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Anonymous wrote:Being poor can hurt you in dating as a woman. You will be assumed to be a gold digger. In HS —HIGH SCHOOL— I dated a boy twice and in the car ride home, his dad asked me what I thought about prenups. I had no idea what that even was.

LMFAO that's so inappropriate and weird! What a freak.

Op, I don't think it really matters that much, but it kind of does. Men prefer women who are from similar backgrounds/education levels. Someone on YBM tried to tell me once "Any woman can marry rich, a billionaire would marry a Target check-out girl if he could!" LOL no, bb. A billionaire would be looking for an Ivy League MBA who speaks 25 different languages.

Can a man chime in? No trolls. Do rich men really want an overachiever who speaks different languages and looks dont matter?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

You think that divorced men with kids should be looking to only date women who can help support him? It’s one thing if a woman has debt and is broke. But saying he doesn’t want to date a woman because she only makes 70k and he has three kids to put through college....that’s implying he needs a second income to support HIS kids. He’s looking to marry someone who can help put his kids through college. That’s not responsible. That’s gold digger ish.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

I actually don’t think this is terrible. It sounds responsible.

Anonymous wrote:I personally know a few men who sought out high earners (all three women are specialists physicians, butt ugly with so so personalities) for marriage. The three men are all handsome and professional (but none are physicians and earn far less) could have easily attracted more beautiful wives. Always wondered why??

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More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

https://uscode.house.gov/view.xhtml?path=%2Fprelim%40title18%2Fpart1%2Fchapter115&edition=prelim

What?

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

Anonymous wrote:I have a five figure salary do gooder job and live in a one bedroom apartment, but have a net worth of around eight million due to family money left to me in trust. I have about a million extra that is not in trust.

I was once dating a divorced dad with a few teenage kids. He mentioned, when he was breaking up with me, that he didn’t make a lot of money (that is how he phrased it - my guess based on his job would be maybe 150k to 200k) and had three kids to put through college. That was one of the things he listed as being a reason to break up with me - he seemed to be implying that I didn’t make enough money. He didn’t know about the family money. I was so in shock that he would actually complain about someone’s salary in a break up convo that I didn’t say anything. But basically I have millions of dollars and one of the reasons he dumped me was that he thought I didn’t make or have enough money. I wouldn’t want someone to decide to date me or not date me on the size of my trust fund, which is another reason I didn’t speak up. But...yeah. That guy, at least seemed bothered that I didn’t have enough money.

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Anonymous wrote:I had two high school school crushes not reciprocate. When I went to a more prestigious grad school years later I suddenly heard from both within a month. That's when I figured out my family did not have enough money for them to date me, and the prestigious grad school seemed to make up for that.

Was also dumped by another boyfriend in college, after he reloaded my family was LMC.

This is what happens when your family is LMC but believes in education and sends you to private schools. I received a good education but had absolutely little to no dating life.

I do think this is common in UMC families. Hopefully you have had better experiences since then.

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Anonymous wrote:

More than a few have dreams of being SAHDs or trophy husbands for wealthy women.

Riiight. Source?

https://uscode.house.gov/view.xhtml?path=%2Fprelim%40title18%2Fpart1%2Fchapter115&edition=prelim