Anonymous
02/19/2021 20:04
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The only person who sounds bitter and angry is OP.
I've got no skin in this game. Just shower thoughts.
- OP
I’ve got no skin in this game either but your post sounded bitter. Like who cares if they cheated with someone better looking. Cheating sucks and so you decide to focus on disproving what some cheated on spouse may say about OW looks? What’s the overall point you’re trying to make if you don’t have a skin in this game? It’s like at work, some people lose the big picture when they get mired in a small detail.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 19:47
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:The couple I know is pretty darn dysfunctional. I know the story because we've been friends for years, but on Facebook it's oh my hubby is my everything, my wife is my best friend, we're so lucky look at is drinking daquiris n Maui aren't we beautiful people. I think they're just addicted to their own drama.
They both cheat?
Anonymous
02/19/2021 19:46
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We only know of two couples, I don't think the trope plays out in the cases we know of.
1. Husband cheated on the wife after first baby and through second pregnancy and toddler stage. Wife is successful, pretty enough, very nice woman, but she gained a lot of weight in the past 10 years, maybe 100lbs. OW was 10 years younger than the husband and stunning, very slender, successful for her early career stage, and they met in a running group. The couple decided to try and work it out but all the dirty laundry got aired in our social circle and they don't seem happy now. I don't know if he cheated again.
2. Husband cheated with his former grad student, wife left him after kids went to college, he married the OW, she is 30 years younger but honestly nothing special looks-wise. She is pleasant enough but they are social pariahs and don't understand why 'no one invites them to anything'.
What is it about running groups and affairs!! I know multiple people that have had affairs within their running groups.
Endorphins + Sweat + Pheremones + Shared Joy = Delusional Delight?
Anonymous
02/19/2021 19:45
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:We only know of two couples, I don't think the trope plays out in the cases we know of.
1. Husband cheated on the wife after first baby and through second pregnancy and toddler stage. Wife is successful, pretty enough, very nice woman, but she gained a lot of weight in the past 10 years, maybe 100lbs. OW was 10 years younger than the husband and stunning, very slender, successful for her early career stage, and they met in a running group. The couple decided to try and work it out but all the dirty laundry got aired in our social circle and they don't seem happy now. I don't know if he cheated again.
2. Husband cheated with his former grad student, wife left him after kids went to college, he married the OW, she is 30 years younger but honestly nothing special looks-wise. She is pleasant enough but they are social pariahs and don't understand why 'no one invites them to anything'.
What is it about running groups and affairs!! I know multiple people that have had affairs within their running groups.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 18:18
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
The couple I know is pretty darn dysfunctional. I know the story because we've been friends for years, but on Facebook it's oh my hubby is my everything, my wife is my best friend, we're so lucky look at is drinking daquiris n Maui aren't we beautiful people. I think they're just addicted to their own drama.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:18
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
We only know of two couples, I don't think the trope plays out in the cases we know of.
1. Husband cheated on the wife after first baby and through second pregnancy and toddler stage. Wife is successful, pretty enough, very nice woman, but she gained a lot of weight in the past 10 years, maybe 100lbs. OW was 10 years younger than the husband and stunning, very slender, successful for her early career stage, and they met in a running group. The couple decided to try and work it out but all the dirty laundry got aired in our social circle and they don't seem happy now. I don't know if he cheated again.
2. Husband cheated with his former grad student, wife left him after kids went to college, he married the OW, she is 30 years younger but honestly nothing special looks-wise. She is pleasant enough but they are social pariahs and don't understand why 'no one invites them to anything'.
1. Husband cheated on the wife after first baby and through second pregnancy and toddler stage. Wife is successful, pretty enough, very nice woman, but she gained a lot of weight in the past 10 years, maybe 100lbs. OW was 10 years younger than the husband and stunning, very slender, successful for her early career stage, and they met in a running group. The couple decided to try and work it out but all the dirty laundry got aired in our social circle and they don't seem happy now. I don't know if he cheated again.
2. Husband cheated with his former grad student, wife left him after kids went to college, he married the OW, she is 30 years younger but honestly nothing special looks-wise. She is pleasant enough but they are social pariahs and don't understand why 'no one invites them to anything'.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:13
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:I was once the OW ( not proud of it ) I once asked him how and why he started cheating. He said he thinks he just wanted someone to talk to. A year into the marriage he realized he made a mistake. She hid a lot of mental health stuff from him.
Well he should have divorced instead of f@cking you. Remember a cheater lies to everyone. They lie to the OW just as much (if not more than) the wife. I’d take what he told you with a grain of salt. Most likely BS to get in your pants and feel sorry for him.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:13
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
The people that I know have done it, it’s been about the connection and not what they looked like. There was a connection in their own relationship missing that they got from the other person.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:12
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:No. The only people I know cheating are men in the medical field. Typical tale as old as time. 40-50 something surgeon/Dr becomes smitten with 20-30 something cute nurse/PA. Starts affair, leaves wife and starts family #2. The women are much younger than wife, single, very pretty and usually transition to SAHM.
I don’t know any cheating married women.
Isn’t that the storyline on that sweet magnolia show?
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:11
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
I was once the OW ( not proud of it ) I once asked him how and why he started cheating. He said he thinks he just wanted someone to talk to. A year into the marriage he realized he made a mistake. She hid a lot of mental health stuff from him.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:06
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:Internet affairs: always a downgrade. Classy women don’t usually whore themselves out on cheating websites.
Office affairs: mixed bag. Usually wife is a SAHM and husband spent too much time at work. It can go either way.
Old man/young woman: she is usually not hotter than the wife was at the same age. Youth is only thing on her side.
I guess we really need a thread about the OM!!
How do they compare to the husband’s???
+1
and, yes, please elaborate on OM. I'm tired of the sexist BS. Are the men hotter than their husbands or just richer?
Anonymous
02/19/2021 17:03
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think we can leave it at: the cheaters are morally corrupt, dishonest liars. That’s ugly no matter the outer shell.
My mom always said, you got to remove any ugly on the inside if you want to let that beauty glow on the outside. Mama knows!
Hiding in the shadows and gaslighting and lying is not a good look. Says so much negative about a person.
Word.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 16:55
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Generalize much? What does attractive mean? Even high level escorts say that many men hire them not necessarily for sex, but for someone to talk to.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 16:48
Subject: Re:Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:The ones who come out publicly, i.e. leave their wives usually affair up. The ones you don't see affair down.
True. And they hope nobody they know ever sees her
Humiliation.
Anonymous
02/19/2021 16:34
Subject: Question for people who actually know cheating couples
Anonymous wrote:I feel like I’m the only person who didn’t aware of cheating going on with anybody I know. Literally can’t think of a single person ever. I don’t want in on the drama, and yet I feel left out!
I only know people through work. Outside of that I don’t know of anyone.