My super anxious and very intelligent kid was like this. Now in her 20s she has been through therapy and turned a corner. Doing very well and is eating super healthy.

Get her to therapy first. Give her love and good delicious food choices all the time so when she needs comfort she can reach for healthier options because they are available.

My kid loves to snack so I put delicious morsels in small plates with good presentation...fruit cut up in decorative styles, nicely spices food with pretty garnishes etc., Salads with interesting toppings...and she feels pampered and knows that I am around.

When the motivation comes from within then things will become easier. My Dads skin and hair has never looked prettier and I know that it has motivated her to continue eating healthy.

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of food and weight issues and now a daughter, and I don’t plan to try to trick her into anything. I’m going to talk to her a lot about why exercise is healthy and extra weight isn’t, and try to frame food as fuel, but I’m under no illusions that I can gently steer her clear of the genetic and psychological challenges that likely await her.

I guess what I’m saying is you can’t solve this for her by “dragging her to yoga.” She’s old enough to understand the scope of the challenge and the science that we know about but if you try to tell her this is just a thing about moving a little more each day and she will have “fixed” it then I think she will know that is bull.

LOL! How naive. Your tactic is exactly what will push your dd into an eating disorder.
You are doing to tell her that being overweight is not healthy and to use food as fuel? To recap, you will encourage her to eat less, not to enjoy food, and to exercise a lot?
If I have ever heard of a recipe for how to cause your dd an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, this is it!