

You know that sounds crazy right?

+1

Painting your nails is a really normal slumber party activity for tweens and teens. She didn't pierce the kid's ears or give her a tattoo; gel polish is not permanent. And one-time use isn't going to hurt anyone. If anything, your daughter will see that it's not good for her nails, which is a pretty easy way to learn that lesson.

Anonymous wrote:I would never think of asking a high school if she has permission to get her nails painted. Lighten up.

It's nail polish not a tattoo.

+1, it's nail polish that takes slightly more time to remove than regular nail polish. I cannot possibly imagine why this is such a big deal, or why people are saying things like "gel nails are atrocious." When I read your post title I assumed your daughter was little but she's 14. It sounds super controlling to me to not trust your daughter to manage a manicure.