Anonymous wrote:Are you setting him up to lie by asking when you already know the answer?

Personally, I would just properly manage the available screen time on his devices, boom done.

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Anonymous wrote:OP put his electronics on a timer. They will shut off automatically. Ie no access to internet between say 6pm to 4pm next day.

We did, my kids hated it. But no fights no lies. Dad software guy.

PP, could you share how you put the electronics on a timer? Or, those who mentioned that they were able to time out a device from their internet connection, could you explain how you did that?

As for those who think I am being "overdramatic," it is a change to go from having a scrupulously honest kid to one who lies. I won't go into examples, but up until very recently, DS was very a scrupulously honest kid. When he first started lying about video games, we had lots of "corny" talks about trust and what lies to do relationships. Obviously, it's not sinking it as yet.

He is changing. He's becoming a tween and pushing limits. I'm just sad that it includes lying and creates a situation where DH and I have to do more disciplining.

We're not so upset that he slipped up on the video games, and BTW, he knew exactly how much time he'd gone over by, it wasn't an issue of his not being aware of the time.

We're disappointed that he lied about it, and kept on lying.

Ok, so you didn’t like how people responded to your original post (and yes, you need to chill out with the use of the word heartbroken) so you then decide to come back and introduce other reasons why you’re right? Take your lumps, everyone here is saying this is your fault, stop failing your child.

NP. PP, did anyone ever tell you you're kind of a jerk? Not everyone is saying it's OP's fault or that she's failing him.

It's the age, and she is clearly transitioning into parenting a tween who is more likely to test more limits.

Mean moms like you suck. You're bent on pulling other moms down, not being helpful. Parenting is a hard job. I hope the next time you're experiencing a challenge, you get more compassion than you're giving.

Many posters are saying that she is setting up the child to fail, it’s not just me. She is poorly parenting in this situation. Don’t hand your kid a stick of dynamite and a lighter and then kvetch when something blows up and blame the kid!

It’s also pretty lame to post something, get responses that you don’t like, then come back and insist that we’re all wrong for responding to the facts that were in the original post. Either include everything from the jump so people can make full assessment from the jump, OR post, but don’t get mad and try to justify/backpedal by throwing in things that may have changed the original assessment. If you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen.

You’re also no better than the rest of us for telling people they suck, so get off your high horse.

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Anonymous wrote:OP put his electronics on a timer. They will shut off automatically. Ie no access to internet between say 6pm to 4pm next day.

We did, my kids hated it. But no fights no lies. Dad software guy.

PP, could you share how you put the electronics on a timer? Or, those who mentioned that they were able to time out a device from their internet connection, could you explain how you did that?

As for those who think I am being "overdramatic," it is a change to go from having a scrupulously honest kid to one who lies. I won't go into examples, but up until very recently, DS was very a scrupulously honest kid. When he first started lying about video games, we had lots of "corny" talks about trust and what lies to do relationships. Obviously, it's not sinking it as yet.

He is changing. He's becoming a tween and pushing limits. I'm just sad that it includes lying and creates a situation where DH and I have to do more disciplining.

We're not so upset that he slipped up on the video games, and BTW, he knew exactly how much time he'd gone over by, it wasn't an issue of his not being aware of the time.

We're disappointed that he lied about it, and kept on lying.

Ok, so you didn’t like how people responded to your original post (and yes, you need to chill out with the use of the word heartbroken) so you then decide to come back and introduce other reasons why you’re right? Take your lumps, everyone here is saying this is your fault, stop failing your child.

NP. PP, did anyone ever tell you you're kind of a jerk? Not everyone is saying it's OP's fault or that she's failing him.

It's the age, and she is clearly transitioning into parenting a tween who is more likely to test more limits.

Mean moms like you suck. You're bent on pulling other moms down, not being helpful. Parenting is a hard job. I hope the next time you're experiencing a challenge, you get more compassion than you're giving.

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Anonymous wrote:OP put his electronics on a timer. They will shut off automatically. Ie no access to internet between say 6pm to 4pm next day.

We did, my kids hated it. But no fights no lies. Dad software guy.

PP, could you share how you put the electronics on a timer? Or, those who mentioned that they were able to time out a device from their internet connection, could you explain how you did that?

As for those who think I am being "overdramatic," it is a change to go from having a scrupulously honest kid to one who lies. I won't go into examples, but up until very recently, DS was very a scrupulously honest kid. When he first started lying about video games, we had lots of "corny" talks about trust and what lies to do relationships. Obviously, it's not sinking it as yet.

He is changing. He's becoming a tween and pushing limits. I'm just sad that it includes lying and creates a situation where DH and I have to do more disciplining.

We're not so upset that he slipped up on the video games, and BTW, he knew exactly how much time he'd gone over by, it wasn't an issue of his not being aware of the time.

We're disappointed that he lied about it, and kept on lying.

Ok, so you didn’t like how people responded to your original post (and yes, you need to chill out with the use of the word heartbroken) so you then decide to come back and introduce other reasons why you’re right? Take your lumps, everyone here is saying this is your fault, stop failing your child.

Anonymous wrote:It's an addiction. Scientifically proven.

I'd say that every time he lies, he goes a month without screen time. To break the habit.

But honestly, an 11 year old should be reading books most of the time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP put his electronics on a timer. They will shut off automatically. Ie no access to internet between say 6pm to 4pm next day.

We did, my kids hated it. But no fights no lies. Dad software guy.

PP, could you share how you put the electronics on a timer? Or, those who mentioned that they were able to time out a device from their internet connection, could you explain how you did that?

As for those who think I am being "overdramatic," it is a change to go from having a scrupulously honest kid to one who lies. I won't go into examples, but up until very recently, DS was very a scrupulously honest kid. When he first started lying about video games, we had lots of "corny" talks about trust and what lies to do relationships. Obviously, it's not sinking it as yet.

He is changing. He's becoming a tween and pushing limits. I'm just sad that it includes lying and creates a situation where DH and I have to do more disciplining.

We're not so upset that he slipped up on the video games, and BTW, he knew exactly how much time he'd gone over by, it wasn't an issue of his not being aware of the time.

We're disappointed that he lied about it, and kept on lying.

Anonymous wrote:OP, wasn't that your kid just few years ago? When you were happy he is so tech savy?


"it is good for their brain.. they said..

Anonymous wrote:If you asked me about my screen time, there is no way in hell I could accurately answer without looking it up.

Anonymous wrote:11-year old DS has begun lying about exceeding screen time limits.

We can trace how much time he spends on screen, but he lies about it anyway, even knowing he can be caught.

I’m heartbroken, as he’s been a pretty truthful child until screen time battles began this year.

DH and I have agreed that DS’s computer and iPad is off limits for the next week except for DL.

Any ideas on appropriate consequences and how he can get back the honest kid we used to have?

Anonymous wrote:If you asked me about my screen time, there is no way in hell I could accurately answer without looking it up.