Anonymous
03/06/2021 08:34
Subject: Why am I so triggered by my child's anxious behaviors?
As a child you were unable to be protected from your mother’s anxiety. Your irritation with your daughter’s similar behaviors stems from the independence you now have and the desire to shut it out. Talking to a therapist may be help to separate these two things and learn how to empathize with your daughter. If you find the empathy piece the irritation will lessen.
Anonymous
03/06/2021 04:45
Subject: Why am I so triggered by my child's anxious behaviors?
Distance, distance, distance. We are too much around and available to our kids these days. Some children want attention at any cost and always giving it to them does not help them learn to develop their internal reserves.
Anonymous
03/06/2021 04:41
Subject: Why am I so triggered by my child's anxious behaviors?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you ever think you are part of the reason your child is anxious?
You can't chill the eff out about this, but your kid should?
Is your kid in therapy and on meds?
If the answer is no, why not?
Why are you not seeking therapy too?
Yes, of course I have. I know most of the problem must be with me - I want to figure it out and do better.
I don't think my child's anxiety is serious enough to require meds or therapy. I know therapy would help me, and I've had some in the past, but frankly it is expensive, and it is so hard to find a good one. Perhaps I'm just procrastinating and making excuses.
Think about it this way, OP — all the time you put it off and wait makes both of you suffer longer. A therapist will teach you effective techniques for handling your child’s anxiety. Your child takes her anxiety everywhere she goes, and it likely is affecting her in school, too. Ask your child’s pediatrician, teacher or a school counselor for recommendations.