I feel like all the people jumping on OP must be robots who have no emotions at all.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is the son?

How old?

Don't matter.

Anonymous wrote:He should have discussed with you at the very least. This would be a red flag for me.

The red flag here is your controlling nature. HUGE red flag.

Anonymous wrote:How old is the son?

How old?

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but you're second fiddle to the son. Accept it.

OP here. He discussed the plans with the friends but not me. That's the issue.

Trying to come between him and his kid after 6 months only is not a good look.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but you're second fiddle to the son. Accept it.

OP here. He discussed the plans with the friends but not me. That's the issue.

How long was he single before you started dating? Besides the fact that it's vacation with his son, he may just not be used to considering another adult in his plans. I've been with my BF for about 7 months now and he was single for 2 years prior and I was widowed 2 years prior. We both had to get used to considering one another in our plans and decisions. It became much more clear once he essentially moved in a couple months ago and we started discussing our days and weekend plans more in depth.

Sorry, but you're second fiddle to the son. Accept it.

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Anonymous wrote:The son can't get 1-on-1 time with you there. Father-son relationships are incredibly important. You have only been in this thing 6 months. The kid deserves time with his dad only. If the divorce is fresh, even more so. He doesn't want some woman he barely knows tagging along when he is trying to bond with his dad.

That's fine but have a conversation with the person you're in a relationship with. This is something where talking is important - and if it's not important to the other person, that indicates you're not important to them.

If he's newly divorced, she may not be. His priorities may be with his kid and making sure he is fine.

Then that's the answer! He's not really IN this relationship. He's got more stuff going on. There's nothing wrong with that - unless he hasn't communicated it to OP or has led her to believe otherwise. But they still need to talk.

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Anonymous wrote:The son can't get 1-on-1 time with you there. Father-son relationships are incredibly important. You have only been in this thing 6 months. The kid deserves time with his dad only. If the divorce is fresh, even more so. He doesn't want some woman he barely knows tagging along when he is trying to bond with his dad.

That's fine but have a conversation with the person you're in a relationship with. This is something where talking is important - and if it's not important to the other person, that indicates you're not important to them.

If he's newly divorced, she may not be. His priorities may be with his kid and making sure he is fine.

I dated someone that always celebrated his birthday with his son. I found it admirable and it increased my respect for him. If you want to do something together, maybe just... discuss it?

Anonymous wrote:The son can't get 1-on-1 time with you there. Father-son relationships are incredibly important. You have only been in this thing 6 months. The kid deserves time with his dad only. If the divorce is fresh, even more so. He doesn't want some woman he barely knows tagging along when he is trying to bond with his dad.

That's fine but have a conversation with the person you're in a relationship with. This is something where talking is important - and if it's not important to the other person, that indicates you're not important to them.

The son can't get 1-on-1 time with you there. Father-son relationships are incredibly important. You have only been in this thing 6 months. The kid deserves time with his dad only. If the divorce is fresh, even more so. He doesn't want some woman he barely knows tagging along when he is trying to bond with his dad.

Are the family friends all male? Is this a boys’ trip?

Either way not a big deal and you may get invited if still together closer to the trip date.

Anonymous wrote:Way too soon for him to invite you for a trip with his son.

Totally agree. He’s being a good dad. Think of it that way.